Friday, May 17, 2013

I'm Doing The Best I Can

For a week and a day we've known that there is a possibility that Lily and Jason and the boys might be moving a few hours west of here for Jason to be promoted in a different Publix.
I've been in complete denial but that's been harder and harder to maintain, especially today since Jason actually went over to check out the situation.

I'm trying very, very hard to be positive and supportive of my daughter and her husband because that's what mothers do and it's the right thing to do.


As you can imagine, I am having a very, very hard time with the concept that there may be a move which would preclude me from seeing my grandsons every time I get the notion to see them.

Very hard time.

And Mr. Moon is having the same hard time and let me just say this- you are, oh, twenty-something years old. Or thirty-something. Whatever. You are in love and it's amazing and you have the sex with the one you are in love with and maybe even married to. And a beloved baby happens. And then, another million years (one second later) another baby happens and you are a grandparent and this is way more unexpectedly joyful than anything you could possibly imagine. And you fall head over heels in love in a way that you were not aware was possible.

And your life is never the same. Ever.

Sex. Mother Nature.

One day at a time.

I'm doing the best I can.

Me and the old man. We're hanging in there.

I guess what I'm saying is- when you have The Sex, you have no idea what can happen.
You may quote me on that.

Love...Ms. Moon


  1. This is a tough one. I know what I am hoping to hear they decide. If it doesn't feel right I hope they don't do it. Either way there is going to be some sadness. Dang it.

  2. Wow. I am sorry Ms. Moon. I hope whatever happens it works out for the best but man oh man that is a tough one. I don't know what else to say so I will just say hang in there and you and Mr. Moon take care of yourselves.

  3. That is a tough one. But I know they will think about it and make a good decision. Two hours isn't terrible but they will have to look at cost of daycare too. Lots to contemplate.

  4. I'm sorry. I don't know why Publix has to move people around the way they do. They seen to move managers especially, just because they can.

  5. Oh man. that's a hard one. I am so fortunate that my daughter and her family moved in next door and I've been close to my grandkids every day of their lives.

  6. Oh Ms. Moon, this is so hard. I am sure Lily and Jason are thinking this through carefully. There might be feelings of loss by someone either way. Being selfish on your behalf, I want them to stay. Sweet Jo

  7. Amen, honey. As a midwife, I can testify to the absolute truth of this.

    XX Beth

  8. Oh....My heart is a little squished reading this...hang on Mary.

  9. Oh, yikes. I know this must be hard. I hope the decisions that get made are the best for everyone involved.

    As for The Sex, you're completely right! (Even if there are no babies involved!)

  10. May the Fate, Lachesis, be kind to you all!

  11. this news makes me not able to breathe very well.

  12. All-A-Y'all- Thanks. Ever so. It will all unfold as it does. Meanwhile, golly. Well.
    I'm crying a lot but that's not unusual.

  13. Yeesh. I don't know what to think. I want those guys to do well. Life sounds tough for them, workwise. And yet... agh! I hope things manage to work out the best for everyone.

  14. Tough but there it is, life. It feels awful, I know but you'll be fine. Everybody will. When my child decided to spend "a couple of years" travelling and eventually settled "for a while" on the other end of the planet (18000 km from here), I thought my mothering heart would stop. But of course it did not and there is the wonders of skype and old fashioned letters and surprise parcels to send (and receive) and so many many many other ways to show (and receive) love.


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