Friday, January 10, 2025

Not Really A Book Review But Sort Of

I've just had the strangest experience. 

I've been listening to the Miranda July novel, "On All Fours." July is an extremely talented individual, known for her writing,/directing, screenplays, acting...

All of that stuff. Awards have been involved. She's an unwavering feminist and is also known for her refusal to be coy about sex. 
Shall we say. 
And there's a lot of sex in "On All Fours." Lots of different kinds of sex. There is also a great deal of fantasy and gender roles and what equality does and does not look like in relationships. Ageism is explored. The gendering of children is questioned. Dementia, death by suicide, menopause, and different lifestyles are examined. Parenting is big in this book. Also, a medical situation called Fetomaternal Hemorrhage. 
It is a lot. 
And for almost the entire book, I've been going along with it because she's a good writer. She can turn a phrase like nobody's business. She can dive right into common fears and uncomfortable topics without pausing a second on the diving platform. She can push a boundary, y'all, until it's in another state. 
But. The story left me fairly unmoved. I mean, I've felt many of the emotions that the main character in the novel feels. I've even had a few of the experiences in slightly different forms. July, however, takes these things to extremes, leaving me feeling a bit winded and exhausted and strangely uninvolved. Her attitude seems to be- if you're going to do something, just fucking do it. And then explore all aspects of how it makes you feel until you've completely wrung out every bit of what you could learn from the experience, how you can use it in your life and then talk about it to a patient and loving friend until the sun comes up. All of this to such an extreme that I sort of wanted to shout, "Get on some damn medication, woman!" She does go on bio-identical hormones and that is certainly something I can relate to. 

So, yeah. The book is certainly good enough for me to keep listening. July herself narrates it and her narration is rather flat. At first that bothered me but I finally got used to it. So that didn't help but at least if an author reads their own book, you can be pretty sure that you're getting the appropriate emotions through the words. 

And then. In the last half hour of listening, there was a scene that hit me so hard that I stood in my kitchen and sobbed. And it was the simplest scene in the book. I'm not even going to try and describe it because that would not be fair to the novel but I'll just say that it was pretty primal and nothing I'd seen coming. And incredibly intense. 

I've still got another twenty-one minutes left to listen. This whole discussion may become meaningless by the time I finish. I am not going to try and predict how the ultimate ending will go. But I guess what I'm saying is that one scene in the book made it all completely worth reading for me. 

If you've read it, I'd like to hear what you thought. 

I've been domestic today, doing domestic things. I even did a little cleaning of bathrooms as Candie hasn't been here in awhile. I watered some plants, did some laundry, remade the bed with the clean sheets, hemmed some new overalls and picked just a few greens to go into tonight's soup. 

I didn't take one picture today but here's a picture of last night's loaf of oat bran/whole wheat bread. 

Isn't that a pretty little thing? It was good too and will be good tonight with the soup. 

Mr. Moon's been putting a new water pump on a Subaru that he's selling to a friend. 
All day. 

In other words, everything's normal around here. 

Happy Friday, y'all. 

Love...Ms. Moon


41 comments:

  1. That audiobook sounds a little over the top for this listener. I don't agree that writers reading their own work convey the emotions accurately. I've heard some terrible ones whose nerves perhaps overcame the meaning.
    So I have joined the ranks of people who discuss something they haven't read!!
    Mr Moon is endlessly fixing things, what a dynamo.

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    1. In this case, though, the writer/narrator is also an actor. I do not think nerves were involved. I don't think this book is for everyone but it has a lot to say about women in their forties and what a dangerous time that can be for them. THAT I could relate to. I still remember.
      Mr. Moon is something else, isn't he?

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  2. Thanks for the review, Not a read that I would dive into, I reckon , so I appreciate you doing so.
    Otherwise she is an interesting woman isn't she!!

    Your bread is perfect, no cracks or blubs over the edge of the pan! Picture of what perfect loaf should look like. You get a blue ribbon and a free ticket on the whirly ride!!

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    1. I'll give the free ticket to Maggie!
      That book is certainly not for everyone.

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  3. I am almost tempted to read it to work out what brought you to tears but I think it might be too much for me.
    That loaf of bread is a work of art. I am still trying to work out why mine rise unevenly in the oven.

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    1. It was such an immediate reaction when that part of the book was read. Just deep, deep sobs. Struck a chord, I guess.
      Reading about sex is not a trigger for me. Violence? Yes.

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  4. It’s the only book I actually purchased last year. I 100% adored it and I bought a small vial of tonka bean perfume for when I reread it in a couple months. XO Rebecca

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    1. I, too, want the tonka bean perfume or soap or whatever. Is it as delicious as she makes it sound? I love that you loved the book.

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    2. Yes on the tonka bean perfume sample so worth it! XO

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  5. I don't as a rule read fiction, although some memoirs could be classified as semi fiction. But I have had audio books ruined by the reader. How they pick these people I will never know. I can't recall the last book that swept me away like that.
    Carol

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    1. Ah- but the other side of the coin is- some narrators are so good that it makes the book that much better.

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  6. Your bread looks prize winning and perfect. Freshly baked bread with homemade soup is so good, especially on a cool Winter night.
    I do not think I'll read this book. Not that I don't like studying women's issues, but this goes way beyond that and more toward psychosis and self-analysis.
    Mr. Moon seems to love a project. Having the skill and know-how to accomplish whatever he wants is impressive.

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    1. But how do you know if the book goes into psychosis and self-analysis if you haven't read it? Did you get that from reviews? There definitely is a lot of self-analysis. Psychosis? Hmmm. That didn't strike me as being obvious.

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  7. I wish I could remember books. I seem to remember them for structure, not content. I read a mystery that everyone was raving about and I could only comment that the author had trotted out every murder mystery theme ever tried and could have told the same story with the first half dozen.

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    1. So many murder mysteries are quite formulaic. It becomes a question of how well characters are written for me.

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  8. The book sounds interesting but exhausting for the reader/listener. I don't think I will try it. I can really only handle cozy mysteries these days, too much heavy reading in the past. The bread is luscious and I'm sure it was tasty.

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    1. It's funny, isn't it, that it's less stressful to read about murders than sex?

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  9. Nope. Not something that I would read or listen to. I have no interest in anyone's sex life, real or fictional. I tend to fast forward through movie sex scenes because you know, been there, done that, got 5 sons to prove it.
    I am much more inclined to rave about that beautiful loaf of bread!

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    1. Well, that is one way of looking at it. I don't feel that way. I mean- I know I'll never have another baby but I love reading about other women's births. But we all have our own lines that we feel no need to cross.

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  10. That bread looks amazing! I haven't read that book, haven't even heard of it and I won't be looking for it either. I'm not a fan of deep diving into lives and emotions and the reasons for or why etc.

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    1. And for me, those are some of the most absolutely fascinating things. Otherwise it's just a flat picture of activities.

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  11. Not sure I can relate to that book, but it certainly had A LOT to say from what I've read about it. If you can get your hands on it, trying 'Going Gently' from John Gray's blog of the same name (Going Gently). Apparently, he loved the book so much he named his blog after it. I just finished it and it was great. Another favorite book of mine is "The Story of Edgar Sawtelle".
    That bread looked divine! I could make a meal on that alone! With soup would be fabulous!
    I wish I had the talent(s) and energy Mr. Moon does. Life might have been easier. I can barely plug a sweeper in let alone install a dishwasher or work on cars.
    It was zero on the patio this morning. Snowing right now (11PM). At least we're not dealing with those catastrophic fires in LA. So, won't complain.
    Paranormal John

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    1. Haven't read "Going Gently" but will look for it.
      I have read "The Story of Edgar Sawtelle." I swear I have but I can't remember anything about it.
      Sigh.
      Well, it is good that Glen can do so many things but his life would actually be a lot easier if he'd hire people to do some of this stuff. He just won't, though.
      We had "flurries" this morning! I think it was sleet.

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  12. I am with Granny Sue on this one minus the five sons. Your bread does look lovely though. Best to you and Mr. Moon.

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    1. I am rather surprised at all of the anti-sex-reading-about-sex viewpoints out there.

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  13. That is one very fine loaf of bread. Hope it tasted as good as it looks.

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  14. I may download a sample of that book to see if it appeals. I do have a problem with Audible though in that I find some of the narrators' voices offputting. I have a thing about voices and a bad narrator (or one whose voice I don't like) won't cut it for me! Like the recent one I listened to narrating the story of her husband's affair and her divorce. Her drippy voice drove me mad!

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    1. I have absolutely stopped listening to books because of the narrator but I have also listened to some just because the narrator was so good. It surely can vary.

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  15. I doubt that I would enjoy "On All Fours" - all that tiresome honesty and customary decorum blown away. Instead give me subtlety, shadows and suggestiveness. I don't need TRUTH to be sprayed upon the novel's walls in gaudy letters six feet high.

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    1. Wait. Are you being sarcastic or is that how you really feel?

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    2. And there is nothing wrong with that. I'm just the sort of person who would rather be presented with truth rather than sly innuendos any day of the week. I find those to be a bit sleazy and insulting. Are we not adults? I think that religion, which you and I both agree about, has had way too much influence on how we think and talk about sexual matters, making something that is healthy and part of life into a sordid, sinful act to be hidden in the shadows, as you said. I will not be talking about sex in a graphic way but I do not mind if authors do.

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  16. I have a hard time with audio books because I like to pop back and forth sometimes and also enjoy rereading passages as I go. I’ll await your final verdict on this book and will maybe read it... but it doesn’t sound like one for me. We were once on a road trip and listened to Elliot Gould narrate a hard-boiled murder mystery. I remember his narration drove me crazy (and that he pronounced Oregon like New Yorker — Are-ih-gone). That loaf of bread is a work of art.

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    1. Yes. I agree- that is a downfall of audio books.
      I thought the book was worth reading. It was, up to a certain point, pretty absurd. But- just because someone else's ideas about life and sex and all the good stuff differ from mine, doesn't mean I can't enjoy it. I'll never a guitar player for the Rolling Stones but I sure do love the book Keith Richards wrote.
      I've now started listening to another Robert B. Parker book narrated by our dear Burt. I'm sort of half-listening, probably enjoying Burt's narration more than the actual story.

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  17. I'll put it on my book list, see if the library has it but I don't know. I have less stamina for tedious books and it sounds like that one can get tedious.
    speaking of housework, I really need to sweep/vacuum my floors. Will I do it? (shrugs)

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    1. Well. Hmmm. Tedious. I didn't find it tedious. Others might.
      Vacuum? What are you talking about? I did send Ralph to vacuum this week and I guess he did an okay job.

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  18. My only familiarity with Miranda July is "Me and You and Everyone We Know," which I saw years ago and liked. But I've never read one of her books. I'm just seeing on Wikipedia that she's American. For some reason I was thinking she was British.

    I have never tried an audio book. I suppose I could listen to one on my way to work, but then when would I listen to the "Q-Anon Anonymous" podcast? I have to keep up on the latest conspiratorial thinking by the right!

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    1. I hear you, Steve. I listen to audio books in the day and podcasts at night as I cook dinner. This is how I handle it.
      I have to say that Miranda July is versatile!

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  19. What an intriguing review. Unlike some of your other commenters, I want to dive right into that book. I wonder if the experience of reading rather than listening to her flat delivery will lessen the sense of overwhelm. Will report back!

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  20. It's different. But so is Miranda July, as far as I can tell. Yes! Tell me if you are affected too.

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Tell me, sweeties. Tell me what you think.