The first real experience I ever had with anxiety happened while driving at night in the rain. The details are unimportant but I was following a friend who was driving like a bat out of hell, passing semi's left and right on the interstate and there was a blinding rain and I suddenly realized that truly, I was going to pass out. This was pre-cellphone so I couldn't call him and say, "Listen, I have to pull over," but I did have to pull over.
He managed to realize I wasn't following him and exited and came back and found me but it was a horrible, terrifying experience and that was the beginning of my relationship with anxiety- a relationship that has shaped my life and not in a good way.
I get chills just thinking about it.
I didn't really get crazy anxious today. I was driving on roads I could probably drive with my eyes shut and it wasn't raining so hard that I couldn't see but still, I felt a little on the whack side.
If you know what I mean.
My errand involved a plant nursery and if you've ever shopped at a plant nursery in the rain, you know it's not ideal. I did find an umbrella in my car and considered myself lucky. I made my purchase and drove back home but it wasn't much fun and I laid down and slept for awhile to recover but that didn't work entirely well and now I'm wondering if maybe I'm getting what Lily has which is some sort of upper respiratory thing and looks and sounds horrible. I just don't feel right.
But. Tomorrow we are traveling to St. Augustine, one of my favorite cities in the world, to celebrate the fortieth anniversary of Lon and Lis who, coincidentally are two of my favorite people in the world. So I can't be sick because forty years is truly something and the way I love those two people is truly something and plans have been made and that is that. It's just going to be a quick trip. Over tomorrow, come back on Monday. The celebration is going to be held at a restaurant where Lon and Lis have had a regular Sunday evening gig forever. They'll play one set and then friends will take over the stage and folks will gather and dine and toast the beautiful couple.
Sounds lovely, doesn't it?
And it's all outside on the Matanzas River which makes it even better.
I got us a room via Airbnb in a restored "vintage" motel which makes me laugh. It'll be fun. I know it will be. I always have a good time in St. Aug. When the Williamsons lived there in a gorgeous old house that they'd restored, I used to visit them a LOT.
Oh, the fun we had! I look back on those days and can hardly believe that I was the same person.
I guess that actually and in reality, I'm not.
For example- Lis and I used to love to shop. Can you believe that? Of course St. Augustine is filled with great places to shop from the outlet mall to the oldest family-owned places and we enjoyed them all. I remember one place we used to love to treasure hunt in which was owned by a Cuban lady who made all the clothes in her little hole-in-the-wall place and she used the most gorgeous fabrics. Silk velvet, especially. I still have a skirt I bought from her. She loved and adored Lis.
Of course, everyone did.
And everyone still does.
There are going to be a LOT of people at that restaurant tomorrow night.
So. We'll be heading off to an adventure. Our next trip will be to North Carolina to see the Weatherfords. I talked to Jessie today and asked her if August still remembers my name. She assured me that he does. Here's a picture she took yesterday and sent to me.
See the rainbow?
Levon still has his fa-fa and I find that so sweetly heart-tugging. Any kid can have a security blanket or a stuffed animal that they tote around but Levon Cobb Weatherford has security shovels.
He's the son of an engineer daddy.
I just went and tasted the black beans.
Oh. My. God.
So, so good.
I guess I better go make something to go with them. I'm tempted to make a pan of cornbread and call it done but I suppose a vegetable or two would not be a bad idea.
If I don't post tomorrow it's because I'm having too much fun.
That's the plan, anyway.
So don't worry. I'll still be alive.
we're having 15 bean soup with onions, garlic, homegrown tomatoes and cornbread for dinner but it didn't rain. I watered. go have fun.ReplyDelete
You talking about shopping made me realize that when I went shopping in Todos Santos in March was the first time in a long time that I remember enjoying shopping. A little town -- probably more like St. Augustine than LA -- and wandering in and out of little shops -- so much fun. I wish you'd been with me. I hope you have a wonderful time with your Lon and Lis -- be safe, always.ReplyDelete
I wish you a safe trip and a fun time! That photo is adorable and some rice would go well with that bean soup and give you a complete protein. I eat mine with rice and greens. Have a good night.ReplyDelete
I had black beans for supper tonight, too. And chopped tomatoes, corn and lima beans. I need to get to the grocery store soon! Safe travels.ReplyDelete
Your shopping skills are probably pretty good, catch / release sort of shopping. A day out of the heat will be joyful no matter what- and a fresh bed with other peoples sheets will also be nice. You will have a great time, I just know it.ReplyDelete
It seems that I have a mutual friend with Lis on Facebook you can look it up, as would not want to put anyone's name on the web without permission. She is a really cool person. She also restored a old house in St Augustine. Love GailReplyDelete
Oh Mary, I hope you’re not getting whatever Lily had...so looking forward to being with you and Glen and celebrating our beloved L&L in olde St. Augustine towne!ReplyDelete
I made a black bean soup with weird spices in it and it tastes, er, interesting, but I'm gonna eat it anyway because it's good for me and my mother raised me not to waste food. I didn't think I could fuck up black beans but I managed.ReplyDelete
Oh lawd, the anxiety will pass. But it's a mean mofo.
Are you staying, by any chance, in that restored vintage motel with the mermaid on the sign?! I photographed that place! Have a great time in St. Augustine, and let us know how it goes. Levon and his "security shovel" crack me up.ReplyDelete
A security shovel! That's so sweet! I hope you have a wonderful time with your old friends. I think one reason shopping becomes less attractive is that clutter gets greater with the years. I get some satisfaction chucking things out!ReplyDelete
Have a wonderful time!ReplyDelete
Catching up. Have a great time on your trip!ReplyDelete
Safe travels, and have a wonderful time celebrating your friends' milestone. Levon and his shovel make me laugh.ReplyDelete
I SO wish you a wonderful time with Lon and Lis and countless other friends....... the time will pass too quickly.ReplyDelete
Awww I am so happy that your going to be able to share in your friends special time and enjoy being with them and so many others who share their sentiments as well. It really is special. I hope that you feel better tomorrow.ReplyDelete
It could be the rain and the trip brought on the anxiety. I will send you healing vibes that tomorrow everything will be just awesome. I have never stayed at a Airbnb so I hope that it is great.
Rest well. I am making some vegetable beef soup tomorrow with corn bread. I should have gone to the grocery today while I was at Walmart looking for some catnip but my left leg is bothering me and I will send my son in tomorrow for the last few things that I need.
Have a great trip. Beth Reed
Enjoy the celebration of beloved friends. I am too anxious to drive in new york city, or on highways here, and it's all about the changing lanes for me. I was so fearless in my youth, and then I had children and my imagination began working even more hyperactively, so I do understand that scenario you describe. your title, by the way, made me smile.ReplyDelete
I hope that the trip to St Augustine went well. Some places give us a good feeling inside and when we get back to them it can be like coming home.ReplyDelete