I spent about three hours today pulling the two types of plants you can see here- the dollar weed and the betony. As with icebergs, there is more beneath the surface than above, only in this case it's roots, not ice.
This is not a real post. I mostly wrote a real post but I need to ponder about it some more. It's about sex if you want to know the truth and although I think of myself as a pretty open and honest person, sex is still something that triggers shame and shyness. Don't you think?
So that's why this isn't a real post but it is a real post in the sense that I am saying Hello! Hello! How are you? I am fine.
Here's Maurice. She needs to go to a fur salon.
I would brush her but I don't have any elbow-length padded gloves.
I'll be back tomorrow.
I feel no shame about sex or shyness. I don't, however, talk freely about this subject with certain people. Not because I have shame or shyness but because I don't feel the need to endure their repression. I did a post about sex once...S is for sex...which included a quite graphic depiction carved in stone in a temple in India. Art. OMG, my blog was flagged for months as having 'adult content' and the hits I got via search engines from the middle east and other more repressive areas than ours were out the roof. Otherwise, I love to talk about sex. To be honest, I was quite promiscuous between marriages and I think it's a shame that religion has attached so much shame to the most insistent biological imperative. That's the patriarchy for you. Can't allow women to indulge in their sexuality.ReplyDelete
Honest to god. There are so many layers to sex and sexuality that we could go down thousands of rabbit holes in discussing this most basic human urge. I had more than a few lovers myself before my first marriage and after that subsequent divorce. It turns out though, that I am about as monogamous in marriage as a person can be.Delete
And religion and the patriarchy (can you divide those two) really don't want women to enjoy their sexuality. Or even believe they have one, for that matter.
maybe we *should*? Pending context on your part to initiate the discussion. I think your *family* here. (myself included) is more than open to ANY discussion. Maurice's fur looks totally normal to me....she's wearing her winter coat! Hope Mr Moon came home with fish and that fish is what is in your frying pan at the moment! Along with a loaf of your freshly baked bread, of course!ReplyDelete
Thanks, Susan! Your response is noted!Delete
I was thinking that Maurice just has her winter coat. I never see that cat grooming herself though. She's a hard-ass.
There were fish indeed! We'll be eating some tonight.
Maurice has a comb for a tongue, she obviously is just not interested. Sex? Nope. No thank you.ReplyDelete
You're right. Maurice is not much of a groomer. She accepts herself as she is!Delete
I think sex is for experiencing rather than talking about. So I'm fine with your deflecting to the car's coat!ReplyDelete
But what makes sex different from dining? We certainly enjoy dining and we talk about what we're cooking and what we're eating all the time! Pleasure AND pleasure.Delete
But I take your point.
FRESCA here. Why not? People don’t have to read it, if u make the topic clear.ReplyDelete
That said, they probably would, and then weigh in—if you don’t mind dealing with that.
Of course I would not mind dealing with that!Delete
I think it entirely depends upon one's inhibitions about that topic or any other topic as to the comfort level of talking about it. And of coarse, one's own experiences, positive or negative, that might make any topic a Trigger or a Taboo subject. My Kids and Grandkids know they could discuss anything openly and without shame with me and my comfort level made the topics approachable... I'd rather they discuss anything and everything with someone trusted than to get the information elsewhere and from questionable sources. So, Sex as a topic has never been something they couldn't talk about or felt any Shame or Embarrassment with or particular Shyness... but it also depends on the Kid/Adult and their distinct personality too.ReplyDelete
Beautiful comment, Ms. B.Delete
BTW I keep scrolling down to Maggie sleeping. Perfect child, she is miraculous , that face!!!ReplyDelete
She is our angel cherub!Delete
Talk about whatever you like. just know that your blog can be flagged or taken down. No shame here.ReplyDelete
Well, you know there would be nothing graphic at all.Delete
Shame or shyness about sex, no. I feel bored. Why is this a subject, that always surfaces no matter what people are discussing? They do not discuss the need to take a pee, have a glass of water or eat breakfast every day. It is after my opinion a subject mostly belonging to your own home (bed). I don't want to know the colour of your pee, or how you make love to your husband/wife. There's a reason they are called private parts. Keep them off of me, please.ReplyDelete
Such an interesting comment, Charlotte! Fact is, I do discuss peeing quite a bit in regard to stopping to do that in the woods when I walk and just as I would not describe the color of it, I would not describe specific sex acts, either. But I completely understand that not everyone has open feelings about discussions of sex.Delete
I have no problem with the topic. None of us would be here without it. You have piqued my interest, though.ReplyDelete
I find cultures based on repressive religions struggle with discussing sex and death. Eastern cultures handle these things so much better.
Forget the padded gloves - you'd need full body armour to tackle that cat.
You are so right. Religion plays a HUGE part of how sex is regarded and the emotions that form around it. Seems to me that one of religions' most universal tenets is to try and control and suppress people's natural urges. The patriarchy has a great deal to do with this.Delete
You're right about Maurice.
I have the shyness and prefer not to talk about sex or even watch sexy scenes on TV, but that's just me.ReplyDelete
Many, many people feel that way, darling woman.Delete
No shame or shyness here. But I do choose who I talk about sex with because as ellen said, I don’t care to deal with people’s repression or judgment. I also don’t want to make those who do feel shyness or shame uncomfortable if we aren’t in a situation where we can have a gentle and constructive sharing about the subject. But if you want to talk about sex dear Mary, I’m here for it, and you, all day long.
Damn but I love you.Delete
Sex is a bodily function that help keeps us healthy, however, good sex requires trust on my part. I never had a curvy body, built more like a boy, so I was always shy about my body. Now that I'm plumper than I've ever been, have rolls around my middle and lots of jiggly bits, I'm less shy. WTF.ReplyDelete
Sending hugs Mary.
I think that our attitudes about sex necessarily change as we get older. In good ways, often. Which is pretty delightful!Delete
I told my friends that when I watched "White Lotus", in the first episode there is a scene where the Dad is examining his "private parts" and it is in full view and my first thought was, "Gee, how long has it been since I have seen that?" And I could not remember when?! So you can talk about sex, Mary, but I may not remember much. (Funny, not funny)!!??!!ReplyDelete
TV can be a bit shocking, even to those of us who are in relationships! Things have certainly changed there!Delete
I knew a woman who, years after her husband died, told her GYN at a check-up to please clean out the cobwebs while he was up there. I have always loved that story.