Handsomest boys in the world.
Happy girls.
Maurice is in love with Lis. This has never happened before.
This says everything you need to know about Lis Williamson.
Love...Ms. Moon
Handsomest boys in the world.
Love...Ms. Moon
MrsFwith4 commented on my yesterday's post asking if the object in the guest room fireplace was a screaming skull which I thought was great!
Here's that picture again.
As you may have noticed before, although I am rabidly agnostic (at the very least), I do seem to love certain types of religious iconography, mainly madonnas, although that seems to be losing its fascination for me as I get older. But when we first looked at this house, that statue thing was on the refrigerator which was odd. First off, it's pretty big. Secondly...what?
The man we bought the house from assured us he did not want to take it with him and to do with it as we wanted. And I wanted to keep it around and so we have. But where does one put such a thing? I put it in the dining room fireplace first but eventually it got moved to the guest room. It was in better shape when we first acquired it but I made the mistake of trying to clean it and that is not a good idea.
Oh well.
My favorite thing about the piece is the expression on the face of the obviously three-year old baby Jesus.
He is not well pleased.
The only truly serious cleaning I did was of Glen's shower which I NEVER do and don't ask me why but I figured Lon might want to use that shower and now at least it smells quite de-mildewed. Which it is.
(Large shower cleaning hack: use a broom to scrub those walls and the floor. It makes so much more sense than using a brush and is so much easier.)
And there was other cleaning and I ended up in the kitchen where I mopped the floors and even scrubbed some of the walls of the bathroom that is right off the kitchen, opposite the pantry. Did I clean the pantry?
No I did not.
Look. I'm only human.
Oh! I put my puzzle up! It was so easy. I put the cover that came with it over the work I'd done and moved it all to the chest in the library. I truly love that puzzle board.
Now. Have I cleaned a thing in the library?
Again, no.
But we can eat at the dining room table.
I believe the important things are done. Clean sheets. Place to eat. Decently clean bathrooms. Thick layers of dust removed in some areas. I did not touch the Glen Den. That is Glen's and I will not be spending an entire day dusting and washing the Museum of Glen and that's all there is to it. Tomorrow I may dust the whatever-it-is the TV rests on.
One of the last times the Williamsons were here, we somehow stumbled on the most amazing Youtube channel that can be imagined. We are still talking about this in hushed terms because it was practically a spiritual, or perhaps group hallucinatory experience. It was like one video after another, most of which none of us had ever seen, of performances of all the bands that we loved so much when we were young. And they went on and on and on. Finally, I said I had to go to bed but honestly, I think we could have sat there all night, stunned and mesmerized. And we have no idea where we found it or what it was called.
It just happened as if by divine intervention.
I seriously doubt we'll ever experience anything like that again but we'll probably try.
I must add to tonight's post that Hank's true fiftieth birthday celebration is beginning on Tuesday. Well, the part where everyone goes to the coast starts on Tuesday. He has been planning this for quite possibly a year. And when Hank plans anything, it is damn well planned. Schedules are made. A house has been rented which is quite near St. George Island, is across the street from the bay, and has a pool and many bedrooms. Friends are flying in from all over the country. Taylor and Anna are already here. A specific group has been invited to spend the nights there and although family and others are invited for daytime activities, there have been strong instructions that at five o'clock, we must exit the premises when the Wild Rumpus will start!
Don't ask. I certainly haven't.
Tee shirts have been made. I feel certain that menus have been too, as well as room assignments and, oh hell. I don't know.
Hank loves doing things like this. He is an organizer and he is a friend keeper. And he is a master of party-joy giver.
Remember his Tallahassee Springtime Parade parties?
If you'd ever been to one you would have.
Oh yeah. It's the Fourth of July. I think I may have just heard some sort of firework. I'm surprised it's taken this long. This is not a holiday I generally get excited about.
Okay, I never do.
And this year?
Once again...no. I did not.
Love...Ms. Moon
We'd had these two crow couples coming around and they'd yell at me when they saw me on the porch. They'd scream out their caws as if they knew damn well I had food they wanted and that I should get up off my butt and give it to them.
Hmmm...
Now the crows never go to the feeder. They just don't. I have no idea why. I am definitely not an ornithologist. But one day when they'd been walking around in the back yard and then cawing from the trees right behind the porch, I suggested to Glen that we put some of the mealworms on all of the stumps left by the cutting of the Bradford pears and so Glen tried it. Next thing we knew, the crows were dining here like this was the Bradford Pear Stump Cafe and mealworms were the daily lunch special.
Done. Within a day we had regular crow visitors. And if you look up "how to attract crows to your yard" you will find videos and lists of instructions and favorite foods to attract them and all we had to do was scatter mealworms on stumps. Now they scream at me every morning when they see me and I'm sure they already recognize both Mr. Moon and me as the mealworm servers as they watch us closely when we go out and give them their treats. The only thing I really want to see if we can accomplish beyond that is to try and get them to come closer to the house. At this point they'll get about, oh, I don't know, thirty feet from the porch door? I am not good at estimating distances. At all.
Of course a lot of people who want to attract crows are hopeful that they'll leave them something shiny as a thank-you. A sort of paying of the tab, I guess, or maybe a tip. Their presence is their currency.
So that's been fun, seeing those glossy beauties doing the head-bopping bird walk in the back yard, politely sharing their mealworms on the flat stumps. The squirrels like them too.
And that's that story.
I did more cleaning today and a little more clearing out. And here's the issue I'm having with family photos.
First of all, I never get good picture frames. I mean, as Jessie says, I get Dollar Store frames.
I cannot deny this.
So to begin with, I'm not treating the photos with the respect they deserve.
But the issue I have is that after a photo has been on display about ten years, you quit seeing it. That is just the way it is. And they collect dust and for some reason they make me feel guilty because, okay, they're dusty and I don't have them in good frames so I am showing them disrespect and that almost translates in my always-guilty brain to feeling as if I'm disrespecting the people in the photos.
There are a few photos that no, I never get tired of and most of those are on the hallway altar vanity.
I have pictures on the piano which are really too high for most people to see and some on a little table by the front door that no one ever looks at and quite a few on the sideboard in the dining room but again- hardly anyone ever goes in there as it's mostly just a pass-through room and even if we do eat in there, for some reason the photos just seem slightly invisible.
And then there are the photos on the mantel in our room. Mostly they are photos of Glen and me being sweet and/or cuddly. In a rather innocent way, of course, but some of them are a little passionate. I mean, we have our clothes on and everything. It's all in the way we're looking at each other. But again- those pictures have been there for twenty years and, well, I was ready to clear them off and just enjoy some space there. Or at least more space. A space I could clean a bit easier. But again- would this create bad juju? And would it be disrespectful to our love?
Yeah. Probably not. So I consulted with Jessie via text and she assured me that it would be fine to clear them off and so I did and now they're in a drawer in the little chest of drawers I use as a nightstand and I do still have a few things on the mantel (hey! it's me!) but not the clutter.
Not the clutter.
So what are your feelings on this? Will my children and grandchildren feel as if I no longer love them? I doubt it. I'm sure they'd all say, "Go for it!"
But is it de rigueur for parents to display pictures of their family? As I said, some pictures will never be taken away and put in a drawer. I just love them too much and I cannot tell you why I feel that way about some and not others but I think it has to do with the genuineness of the emotions displayed in the photo. A moment captured that tells a story I remember.
And please, PLEASE do not suggest I find other pictures to replace the old ones with. I honestly have a thing about pictures. And old videos. They make me sad, mostly. Probably sad for the passing of those ages and stages of all of us. The images of people who are gone from us now.
Also, let us not suggest the magical picture frames that show images caught on our phones, one by one, without ceasing. Those are kind of cool but I'm afraid it would be one more thing I'd spend mesmerized time on. That may happen at some point in the future but I'm not there yet.
So here's what the mantel looks like now.
From left to right on the mantel we have a gorgeous doll that May made for me. The detail on her is amazing. She's been on another mantel piece but I want her where I can see her more easily for now. Next is a tiny felted sweater that she made. One Christmas she made everyone tiny sweaters and all of them were appropriate to the one they were made for. Next, whelk shell, Seminole Indian dolls with smaller shells in front of them, conch shell, beautiful ceramic parakeet I scored at Wag the Dog which I love, and a cutting of arrowhead vine in a silver plated pitcher I got at some random thrift store.
And I feel like that is everything I want right there now. Things I love and will notice because they are newly there. Except for the painting which I always notice and always will.
This morning I picked another gallon of green beans, remarkably, and about half a gallon of field peas. I need to sit down and snap and shell. I got the guest room tidied up and dusted and actually even rearranged the mantel in there. Sort of.
Here's what the guest room looks like.
We just got a nice little rain, the odd thing being that the sun shone throughout. We always used to say that happened when the devil was beating his wife but I don't like that. At all.
Even the fucking devil should not be beating his wife. I am glad to step in and say so.
There are clean sheets on ALL the beds this evening and I have made my own martini.
Happy Friday, y'all, and no, I have not answered comments today. Perhaps I shall get around to it later or perhaps not. Sometimes a blogger lady just needs a little break. Trust me when I say that I have read them all and appreciate each one.
Love...Ms. Moon
And so yes, Glen is relieved although there is still so much to do. Tom left behind a whole lot of things. Mostly things he'd salvaged and/or scavenged from the side of the road which as you know, I am not adverse to at all. But one of the main problems is, is that these things were probably not nearly as valuable as Tom thought they were and besides that, he stored them in sheds which I doubt he even opened the doors of for many, many years. The roaches and wood-destroying insects alone must have had destroyed a lot of what he had. But of course, all of this must be gone through and decisions must be made over what to do with each item whether paintings or mantel pieces. And his judgement was not always good. He gave me a painting a few years ago he'd bought at an antique mall which he was very, very proud of and was sure was an original but it was so blatantly a print and besides that, was in deep disrepair. Forgive me, but I threw it out.
So anyway, that is that. And Glen is off to go fishing and my god, he is happy. This is such a burden taken off his shoulders. He will never, ever have to go check on Tom to see if he's still alive, fearing that he'd get there and find his body.
There was much good about Tom. He was very intelligent, and he was loyal. I believe he may have asked me to marry him once.
Oh god.
He brought me cool things he'd scavenged like a plant stand or a little bird bath.
This is my favorite thing he ever brought me. He got it from the dump and really, it's one of my favorite things period.
But here are a few pictures I took this morning of an almost perfectly camouflaged katydid.
Besides family photos, I need to discuss crows and how we've discovered to attract them just in case you want to attract crows which seems to be a thing. You do not need to prepare entire crow charcuterie boards or cook high-protein meals for them.
Tune in tomorrow for this simple hack!
So much to look forward to! Hoo boy!
And I am remembering what Ross said about looking up. I don't think Tom ever admired another person in this world the way he admired Ross. So, yeah.
Look up and just give a thought to Tom, a very complicated person who will not suffer for one more second.
Love...Ms. Moon
What I worked on today was my next fish bowl. I'm hoping this will be a bowl. I left it to dry on another bowl which I'm using for a mold of sorts. Come to think of it, I probably should have left it inside the mold.
Y'all- I'm not that bright.
Ms. Lizzie was not there today as she is off on a wild adventure with her entire family AND Gentleman Caller. It's sort of like an annual reunion. All of the pictures I've seen are beautiful and filled with smiling happy people.
Felisha got back from her trip to France with her aunts and despite the horrible heat, she had a GREAT time. It was good to see her.
A few other people were missing too so it was a quiet class.
Oh. Here's the fish.
After pottery I met up Glen and Tom's other friend for lunch. As I think I may have said, he's the financial guy. They make a good team and enjoy each other's company so that is very good. They've both known Tom forever so they definitely have that in common. After talking to him today he and I realized that we know many, many people in common, most from the old, old days in Tallahassee where he lived before he moved to Seattle and learned the business he's been in for years and before he moved to St. Augustine. He and I had to have met. That's all there is to it. He used to regularly go see my ex-husband's band and we both spent plenty of time at all the same old haunts and we were throwing names around that I haven't thought of in years.
It was cool and yet, it was also odd. How did this man whom I have no memory of know all the people who made up my past?
Here's another odd thing- I feel quite disconnected to Tom's dying and he is indeed dying. He's in hospice now and hasn't been cognizant for a few days. He's getting morphine because he seems to be in pain. Every time someone tries to touch or move him he groans and pulls away. This is probably the most Tom's been touched in decades. Or maybe his entire life. I don't know. But it is not making him happy now.
I know I should be feeling more compassion or perhaps sadness or empathy or all of those things but I simply don't. He had no desire to live like this and if he had a choice, he never would. Who among us would? He can't swallow food, he can't respond to speech, and as I said, he's probably in pain.
But today Glen and the other friend visited an attorney, had a meeting with hospice, went to the funeral home to make those arrangements, and to several banks where Tom's accounts are. They are getting it done. The other friend drove home to St. Augustine this afternoon and Glen is going fishing on Friday.
I guess all of us sort of feel like we played the parts we needed to play in Tom's life for many years and now it's time to let him go on.
So we sat in the Cuban restaurant I love and had soup and Cuban sandwiches and talked about the old days and about our memories of Tom and I think that was a pretty good memorial service.
I went to Costco and I went to Publix and I went to Target where I got two more pairs of men's cargo shorts. So it was a busy day for me. Nothing compared to going to appointments with lawyers and hospice and banks and a funeral home but let's face it- that is all so far out of my lane that I can't even imagine doing any of it.
Here's a yellow zinnia with the sun illuminating it. It was almost shimmering with its color, its life-soul.
I think so.
God, it's hot.
Not too humid though!
And actually, it's only 91 degrees on the back porch where I am. Not so bad. Not so bad at all.
Love...Ms. Moon
And the hallway is what I concentrated on today.
So that's my entire, entirely boring day. Pottery tomorrow and I have a fairly long list of things I need to do afterwards so I won't have much time to attend to anything else.
Glen has spent another day on Tom's issues and isn't home yet. It's a good thing we'll be heading to NC in a few weeks. We need to get out of town and be sweethearts and traveling buddies. You'd think after retirement and being empty-nesters and all of that stuff, we'd have a lot more time to relax. Do fun things like head to the coast for a day or go visit a spring we've never been to or hell, just drive the eight miles or whatever it is to the Wacissa but no, it seems like every minute, at least lately, has been filled with should-do's and must-do's. Being away from home is a guarantee that at least we won't be looking at weeds that need pulling or grass that needs mowing or friends that need tending in legal, health-care, and other related ways.
One time when Lis was a young mother and her son was being rather difficult, she asked an older neighbor lady if it got easier as the child got older.
The old lady paused and then she said, "Well, it gets different."
And isn't that life?
Here's a picture of the strawberry shortcake I served Mr. Moon last night.
Love...Ms. Moon
Some of you suggested that the phrase "right smart" sounded southern to you so I looked it up and this sort of summed up what the general opinion of the origin of the phrase is.