Wednesday, August 15, 2012

I Guess It's A Judgment Day

On my walk this morning I saw Bubba-With-One-Leg-Who-Did-Not-Shoot-Himself, not to be confused, of course, with Bubba-With-One-Leg-Who-Did-Shoot-Himself.

He was coming back from the convenience store by the truck stop and he was holding a tall-boy in a brown paper bag but he had not opened it yet. I am not judging. For all I know, he rewards himself for getting out and walking (with one leg, y'all!) by buying a single beer which he takes home and enjoys with his supper.

I have never understood those people who refuse to give the homeless money because they "will only use it to buy booze." Don't get me wrong, Bubba is not homeless. But you know what I mean. It's that judgement thing. I have often thought that if I were homeless, I would want to drink as much as possible. It's not like you can go out and buy a new sofa to improve your living arrangements.
Oh, of course it's more complicated than that but who am I to tell another human being what they should or should not do with any money they manage to come up with? Even if I give it to them. If I give money to someone on the street, it's a damn gift and there are no strings attached.
Panhandling in North Florida in the summer is as hard a job as I can imagine. Standing there in the sun holding up a sign that says, "Homeless, God Bless," can't be an easy task.
Frankly, I imagine the folks holding up the sign would far rather be working in an office but that's probably not an option for them.

Elizabeth wrote an incredibly moving post yesterday which you can read here if you haven't and it's gotten me thinking about all sorts of things that people judge others on including disabilities and it just seems so sad that some people cannot seem to accept that fact that others may indeed need help through no fault of their own. Some people we can look at and see what they are struggling with and others, we just can't. I remember talking to a woman once who was a Republican and I asked her why. She said, "Because my husband and I have worked very hard for everything we have and we just don't want to be taxed to death so that others who haven't worked so hard can benefit from our money."

I pointed out to her that even though she and her husband did grow up in large families without much money, they were born healthy and born white and born of a families who expected them to get an education and who supported them in that in every way they could which in many ways is being born privileged. Hell, I know for a fact that I was born on second base (at least) despite a lot of shit that happened in my childhood and from an early age I recognized this fact and also that some people were born who would never, ever get a chance at bat no matter how hard they worked.

Well, as I said in a comment to Elizabeth's post, I think that perhaps the main difference between what we call liberals and what we call conservatives is the ability to empathize with other human beings whose situations are not like our own.
So, in fact, it may be all explainable by neurological science because I hate just having to think that some people are simply greedy assholes who truly believe that their success in life is positive proof of their superiority and the fact that God Loves Them More Than He Loves The Poor And/Or The People Who Were Obviously Put Here On Earth To Serve Them For Low Wages With No Health Care Benefits.

And in the you can't make this shit up category, I just watched a video where Ann Romney says they will not be releasing any more tax returns because every time they do, the media just uses them as more ammunition.


The sense of entitlement on that woman's face makes me want to scream. Not only do she and her husband think that they have theirs and that they deserve it (which, to be fair- perhaps they do),  they also believe that we, the people whom Mitt wants to be president over, do not deserve or need to know how much it is or what they DO pay in taxes. Because?

Oh. It might make us mad.

You think?

I think we should be mad. I think we should be horrified and appalled and furious at what the fabulously wealthy have created for themselves in the way of tax avoidance.

God. How did I get from Bubba and his single tall-boy to Ann Romney?

Oh yeah- judgement. Seems to me that the same people who are the most judgmental are the very same ones who believe that they and their actions are beyond judgment.

You know what I think? I think that Mitt Romney would do himself the greatest favor in the world if he got off his Mormon highhorse and sat under a tree or a bridge with some homeless guy and shared a six-pack and listened to whatever the hell that guy had to tell him.
Now wouldn't that be something?
Or if he spent an entire day helping a mother take care of her severely disabled child.
Or if he worked in a Welfare office for a day. Or an emergency room in a poverty-stricken area.
Or if he was sent out in the world on foot with fifty cents in his pocket and told that he had to figure out how in hell to live for a week as an anonymous person who wasn't carrying a driver's license that said Mitt Romney.
One week.
Or if he had to do what a single mother without an education has to do to support her kids for a few days while taking care of the kids, too.

But he'll never do any of those things and neither will Paul Ryan. They have plenty of advisors and they sure don't need anyone like me or Bubba telling them about our realities. Which to them, are not really real at all. And they like it like that. Because in their ignorance, which is their bliss, they can just spout any bullshit they want and as lawmakers, they can take that bullshit and turn it into law.

I'm done.


Love...Ms. Moon


  1. I love a good rant about politics and ideologies. Thank you. It got my heart rate up.

  2. Don't be sorry, it's not like you're wrong! Freudian slip:

    Ps - if you highlight links and click on them you can go straight to the page, for anyone who doesn't know.

  3. You said it Ms Moon! I do not like the republican candidate for president. I do not like him at all!

  4. Life gets very real when you click links on this blog.

    Also, Ayn Rand is bad philosophy masquerading as bad fiction. It's a classic hybrid failure.

  5. Don't say sorry. Your welcome will do, as you are gifting us with your words.

  6. Oh, lordy lord, you're never done, at least I hope.

    Thank you for your sweet words! Before I scrolled down to them, though, I was anxious to write you a comment that affirmed what you said about people who object to giving money to people who might then drink it. I've always felt the way you do, and I'm teaching my kids the same thing.

    Ann Romney: What a tool.

    Have you heard that Ryan's wife, before she married him, was a lobbyist and that her clients were big pharmaceutical companies, cigar companies and -- get this -- HEALTH INSURANCE companies.

  7. I couldn't agree more. I read a study recently that concluded that the richer you are, the less compassionate you are. that poor people know and understand hardship and so have more compassion. even if they start out poor and get rich, they lose their compassion on the way. rich people have no concept of struggle and hardship so they have no compassion towards those who have less and struggle. they have no idea what it feels like to have to decide between medicine or food, or food and clothes, or clothes and school supplies, or what to do if the baby gets sick and you have to lose a day or two of pay and won't be able to make your rent. instead they demonize the poor as being lazy and shiftless.

  8. Well AMEN. That's all.

    Also: cocksuckers.

  9. You should be proud of your words not sorry, because you are so right. What I do not understand are all the people who can and are already benefiting from our current President's policies, but still hate him and want to vote him out of office. It is almost as though they are rooting for a sports team instead of picking someone to lead the country. They will support their "team" no matter what they say or do.

  10. I'm also horrified, appalled and furious, but those people don't care what we think or how we feel. They will never come down off their high horse.

    I was a political activist for several years until I got tired of getting nowhere. Now I just do what I can in my own little world to make people feel better. Sometimes that feels like enough and other times, like now, it just makes me feel futile. I hate election times because only TWICE in 40+ years of voting has my candidate won (Carter and Obama).


  11. Money comes from one place, other people. Taxes create a good society.

    Somalia has no gov't or taxes; how's that working out for them?

  12. You can dumpster food, but you can't dumpster beer. I know. I've tried.

  13. Lisa- Thank you.

    Stephanie- I wasn't really sorry.

    Syd- You're welcome.

    Jo- Yeah, I've seen that. Crazy.

    Rebecca- I can't understand why anyone would like him unless they were gozillionaires. Which most of us are not.

    Juancho- Yep. We talk about some real stuff in this community. And your quote on Ayn Rand? Perfection!

    Liv- Well, I was a little judge-y myself.

    Elizabeth- I'm glad you feel that way too about giving money to panhandlers. We can always say "no" and often I do but when I give it, I just give it. Done. Ann Romney is a tool. And Ryan's wife? Yeah, I read that. What happened to the whole "outsider" thing?

    Ellen Abbott- Perfectly said!

    SJ- COCKSUCKERS is right.

    Lois- People are crazy nuts. People don't think for themselves.

    Lulumarie- Funny, I have exactly the same voting record. Sigh...

    Magnum- I think not. So far, at least.


  14. Well, being Canadian I don't pay as much attention to the politics going on in other countries but how can one miss the self-righteousness of Mitt Romney. He reminds me of our own Prime Minister. So out of touch with reality and his stupid hair brushed to the side like an 8 year old boy in 1947. He rules Canada with an iron fist and his Conservative supporters worship him. He takes from the poor to give to the rich and big business. Canada is a hell-hole and he sits there are fucking smug and has no idea how hard it is to have nothing. And the sad thing is it trickles down to our provincial and municipal governments. All fat and greedy and taking from the people who have nothing and no voice.

    OK, I need to stop. God help us all.

  15. You hit the difference between Republicans and Democrats right on the nose.

    ...Well, no. I suppose I do know some Republicans I really like and believe to be compassionate people.

    But Mittens ain't one of them. Nope. And yes, we should be pissed off.

    Once I saw a bumper sticker that said something like, "Thanks, I don't need any welfare- I'm a Republican". Pisses me off just to remember.

    P.S. Birdie, don't say that!!!! Don't you know my backup plan for an election-gone-wrong is to disappear into Canada? THE CONSERVATIVES ARE EVERYWHERE.

  16. I am one of those people who doesn't want to give homeless people money for fear they will buy alcohol but now I've learned to think about this differently. Thank you. S. Jo

  17. What are you sorry for?! For heaven's sake, you're absolutely right on all counts.

    You have to read this recent column from the St. Pete Times. It addresses exactly the issues you're talking about:

    I think one of the saddest aspects of modern Republicanism is it reinforces every negative impulse people have toward selfishness.

  18. Amen on what you said about giving $$ to people with cardboard signs. I give $$ to people pretty much every time I see someone asking – the exception is usually if I see them a 3rd or 4th or 5th time at the same place with the same sign (not sure why I have that philosophy, but I do). I have always figured that if someone is at a point in their life where they have to sit by the side of the road with a cardboard sign asking for money then they need it – I don’t care what the hell they do with it.

    We had a discussion at work the other day about empathy and how it is way too lacking in too many people and it comes down to this fact for many many disappointing things.


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