Well, I think we all knew that this is what was going to happen last night. And it turned out to be a really sweet and fun meal and since I always cook too much, there was plenty for all. We hadn't sat at a table with Jason for quite awhile and it made me happy to have him join us. I think that Owen and Gibson really appreciated it too and I know that Mr. Moon was glad to have him. Jason is a good guy and he is the father of three of our grandchildren and always will be. Divorce can be a destructive thing for a family or, it can be something that yes, is hard and often heartbreaking, but can be far less devastating if all the parties involved can remember that love is what brought two people together to begin with and love is what created the family and love for the children is the overwhelming thing above all that needs to be maintained.
When my mother divorced my father, I was five and did not see the man again until I was thirty. In those days, there was really no push for the father (usually) to maintain a relationship with the children after a divorce. When I divorced my own husband, my children were very young and I knew that no way in hell was I going to let them grow up without knowing their father and we worked it out. It wasn't always easy but I think that it was worth every bit of the emotional work both my ex- and I put into it and to this day, all of us are on very good terms including Hank and May's stepmother and their Daddy Glen.
Now Lily and Jason are having to do that intricate dance and again, it is not easy but by god, they make it work and they even all go on vacation with each other, current partners and all. I truly admire that.
And on with the story...
I slept so late this morning but Gibson slept even later than I did. Oh wait, let me back up- that sweet, sweet child asked me to read him two of his old childhood favorite books before bed and that made me happier than anything he could have done. We read "The Little Red Hen Makes A Pizza" and "Professor Wormbog in Search For The Zipperump-a-Zoo."
But you already knew those would be the two books, didn't you?
Gibson did the voices of the slackers, the dog, duck, and cat who refused to help the Little Red Hen do anything until she asked them if they'd like to share her pizza. He's been doing this ever since he was so little. He knows how much I love reading out loud and I think he is proud that he is the grandchild who still asks me to read these books.
So yes, as I said, he slept late, I slept late, but pancakes and eggs and bacon were made and eaten before noon so all was well. Mr. Moon had to go do something deer-related after breakfast and so Gibson and I had a good chat and then I got to some chores while he did the virtual reality thing. I took him home later on and Lily and Maggie were about to go have a girl's lunch at Wendy's and Ms. Magnolia asked me to come too and despite having vowed a few months ago that I would never darken Wendy's door again, I went because it was Maggie.
She played her first game of soccer this morning on a city league team. And guess what? She was the only girl.
Jeez. This world is too much for me.
And they are growing.