Tuesday, August 20, 2024

We Packed Up All Our Cares And Woes


This was taken from my chair under the cypress tree at the river where Glen and I went this afternoon to cool off and peace out. 

"Peace out" is not a phrase I generally use or, to be honest, EVER use, but it just seems so appropriate at this very moment. I got so hot working outside today and I felt like crying for no reason most of the day and I've had such unloving feelings about myself because who knows why? and if I were still a young woman I'd blame it all on hormones but I am not a young woman and I just don't know what was going on. But what all that adds up to is that I needed a plunge in the river to let those cold, clear waters wash away the twitchy stuff going  on in me.



That's the boat ramp area where you can see how clear the water is. While we were in the water I even saw a tiny little turtle, swimming near the white sand bottom, moving faster than one could imagine such little paddle feet able to go. A small gator was seen as well. Glen saw it, I didn't. I'm this close to blind in the water without my glasses. He assured me that it was just a baby. 

And now I feel reborn once again. As I said on our drive home, I never feel like the same person coming home from the river as I do going to the river. Everything seems less fraught with difficulty, my mind is so much less apt to jump on every worst-case scenario it can come up with. I am simply more at peace with myself and my world. 

I worked outside today some and it's just too damn hot to do that. First I picked some more peas and then I started working on the camellia bed which is just filled with weeds and the eternal invasive plants. I discovered a new one today- a different species of crocosmia whose blooms look like withered up gumballs. Not attractive. Where did these come from? I've lived here twenty years and I've never seen them before. Have they just been lying dormant, waiting for the right moment to shoot up and torment me? Of course there was the regular crocosmia and the border grass, my two most familiar nemeses. The glory bower is having a wonderful summer, and there are a few bamboo out there that escaped the kick. And other stuff that I don't even know the names of. 
I got out the big loppers (thanks, Boud!) and cut back some Japanese Magnolia branches and the largest bamboo as well as a few camellia branches. I probably worked for about an hour at which point I was DONE and Mr. Moon was ready for the river too. He's been working on repairing the fence. 
And off we went and that made all the difference. 

I did something today I've never done before which was to walk through a golden orb weaver spider's web and discover a few moments later that the lady spider herself was now riding on my shoulder. 
I was a bit taken aback! As I've said, the spiders have not reached their full maturity yet and are only about the diameter of a Ritz Cracker at this point but that's still pretty big if you're talking about a spider on your own personal shoulder. 
I brushed at the girl but didn't see her land and was immediately convinced she was on my head or back but then I saw her on my arm and I brushed at her again and she fell to the floor of the porch. Hopefully unharmed. 


And now we know which side is up. The scary mask side. Oh my goodness. I just noticed a screw head in that picture, caught between the boards. 

While we're discussing metal implements that hold things together, here's a nail that Glen found in the yard a few days ago.


I wonder how old it is. It looks like it might have been hand-forged. Or whatever you call it when someone makes a nail themselves. 

And one more wonder that I found in the yard today. 




And elephant ear bloom. It's about seven inches or so long. Is that not enchanting? 

I think it is. 

Love...Ms. Moon




44 comments:

  1. The yard work you do is just amazing to me. I can't deal with the heat and humidity. But... to having a nice cooling river not too far away to enjoy sounds heavenly.

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    1. The river is quite literally our saving grace.

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  2. I think I might have died to have a large spider on my shoulder. I had a teeny tiny one on my sleeve the other day, and that freaked me out. I jumped out of the car, brushing my sleeve furiously, checking to see where it went, and then goosebumps all over because, IT WAS A SPIDER!
    I feel like shit today. If I was an emoji, today I would be "Meh" or maybe even the "Shit" emoji, or both. I just want to cry.
    Perhaps I need a dip in some water.

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    1. I will absolutely admit I was not totally sanguine about having that spider on my shoulder. But small ones probably would not bother me so much.
      I wish you could get a dip in the water. It really might help.

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  3. I like the expression "peace out" - it is a little more affirmatory and kindly than the modern alternative - "chill out".

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    1. I'm afraid I say "chill out" fairly frequently. Then again, I have five grandchildren.

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  4. That looks like a hand cut nail. There are probably more, maybe under the crocosmia. Swimming seems to reset you so well.

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    1. God knows what lies beneath the crocosmia.
      We don't really do much real swimming. Just plunging and then standing about in it, feeling our core temperatures drop dramatically.

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  5. I am not good when it comes to spiders 🕷️ and other creepy-crawlies! I don't know what I would have done other then freak out!
    The ceremonial roll call at the DNC for Harris/Walz is loud and raucous tonight!

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    1. I have not been watching the convention but I have loved the clips I've seen. Especially of the Obamas. God I love those two.

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  6. Our orb spiders are half that size, but just as cool. We had one for years in a V of the front deck, though we also grudgingly admitted, they must be daughters and granddaughters.

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    1. It is nice to think of one special lady spider coming back year after year, isn't it? But it's pretty cool to know that each year's spiders are the daughters of last year's.

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  7. The spiders on my property outside are tiny. The webs are like thin white strings with no real design to them. Your spiders are large and colorful with interesting web designs. Fascinating how different spiders can be.
    Working outside in high heat and humidity is most difficult. Overheating makes it worse. The river looks fantastic and cool. A swim is lovely and refreshing. I'd love to have that river at my doorstep.

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    1. We are constantly wondering how we could move the Wacissa to our back yard.

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  8. Water cleanses more than the body - it washes out the detritus of life from our very being.

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    1. Absolutely. And I have always been drawn to it. Rivers, seas, lakes, creeks...
      Water.

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  9. Perhaps you should visit the river daily. It seems soothing to you.

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    1. We go about twice a week these days which is nice. We've talked about having a regular day to have a day date, to get a sandwich somewhere and take it down there like we did a few weeks ago and spend some real time.

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  10. This is all enchanting. I wonder if there’s a way for you to implant that river feeling and call it up whenever you need it.

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    1. I have tried! But nothing works like actually being there. I think it might even have something to do with the chemistry (biology?) of the air as it rises from the river. It's like a drug.

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  11. I would lay a square egg if that thing landed on me! Pretty from a distance but ....! Sometimes in the mornings when I open up the windows to open the shutters I end up putting my head through a massive web that has been spun the night before. That's enough for me and they aren't nearly as big as the one in your picture!

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    1. "... lay a square egg ...!" made me laugh out loud! Ouch!!

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    2. I've never heard that expression, Treaders! Would that be like shitting a brick? Somewhat similar experience I would imagine and I would not enjoy either.
      The very thing that makes spider webs so successful in trapping other bugs for the weaver to eat also makes it too easy for us humans to just push right through them.

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  12. I'm so glad you have the river cose enough to go and jump in whenever you need to. I might have brushed the spider onto a plant.

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    1. I don't think I was thinking too clearly. It was more of a "get-this-off-me! situation.

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  13. I have never seen an elephant ear flower. I didn't even know they were capable of flowering, though I suppose they'd have to reproduce somehow, wouldn't they?

    When I lived in Florida it was always my personal nightmare that I'd walk through a banana spider web and have the spider on me. Fortunately it never happened, at least not that I ever discovered.

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    1. I've certainly never had an elephant ear of my own bloom. I was somewhat shocked to see it.
      You would know if you walked through a banana spider web- those things are so strong you almost bounce off of them.

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  14. You are so lucky to have that river!
    Many years ago, when we were young and foolish and poor, we somehow managed to buy an old manor house (we were eight people and it was cheap and derelict). The records of its origin were patchy, it wasn't a big estate kind of building. In the end a local historian determined the year it was probably built by identifying the method and material of the hand-made nails we found in the walls. So hold on to these nails, they are like a birth certificate.

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    1. We know exactly when this house was built. I'm pretty sure it's been occupied since it was built. For the most part, anyway. But yes, there are people who are so familiar with building styles and materials that they can date old buildings. Pretty cool, isn't it?

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  15. No, I am not a fan of spiders and would have screamed about that spider being on me.
    I'm glad you had a nice cool-off in the river and felt better afterward.
    I hope you are saving that old nail with other treasures you have found.
    My peace lily has a flower that looks like that only it is about 3 inches long so not as large as yours. Are those plants related?

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    1. Oh yes. I'm saving the nail.
      And I just looked up the peace lily/elephant ear thing and they are related. Turns out that peace lilies aren't really lilies at all.

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  16. my sister had elephant ears at her previous house that would get huge every summer. I dug up some of the roots and planted them here in a shady spot where I thought they would thrive. nope. if I get half a dozen small leaves I feel lucky. guess I should dig them up and try another spot. I have not seen any spiders this year, not even the shield orb weavers. maybe it's a bit early. and I totally get how the river makes you feel. back when...returning home I felt like a different person from the one I was when I left. some of that had to do with the fact that I was a different person, just me without kids or husband among people who did not know me in my regular life.

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    1. This bloom may have come about because of the extra amount of sun the plants are getting after the Bradford pears were removed. As I said on your blog the other day, we are having to readjust our thoughts on what will grow back here and what won't.
      And Ellen- I totally get what you're saying about your experiences on the river. I am so glad you had all of that as a part of your life and I surely wish you hadn't had to give it up.

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  17. omg, Mary, we are the same, I have been having such unloving feelings about myself, too, and can't begin to discern what brought it on. I wish I lived near the Wicassa and could go and baptise myself in its cold clear waters. I am glad you get to do this, to peace out, as you say, which I think is a different and more literal usage than how my children say it, which for them, usually means "deuces, i'm out." I like how I imagine you mean it. I am going to go and sit under a tree and try to peace out, as well. Hugs, dear friend.

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    1. Why do we do this? And it's so random. Hormones? The lack thereof? The moon? Our dreams the night before? Who knows?
      Yes. When I think of "peace out" that's what I think of too but it fits the feeling I get at the river so very well.
      And hugs to you my darling friend.

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  18. You are retired. A trip to wash away your cares and woes sounds like a good thing for your ADL list. Our alligator has been in Lake Erie for 3 weeks now and has not been captured.

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    1. I told my daughter about that alligator! We wondered what in the world they'll do if they do capture it. I mean- will they haul it to Louisiana or something? They can't just re-home it in the Pennsylvania woods.

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  19. I’ve peaced out today and like you needed it

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    1. Sometimes we just have to stop and do something that sooths us. I'm glad you got to do that too.

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    1. Well, I didn't actually love having it on my body.

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