Here we are before the first event of the wedding we attended which was the rehearsal dinner. It was just lovely.And let me say that the reason I hate social occasions is because I can't remember people. NOT AT ALL. There were people here tonight whom we met three years ago in California and they remember me and I have no clue in the universe who they are. I actually think this is a neurological disorder called prosopagnosia and I wrote about it some time ago here.
I'm already stressed because tomorrow the woman I sat next to at supper tonight will be wearing something other than the red dress she had on tonight and I won't have any idea who she is. She will think I was a drunken fool and I will completely embarrassed.
On the other hand, men kept coming up to Mr. Moon at the table and asking him if he played basketball at Auburn because they recognized him. This was thirty something years ago. Perhaps I married Mr. Moon because no matter what he is wearing, it is easy to pick out the tallest man in the room. Although actually, one of his nephews, the brother of the groom, is actually taller than Mr. Moon by an inch or two. I'm going to try and get a picture of the groom, his brother, and Mr. Moon because they are so damn cute together. I'll have to put a normal sized person in the picture though, to give it all perspective.
And now I'm sleepy as can be and the bed here at the Marriott Courtyard has MEMORY FOAM and I am really, really looking forward to this sleeping experience. Memory foam is the best invention since mixed nuts.
Maybe I could get some for my brain.
All right. Signing off until tomorrow.
Ms. Moon Who Is In Dothan, Alabama
You look gorgeous. Love the red lips!
ReplyDeleteAll I know of Dothan, Alabama is that it's the birth and homeplace of my very dear friend, who is a very proper girl--the sort who had debutante balls and all. It sort of intimidates me :) I'm glad you are there, being my ambassador...xoxo.
ReplyDeleteMemory foam rocks. I want a Sleepnumber of whatever the heck it is bed so badly.
ReplyDeleteAgh. I know I'm a Daisy Downer, but for those of you who lust sadly aftermemory foam but can't have it, take comfort from the fact that it's made of really toxic material that outgases a little bit all the time as it slowly breaks down.
ReplyDeleteWhen we sleep we're recharging out immune systems, but if we'rea bsorbing toxins as we do it,over the years,the system doesn't get the chance to really recover as it should.
So despite the delicious comfort, I sadly say no to memory foam.
There's no cheap alternative yet, tragically. Natural latex is good, but you have to sell your soul/virtue/firstborn to afford it!
A simple "hi, how are you today?" will get you through those first awkward conversational moments. Always have a drink in your hand, that way you can blame any senior moments on alcohol.
ReplyDeleteRelax! Enjoy!
I also have people come up to me all the time and remember who I am, while I have no idea who they are. Especially former students and people at conferences... right now apparently all the first year students in my program know who I am cause last year I gave a presentation when they were visiting Penn to figure out if they wanted to go here, but I couldn't pick any of them out of a lineup. I'm also terrible at learning people's names in general- it's almost the end of the semester and out of my 50 students I maybe know the names of 15-20 (and I also couldn't pick some of them out of a lineup, especially the ones who never speak up in class).
ReplyDeleteI'm glad you enjoyed the dinner. That's the bonus if you dread something - it's hardly ever as bad as you expected.
ReplyDeleteI can never remember who people are. Not a good thing for a teacher. Or a person for that matter. Just yesterday, I didn't recognise one of my neighbours.
You two are adorable. Memory foam for your brain. How is it you always make the best connections? It all just flows when you write, can it be as easy as you make it look? So who cares if you can't remember these people, they are not following your blog so maybe it doesn't matter!
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Thanks for checking in. Have fun!
You look lovely darling. Just lovely.
ReplyDeleteA phrase I like to use when I forget someone's name is "Oh hello there!" If you hear me say it, you know I have forgotten someone's name... it gets ya by though. Hopefully you'll recognize her hair and/or voice.
Sounds like so far so good. Hang in there, and look for the fun people! (They'll be the colorful ones, and the most abandoned dancers...)
xo pf
Elizabeth- I am heavily into red lips.
ReplyDeleteSJ- Yep. This is a different world. I'm doing my best.
Maggie May- Mr. Moon and I have had a sleep number bed for many years. We love it.
Jo- You're probably right. But for a night or two, it's delicious. Mr. Moon can't sleep on one fulltime because it makes him sweat. Seriously.
Lucy- Good advice. And I've always had this problem with faces and names. Always. Earliest memories onward.
AE- Check out Prosopagnosia. You may have it.
Mwa- You may have it too.
Bethany- It is eleven o'clock in the morning and I am in full make-up mode. Have a good time? Okay. I'm trying.
Ms. Fleur- I usually do the "Hey" greeting but stretch it out in a southern way to about fifteen syllables. This way it sounds as if I am being very friendly and have a clue as to who I'm talking to. What do you think?
Memory foam is devine, but I didn't know all the other stuff about it. :(
ReplyDeleteSo DID he play for Auburn?
You are a beautiful couple.
ReplyDeleteI'm really bad at remembering people too.
Oh. Umm. I'm sorry. Do I know you? Have we met?
You look fantastic! And I remember most faces but never names. I also can't remember where those faces belong, exactly. So I pretend to know everyone. Even complete and total strangers, which baffles them. But I have made friends with some very lovely people that way.
ReplyDeleteIt's scary. I usually never forget people, spot them from afar, even at a remove of years. Or at least I know I know them from somewhere. But of late, it's getting fuzzier... I'm forgetting people altogether.
ReplyDeleteI have real priblem with shortterm memory and facts/responsibilites/engagements etc, so it's scary that the longterm memory seems to be fading too!
You two are the cutest damn couple!
ReplyDeleteThat works!
ReplyDeleteOne of my sons has prosopagnosia. He often complains about being lonely at recess, because he can't "find" his friends without the visual cues that usually tell him who is who in the classroom (like who is sitting at which desk). He also can't reliably match names to faces, even with kids that he has been in the same class with for years...he doesn't exactly ingratiate himself by walking up to them and demanding "who are you again?", but he is Aspie too and a little blunt at the best of times. lol One day I went to the school to pick him up, wearing my hair in braids instead of the customary ponytail and he refused to get in the car with me, until I had talked to him for awhile...he was using my voice to figure out who I was, since the new hairdo had thrown off his usual methods of recognition.
ReplyDeleteIt is tough on him at times. Tough to fit in and make nice, when you don't know who is who.
Evangeline- Wow. He has it BAD! Bless his little heart. I can remember as a child thinking that if I changed MY hair, the little boy down the road would not recognize me which tells me that I have used other clues to identify people for a long time, but I'm not nearly as bad as he is.
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