Monday, September 22, 2014

As Always, It Is Love

This is, I think, a stick bug on Owen's head. I am no entomologist. That would be Kathleen. Anyway, we found the insect in the kitchen and we took him outside, as we do. First though, he climbed onto Owen's sleeve and Owen was wearing the red velvet shirt and both the sleeve and the bug shone with iridescence. What had looked to be a dull brown bug proved in the sun to be a shining pewter, wearing a tiny suit of armor. I tried to get a shot of that but the poor bug had its own ideas and climbed the sleeve to the head. The chickens were clustered about so I carried it a ways off and put it on the wisteria vine. I do not know if chickens eat stick bugs (if indeed it was a stick bug) but I was taking no chances as we had already anthropomorphized this creature into an almost-pet.

We did the things we do and Owen was Tarzan and we played the game where I pretend I can feel someone watching me but I don't know who it is and then finally, I discover that it is Tarzan, up in the tower on the play set. Tarzan gave me a clue today, dropping his gum so that I would see it.
"Where did this gum come from?" I asked, gazing big-eyed into the sky. "I know someone is watching me."
Where he came up with this scenario is beyond me but it is one of his favorites.

I dragged their cardboard box house out onto the porch and cut new windows in it and they played in that for a good while.

Of course they took the pieces of cardboard I'd cut out and proceeded to do battle with them. They had hot chocolate and orange juice and edamame beans and grapes and Gibson painted and we read books and they got to see Boppy when he came home to get ready to leave for auction. They spilled juice and Owen fell off the trapeze and pretended he had a head injury, letting his eyes drift back and forth but I knew he was faking. We wiped the dirt off and all was well. We dug up a beautiful bottle from the driveway, old enough to have had a cork stopper rather than a screw top but unfortunately it was cracked, the bottom coming up in a separate piece. Gibson took a thirty-minute shower, playing in the water and when I finally forced him out and wrapped him in a towel, his eyelashes, so improbably long were beaded with water and his little bow mouth was so pink and I said, "Why are you so beautiful?" and he just laughed.  
They are so loving. They are so beautiful. And they are such boys. 
Owen swatted my butt when I leaned over to pick up Gibson once and then he joked that he was going to whip my "axe." "Really?" I asked. You're going to whip my axe?"
"Yes!" he said, and giggled his way into the house. 
He told me that Miss Deena, his teacher, calls him O-Dub. He informed me with great delight that because Friday is his birthday, he is going to "skip school" and they are going to Wild Adventures and they are going to spend the night in a motel! And did I want to come? 
"Oh, I think I'll let your parents take you," I told him. "I will come to your party." 
And of course I will. That is on Saturday which is also Lily's birthday. 

They are gone now, gone home with their papa and I have tidied up the house and have brown rice cooking for my supper. I will cook spinach and poached eggs. Before they left, as we were doing the ritual good-byes with them in their car seats, Owen shouted, "One more!" and pursed his lips and I leaned in for one more and we hugged with great affection. 
"I love you!" I yelled at Gibson. 
"I love you too!" he shouted back. 
"Thank you for raising such loving boys," I told Jason. He wears a button-down shirt and a tie to work now and he looks so handsome. "That doesn't happen by accident," I said. 
And it doesn't. 

No matter what melancholy may fall upon me, no matter what despair I may feel, there is always this- my grandchildren are being raised in love and with love and the phrase, "Whip your axe," is a thing to joke about because it has never happened and probably never will.

My husband just texted me to tell me that he made it to Orlando safely. And that he loves me. 
I replied that I love him too, and that I never forget that our love for each other has much to do with how loving our grandsons are. Love begets love. His parents' love for each other was always apparent and real and that is why he can love the way he does. 
And so it goes. 

I still have doors and windows open. The chickens are all put up. Although Missy spent most of the day off the nest, she was settled back in there again at dusk and I carried her to the hen house and she is so very, very soft and she trills and sings so sweetly in my arms. I put her gently onto the hay nest and bent and kissed her little black head. 

"Good night," I told them all. Trixie, Ozzie, Miss Bob, Mabel, Sharon, Elvis, Chi-Chi, Cha-Cha, Nicey, Butterscoth, Lucille, Eggy Tina and Missy too. 

Time to cook the spinach, time to poach the eggs. 

Despite all and because of, it has been a very, very good day. 


  1. Hmmm. Your bug looks to me like a praying mantis.
    Your boys are beautiful. Thanks for sharing your day.

  2. You just reminded me of our goodbye ritual I had with my Nana. She would stand at the window and flap both hands wildly like bird wings, a great big smile on her face. It wasn't until years later that I found out she would cry after we left. She was single for most of her life and living alone was very lonely at times. She lived for visits from family.

  3. Denise- That's what I thought it was originally but when I google-imaged "praying mantis" I didn't think so. It was too stick-like.

    Ditchingthedog- I love hearing stories about what their grandmothers meant to them. And grandfathers, too. I think the relationship between grandparents and grandchildren is probably one of the purest, most love-filled human relationships there can be.

  4. Stories of visits with your boys are so precious. Thank you for sharing them with us. Sweet Jo

  5. I'm going with praying mantis as an identification, too. Maybe it's just a different variety from the one you found with Google?

    I love "whip your axe" -- ha!

  6. Oh who needs toys when you have cardboard boxes. I don't know what parents and grandparents would do without them. ! :D

  7. Love begets love. Your family is steeped in it. And in your kingdom, Mary Moon, those boys find wonder and magic too. As you say, a pure love. Beautiful!

  8. Love your boys. What a great day. It let me escape the reality of sitting at work for a few minutes. Now, we are just waiting on our little love to enter the world. I'm ready for the bugs. xoxo

  9. Sweet Jo- It is my joy. This is my journal with pictures of them as they grow.

    Steve Reed- I don't know. It was stick-y. I'm sure Owen has been told not to say "ass" so he came up with "axe." Children.

    Jenny Woolf- It's the truth!

    Angella- There is never a lack of something to catch their interest. That is the truth. Today we traveled around in the bamboo jungle and Owen made miso soup in the little pond.

    Rachel- Oh honey! I can't wait FOR you!

  10. It sounds simply beautiful. I am amazed and humbled and inspired by how you create such beauty in your writing, in your life every single damn day.

  11. Relationships we have with our grands are very, very special. Yes, indeed!

    I guess it could be a stick bug, but it's looks so much like a praying mantis. I had one on the kitchen window weeks ago for two days. I was mesmerized by it. There are a couple pictures of it at my blog, hmm.... maybe 4 posts ago? I don't know for sure.

  12. It looks like a praying mantis to me. So good to read about how love begets love. I guess that there are gradients of love. Sad to think that our love did not beget children but it did burgeon into more love.


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