I have to wonder how in the world people have the balls in 2012 to step forward to a counter at a fast-food restaurant to show their support of that restaurant's anti-gay stance.
Not that I'm giving these beach-ball-sized ballsy people any credit for what I'd call real courage. I sure am giving them credit though for having the balls to so loudly and proudly proclaim, "I hate gays!"
Really? That's still okay to do?
I was talking to one of my kids about this the other day. Maybe it was Lily. Owen wanted to go to Chick-Fil-A because they're the only ones in town who still have a kid play-area.
"No," Lily said to him. "We can't go to Chick-Fil-A. They're mean."
We were talking about how no one in their right mind these days would openly support such a bigoted business if that bigotry were directed towards people of a different race. That there are still plenty of asshole racists but at least in these days and times people KNOW it's just not acceptable to spew that hatred and fear and all of the other things which bigotry lets sit under its umbrella out in public.
But obviously, it's still fine and acceptable to do the same when the object of the hatred and fear is directed towards the gay and lesbian and bisexual and transgendered community. How can this be? Have we not come any way at all in the spirit of acceptance?
We HAVE come to a point in our society where even the most hateful of racists know that they can think whatever they want to think but that their views are indeed labeled by such words as "racist" or "bigoted," and in the general scheme of things, they need to keep those views to themselves although I have to say that some of those people are not very good at that. Still, even the Klan has the decency to cover their heads.
But if you are prejudiced against the LBGT community, it's just fine and dandy to publicly proclaim your views and that just shows how far we still need to go.
I blame religion for a lot of this public display of intolerance. It's right there, buried in good old Leviticus with all of the laws about eating shellfish and how it's okay to kill your child if she mouths off at you or your wife if she touches your food while she's on her period or whatever bullshit laws that no one pays any attention to any more. Yeah, it's there. It's an abomination for a man to lie with another man as if with a woman. I think that's the general gist of the whole deal.
But people can reach in there and pluck out that little gem of a law and hold it up like a banner to rationalize their hatred and they can actually say, "I'm doing God's work."
Well, that god can bite my ass.
I guess I have a higher opinion of people in general than they deserve. I guess I have been thinking that because some states are admitting that all people are deserving of civil rights, including the LGBT community, that things are changing. That because brave people like Barney Frank exist things are changing. That because more and more gay and lesbian and bisexual and transgendered people are coming out that folks will start realizing that instead of being demons, these people are their sons and daughters and sisters and brothers and neighbors and coworkers and obviously NOT demon sinners.
I guess I thought that because of people like Ellen and Rosie and those cute gay guys on Project Runway (there would be no Bravo or Lifetime TV without "the gays") that people would start feeling less threatened, less in need of being all fucked up about it.
I guess I was fucking wrong, wasn't I?
It is obviously completely okay in the eyes of a whole lot of people for any asshole to walk up to a counter and say, "Gimme some waffles fries. I hate queers too!"
Lily and I are going to take the boys to the library today. There's a world-wide event happening where women all over the planet are going to nurse their babies in public at a certain time and Lily is going to nurse Gibson. You have to register and everything. It's going to be awesome!
I was just talking to her a few minutes ago and I said, "After that, let's go to Chick-Fil-A and kiss."
"Gross," Lily said. "It's not incest day."
"They don't have to know we're related," I told her.
Well, I don't have time to polish this up and make is shine. I have to get to town and get me some baby therapy. But I did want to point this out- that we have a long way to go. I would also like to point out that the public display of hatred and bigotry is never, ever cool and that doing so says nothing in this world except, "I am a bigot and a hateful person."
It doesn't mean you're brave or have balls. It just means you're an asshole.
So go ahead, put your money where your mouth is you hateful bigots.
I'm going to be at an event where babies are putting their mouths on breasts which is a whole other discussion and again- I can't even believe it's still UP for discussion, that women should be allowed to nurse their babies wherever and whenever they're hungry. I'm pretty sure the Bible doesn't even tell you shouldn't do that.
Happy Friday, y'all.