Thursday, September 17, 2009

No, Not Yet

No, no, no, no, no. No baby yet.

I'm going with Lily and Jason to the two appointments this morning- the ultrasound doctor and the midwife. The ultrasound doctor is going to be all kinds of warning and worry. He's going to want to do a non-stress test, I'm betting. He didn't even have Lily make an appointment for this week when we left last week because he was so certain that she would deliver by now.
And her "due date" was only Tuesday.
So I'm trying to gird up my loins and remember my manners and be the best mother/grandmother/representative of sane I can manage.
I don't know about you, but I have a hard time being assertive with people wearing white coats. I mean I have a REALLY hard time with it.
But knowing they have a pamphlet in the office with the title of something like "3-D Fun Ultrasound!" gives me a bit more spine. I mean- they haven't even proven this technology to be safe! And here they are advertising it as a way to have FUN because obviously someone has to pay for that equipment.

And then the midwife's office will be different. That office is so chill and laid back. "Here, hold this baby," says a nurse walking by. Mrs. Murphy runs the desk. She could run the world, I suspect. Donna, the midwife, always looks like she needs more sleep but she also looks like she could deliver babies under the sea with one hand tied behind her back without batting an eye if she had to. I have seen two women come into that office with a total of ten children accompanying them.
They have pretty good magazines, too.

All right. I'll report in when I come home.

And thank-you, every one of you, for checking in and caring.

It'll happen. It'll happen soon.

We'll have a baby. We can hold.

Just not yet.

15 comments:

  1. Fascinating juxtaposition.

    You know who else has trouble with challenges to white coats? Those in the white coats. Far too many doctors think they shouldn't be questioned and that pisses me off. It's LILY'S BODY and she will do whatever is best for her baby and how dare they question her! (See, I'm outraged for you, so you can be cool and calm as you question their strategies.)

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  2. Around due dates can't the midwife move around some membranes all up in there yo?
    ha.
    With Olivia they told me she wouldn't fit...my doc wanted me to have a c-section (I am 5'2'' and was about 115 at the time). I cried and cried and told the doctor I wasn't his normal patient, he'd delivered me and please please please would he take a more hands off approach to my delivery. He agreed and instead 'stripped the membranes' I had a ton of bloody show all night, no pain hardly and then woke up in the morning telling my then husband to get me to the hospital, the baby is coming.
    I was 7 cm when we got there, Olivia was born in a half hour or so. Voila!

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  3. This will probably surprise you but I have aggressively questioned white coats when my kids were little. I know, what a shocker. One doctor at Tallahasse pediatrics, almost got to treat his own black eye. Ahhhh fun days.
    Hang in there.

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  4. Thinking of you and that little baby and beautiful mama-to-be.

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  5. Ms. Moon, I LOVE your description of the midwife, Donna. The tired ones are the ones who don't schedule births but attend them. For my first birth in a hospital my midwife had a hands off approach--I wanted the lights very low and we asked her if that was ok for her and she said, "I'm like the Pinball Wizard kid".
    Good luck at the u/s sound appt. You are a great doula mom.
    P.S. No to stripping membranes. The less of someone else's germs the better.

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  6. Well, at least the non stress test has the benefit of being non-invasive; that is a plus, though what they actually accomplish besides scaring the bejesus out of people, I don't know. I am just sending out the most positive and happy vibes I have for ALL of you right now.

    One of the things we talk about in recovery is that we get an extra second to stop and think before opening our mouths, one for every year sober. It helps me to give myself that extra nine and three quarters seconds before I lose my shit on someone. :)

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  7. Babies come in their own time. I hope all is well with today's visits!

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  8. Representative of sane is a great phrase. Actually it would be a good rock group name.

    I love you. I am waiting.

    Thanks for giving us news.

    Love, SB.

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  9. Sorry Ms. Moon... I just get so excited about new babies. I also got so excited every time my chickens laid an egg. After 2 years the daily miracle of eggs in the coop didn't wear off. Kinda like the miracle of new babies doesn't wear off.

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  10. That silly baby will come out when he's ready. And I have my cell phone on me 24/7 for when he does.

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  11. I hope y'all had a good experience today. :D

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  12. Ms. Nola- I appreciate your outrage on our behalf.

    Erin- I wish that for Lily with ALL MY HEART!

    Brother Wrecking Ball- No. I am not surprised. I wonder which doctor it was? I'd be curious to know.

    Michele Renee- I love that! The Pinball Wizard. That is so great.

    Kori- Well, I'm not what you'd call a sober person but I do stop and think before I talk. Sometimes.

    Marsha- Thank-you, sweetie.

    Ms. Bastard- Love you too! Thank-you.

    Michelle- Isn't that funny about the eggs? Golly, but it's true.

    Daddy X- When are you leaving? Plus, I bet they have internet in Canada.

    May- I know. Love you, dear.

    Ginger- Thank-you. It went as well as could be expected.

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  13. I'm so impatiently waiting. Internet Auntie Becky wants to meet this baby!

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