Sunday, August 21, 2016

Thought For Today




If anything ever convinces me to quit Facebook for good and forever, it may well be the phrase so often left in comments, "Sending healing thoughts."
"Sending healing vibes" comes in a close second.
"Sending prayers" is just the cherry on top of the cowgirl of my deep disdain for such expressions.

No one ever says, "Sending money."

One wonders why.

Actually, one does not.



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  1. Yikes. I will never again write those words but I confess I will still on occasion think them with all my heart. I love you.

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    1. I will still write them because sometimes that all i can do. But also, I try to back it up with action and cold hard cash when i can.

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    2. I don't know why these phrases just piss me off. I guess because they are so widely used and signify very little of real use. If I were a believer in healing energy being transferred from one place to another, or vibes, or prayers, I wouldn't be bothered at all. I'm just not a believer. I think a simple- I love you- is far preferable in most cases. Or...I'm thinking about you. This is a truth in most cases. It is when I say it. And Angella- I know you mean it when you say it. NOLA, you are a back-it-up with reality sort of gal.

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  2. right!? praying for you. don't. just don't. you want to help? do something concrete or just shut the fuck up.

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    1. it's OK to express condolences or make some kind of compassionate statement but that one just rankles.

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    2. Agree completely, Ellen. I do.

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  3. Ha ha ha! I am guilty of sending healing thoughts, but my thoughts really are meant to be healing. I would love it if someone sent me money when I was in distress. That ALWAYS helps, no matter the problem.

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  4. So no, healing prayers don't help much, but in truth, I've often seen people sending money. Loads of facebook-enaled fundraisers, for strangers, for friends you don't know in groups, for sick kids etc. Quite frequently. One made on the internet friend has indeed sent me money, a significant amount over the last few years. Mind you, she's as enraged at the concept o religion as you are, so maybe there's a link there.

    My art teacher once told me she included me in her prayers, and it freaked me right out. These days, things are a bit bleak and stressful and I feel like I'll take anyone's good wishes and energy and my own are so depleted, even if it doesn't change the situation a jot.

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    1. This is true. But honestly, the number of Go Fund Me's are increasing so much that I just skip over them.

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  5. Guilty. Gosh, I mean it when I send healing or good thoughts. I really think good things for the person. But I don't want to piss you off so I will keep the thoughts to myself from now on. I love you.

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    1. Good thoughts is honest. "Healing thoughts..."
      They need to do a study. I guess that for me it's the same as saying "sending prayers" which really does piss me off because, well...religion.
      Love you too, Joanne. You can say whatever you want to me. It'll be okay.

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  6. I say that kind of shit sometimes. When I don't know what else to say. I don't say that I am praying because I don't anymore.

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    1. I know. We all do it. I don't know why it's suddenly just more than I can bear.

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  7. Okay, Sister Moon. So even though I'm a pray-er (and you know that about me) I have to say. . .when my sister passed away? One of the most comforting things any one ever said to me was this: "You are fucking kidding me! Deanna is gone?! She had a heart attack out of the blue? Damn. That shit is fucked up. I'm sorry to hear that shit, KD." LOL LOL I laugh every time I think of it. Now, I find myself saying something similar to that (with a few less expletives.) I say, "Man. I'm sorry to hear that. Know that I'm thinking of you." And yes, I do pray about it but mostly for their piece of mind. And rarely do I tell them so. Something about "that shit is fucked up" was more comforting than I ever imagined.

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    1. Oh, and if it's a really, really good friend? I say those exact words. "That shit is fucked up." ;)

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    2. Yeah. I would so much rather hear honest words of reaction than worn-out platitudes of pablum.
      It's nice to hear your voice again, dear Doctor.

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