Let us start with a little housekeeping here.
Remember me talking about the Oprah mug that came with the house that I had thought I still had but could not find? Well, yesterday at lunch, Rachel, who had read that post told me that she was pretty sure that mug was on the little dorm-size refrigerator in the kitchen where I keep grains and beans and things, holding pens and a ruler.
Yep. She was entirely correct. That mug has probably been sitting there for years and I no doubt see it (or don't see it) at least three or four times a day.
There are none so blind as those who will not see.
Good Lord.
Again I say, Thanks, Rachel! That mystery is solved.
On to a quick garden update.
Red zinnia bloom. There's some wild stuff going on in there.
Tiny baby cucumber. It does vaguely resemble some sort of cactus though, doesn't it?
Here they are! The first rattlesnake beans.
Hello, beauties!
Woke up this morning and it was raining. I believe it had been raining all night long. I know that when Maurice came and got in bed with us in the wee hours, her fur was damp. It was gloomy and chilly and although I was so happy to know we were finally really getting rain, I felt a little gloomy myself. We were going to an outdoor memorial service for a man I've known since I was a teenager and whom Glen has known for many years because he has hunted on his property and became friends with him and that's another part of the story. Y'all, there are so many parts to this story. I'm going to try and tell it like I was paying for every word.
I apologize for the glare. I was not paying attention. This was from a display set up with many pictures of the deceased and his many, many family members and it was in a carport to shield it from the damp and there were a lot of people around me.
As you can assume, the man there is the man whose life we were celebrating. His name was Linden. His wife, Jane, is the woman by his side. They are both beautiful people, don't you think?
I met Linden back when I was in high school because he was my optometrist. And Jane worked as his receptionist. At that time, they were both married to other people. I do believe I knew her already though, because one of her sons, David, was a friend of mine at the time.
Now, Jane and her then-husband Bert had two sons and their names were David and John.
Linden and his then-wife, Virgina, had two sons. Their names were David and John. And all roughly the same age. The sons of Linden's were twins, the other two boys were not, but only a year or two apart in age.
Let's back up to our trip to Tennessee last month when Glen and I went to the magical wedding of our friends David and Karen.
That David is the son of Linden. Obviously, I have been friends with David and Karen for many years. Knew them in high school. Karen's brother Larry, worked with Linden for many years and he and Glen hunted together on Linden's property. Linden owned many, many acres of land near here. Not as many as Ted Turner, whose spread is quite nearby but a very respectable number of acres. Many of those acres have been left alone to grow the trees and plants they grow. There were some cows raised. Also perhaps a few things like maybe hay? I don't know for sure.
Many tractors were involved. Are involved.
Back to high school.
My first very, very serious boyfriend was John, son of Jane. At that time, I got to know Jane quite well. Also Bert, Jane's then-husband. Bert taught music at the Winter Have Community College. Jane, as I said, worked with Linden. Bert taught me how to waltz.
Linden's then wife was a musician. Besides her two twin sons, she had two daughters. All of them learned to play instruments. She had her own string quartet. David, son of Linden, actually became a quite well-known violinist. John, son of Linden, became an eye doctor like his dad.
John, son of Jane, and I dated seriously for maybe a year? I'm not sure. That whole time is a bit hazy. I loved him with all my heart. Or at least I was sure I did at the age of seventeen, as one does. When he broke up with me, he broke my heart. That was right before I moved to Denver to attend college and probably had a lot to do with the major depression I suffered there for a year and a half.
I was still very good friends with John's brother, David, son of Jane. He was my first really good gay friend and we were pretty darn close. Our friendship survived the breakup. And Jane came and saw me in Denver when she was there visiting a sister.
At this time I was not at all close with David, son of Linden. I knew him, I knew of him, but he was not part of my pack, my tribe, my heart family.
I am not going to be specific here but I will say that Jane and Linden had, shall we say, sweet feelings about each other. This was fairly well known. And eventually, they both divorced their spouses and married each other.
Moving on. I re-met David, son of Linden, in Winter Haven while I was there for a Christmas vacation. I've told this story before- he and I became close. He and Karen, who had been together since Jr. High, had parted ways and oddly enough, Karen had moved to Denver. While all of this was happening, I was telling David how much I hated Denver and he told me that I could come and live in Tallahassee with him.
I doubt that he had any idea that I would actually do that.
But I did.
That did not work out.
Major heartbreak #2 but eventually, I did come out of my depression and I had made many friends here and some of them helped scrape me up off the pavement and life went on. I got a job, I got an apartment.
And then I went back to Winter Haven for some reason, another holiday I guess, where I then met another guy I had known but mostly by name and reputation. He and David, son of Linden, had been friends since toddlerhood. So I just sort of slid over to the next link. Or something.
I was desperate for love in those days. I won't even get into that but I needed to be loved and although my definition of that was pretty loose, I understand why and how that happened. I needed to feel safe too, and for me, having a man insured that.
And that guy became my husband and we had two children together. David and Karen got back together because they were fated to be together and Jerry and I were great friends with them. They lived with us for awhile. And of course, to this day, both of us are still very close to them and Glen and David have formed their own relationship, with Glen being introduced to Linden, who then allowed him to hunt on his acres. At one point, David (son of Linden) and Glen were seriously considering going into the hemp growing business on that property but Linden was not into that idea. But I think Linden and Jane, too, developed an affection for Glen because who wouldn't? And he took them eggs when we had chickens and green beans and I went to see them with him once in awhile.
And so that is how we know Linden and Jane.
And today was the celebration of Linden's life. He was days away from being 98 when he died so he lived a good long life and had a good long love and his children and his grandchildren and his great-grandchildren adored him and they all got together on the farm, as it was called, for Thanksgiving, even Virginia, former wife of Linden.
Lots of love. Know what I'm saying? He was a character, a very well-respected doctor and member of his community, and a true down-to-earth farmer at heart.
And Jane? Well, she was the first person I ever knew to read Prevention Magazine and I guess she must have gleaned a few things because she is still alive and certainly kept Linden alive and well until he was almost a hundred years old.
When I saw her today, she looked good. She was sitting in a wheelchair, but her back was as straight as it ever was, and I approached her to express my sympathy and so forth. She and I had our own little relationship, going back all those years to when I had loved her son.
When I approached her, I leaned over and said, "Hey Jane, do you remember me?" I could tell she did not so I hurriedly said, "I used to be Mary Miller but now I'm married to Glen Moon."
She immediately knew who I was and you know what she said to me?
"You look a lot older."
Oh my fucking god. I really did not quite know what to say but what I did say was, "Well, I AM older," and she said, "Yes, but older than that."
Okay.
"I'm seventy-one now," I said. And she said, "And I'm older than that."
The funny thing is, when I was talking to her, I felt like the seventeen year old I had been when we really knew each other and when I said, "I'm seventy-one now," that felt impossible to me. I usually have no problem realizing my true age but in that moment, I felt like how can this be?
Time travel is real.
The little service was sweet. John, son of Linden, who now has a house right up the road from where his dad lived and who has taken over a lot of the farm responsibilities, spoke first and then several other men, mostly men who had worked with him, spoke about what a good man Linden was and what a character he'd been.
Here's my little story which pertains to that:
During that winter holiday when David (son of Linden) and I were enjoying each other's company, I ate dinner with his family one evening. Virginia was talking about something to do with the arts. Linden was silent for a long time but then he said, "Art, fart."
Oh my. I have to tell you. I was a bit shocked.
And yet, it was hysterical.
And I have never forgotten it.
Of course the best part of today was seeing Karen and David again. I told David how I can't get over feeling like he created magic when he threw that surprise wedding. I told him that I'd put on the little jacket I wore at the wedding a few days ago and found a Kleenex in each pocket and I thought to myself, "These Kleenex are holding my wedding tears," and it is true.
I told Karen the same story and she was moved. The wedding turned out to be magic for her, as well.
I surely do love those people and I always will. I could hug Karen for an eon. I could listen to David laugh forever.
I am so grateful that Glen has his own relationship with these two people, who loves them in his own way.
And I am grateful that Linden and Jane and Virginia and Bert all got together in their own ways. Without those getting togethers, my life would be nothing like it is now. I would not have learned the lessons I have learned, I would not have ever moved to Tallahassee, I would not have had my first two children, I would not have known this sort of long time love for people who have been such intricate parts of my life.
Look up! said Ross. Whom I would never have met in some convoluted way if I had not known them.
Can you see the magnolia bloom there at the very top of that very high branch?
Another bloom from below because it was too high for me to reach to pull down to take a picture of from above it. I love the rain drops that collected in the cups of the huge waxy petals.
I have not packed one dang thing for Roseland.
Tomorrow is another day.
Love...Ms. Moon

































