Monday, June 16, 2025

Summer And Heat And Bitchiness And Okra And A Really Good Book


Mr. Moon sent me that picture a few minutes ago. That's the new roof he and Owen and a worker or so just finished up. I think it looks very good. Now I have no idea whether or not he plans on doing the roofing of the HOUSE with just that same amount of help or not. We are not really discussing all these things too much. It is still a sensitive subject for me. I figure he's going to do what he wants to do and doesn't need my approval so what's the point? I mean, we are still discussing flooring and things like that. I'm supposed to figure out what the replacement bathroom downstairs is going to look like and I really haven't got a clue and I'm not good at envisioning things like that anyway. No matter what we do, it's still not going to have a window and therefore is never really going to please me. 
But I digress.

After he sent the picture he called to tell me that he's bringing Owen home tonight because they're done with the roof and Owen has something planned with a friend so he (Mr. Moon) will be spending the night here. This is a little disconcerting for me in that I'd already set my mind to being alone tonight and eating leftovers and all that sort of stuff and suddenly, it's oh- by the way, I'll be home soon!
Oh well. We're still going to eat leftovers. And he probably won't be bringing laundry because he's bought a new washer and dryer for the cabin and hooked them up and I believe he is rather enjoying being the first to use them. Then again, the novelty may have already worn off. 

I worked pretty hard today. Not for a long period of time but as long as I could tolerate being outside. First I took a walk to see how my knee felt about physical activity and it felt pretty okay. I wanted to haul a downed branch and the bamboo I removed from the porch ceiling so I dumped all the rain water out of the garden cart (many gallons) and pulled it around to the front yard but before I started in on the bamboo and the fallen branch, I started with cleaning out some other bamboo growing up by the fence and trying to choke a camellia bush and then next thing I knew I was pulling and/or cutting nandina which is yet ANOTHER invasive plant, now popping up in places it's never grown before here and y'all- I am so overwhelmed. I just can't keep up with it. I can't. I also cut back similax green brair vines which are wicked, wicked things, and then, because I am ridiculously stupid, I decided that now would be a great time to trim the sagos which I did not do last winter but I only got three of those done because I was dying. 


Here are two of the three I "trimmed" and when I say "trimmed," I mean removed every poisonous sharp-tipped frond from them. If they die, they die, and you can bet they won't. You'll note the proud male sago there, I'm sure. 
I hauled all the stuff to the burn pile and it took two cart loads to do it. The humidity today has been over 80% and that is not a joke. It's sort of like trying to work in the top of a double boiler at full steam. 

And of course the sad part is that no one in this world would even notice what I did today except for maybe the cutting back of the sagos but I doubt even that. Again I say- I cannot do this by myself. 
And yet, the day I try to hire someone to help me is a day I can't even envision. That's just not what I do. This is part of my type of crazy I don't really understand at all but that's the way it is. 
I'll think about it, though. 

Here are a few other pictures I took today, most from my walk. 


The crepe myrtle in a neighbor's yard. 


An old house I've no idea the history of but I'm sure it has many stories to tell. It was vacant for a very long time and then someone moved into it some years ago but recently they appear to have moved. The house is already getting that look of not being lived in. I doubt anyone plans on renovating it and so it may just go the way of all the other abandoned houses around here. Back to the ground. 
Or perhaps someone will take note of it and decide to make it a project and save it. I hope so. 


A new sign at the My Gypsy Soul Boutique. 
Yes. Somehow the place is still open. Various strategies have been put in place to try and save it, I guess. First came the posters in the windows advertising Tarot and palm readings, then the signs saying, "Smoke shop!" and now they're selling the lottery. 
Smoke shops in Florida are places where you can buy cannabis even if you don't have a license for the medical dispensaries where you can buy legal weed if you do have that medical needs card. There is some loophole that these smoke shops are able to slip through and honestly, if anything could save My Gypsy Soul Boutique it might be drugs. I have to say though, that I have not seen any evidence of cars with people clamoring for almost-legal weed or gummies or pipes or bongs or whatever else they have in there. 
Say what you will- one has to admire that woman's persistent determination that she can make that place work. 

I finished listening to Viola Davis's memoir (read by her, of course), "Finding Me." I could write an entire month's worth of blog posts on all the thoughts I have after listening to the book. All I'll say at this point though, is...wow.
I'm sure the book isn't for everybody, but for anyone who has struggled with past trauma, childhood sexual abuse, racial prejudice, domestic abuse in the family home, poverty like you can't believe- there is a lot here to ponder. Also for anyone who wants to have an idea about what it takes for a woman who has none of the perceived requirements to become a very noted and very awarded actor except for sheer talent, determination, endless work on craft, intelligence, and people who believed in her- this is your book. 
Never once does she do the "oh, poor pitiful me" thing which my god, she has every right to do, she just faces what has happened in her life honestly and head-on. She doesn't make light of them either. Unlike many celebrity memoirs I've read she does not self-praise constantly nor does she pretend to be humble when she was not. 
She knows her worth and that, I suppose is the essence of the book. 
Finding me, indeed.
Highly recommend. 

Here's at least one okra that has grown and matured. 


As I keep saying- I have no idea what's killing my okra plants but it's pretty efficient at what it does. 

Your almost daily shot of zinnias.


On we go.

Love...Ms. Moon


29 comments:

  1. That's a lot of work what you did. 80% humidity though. Yeah. Steamy. Viola Davis's book sounds interesting. I love your zinnias. I plant them every year from seed I harvest and from the previous year.

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    1. I'm lazy and buy new seeds every year. I do get a lot of volunteers from years past though.

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  2. That's not the weather to be out in taming the jungle. I hope you've cooled off now.

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    1. I know. But sometimes the beast must come out!

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  3. So that is okra! I imagined it looking like spinach.

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  4. If only the zinnias could take over instead of the bamboo and nandina.

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  5. I only ate okra once and didn't like it.....not sure why...maybe the texture?

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    1. Okra can indeed be slimy if it's not cooked right. If it's fried, which many people like the very best, there is no slime at all. I like to cook it with onions and tomatoes and there's no slime then either. It is a delicious food, in my opinion. Comes from Africa where it was known as gumbo.
      And it is known as a super food because it has a lot of nutritional benefits.

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  6. The roof looks great and you just know Mr. Moon will be doing the rest of it. I hope you welcomed him home with open arms. It’s tough when you have your mind going in one solo direction and you have to flip. But he IS a keeper. In San Diego, sago palms were like gold. In Fuengirola, a neighbor wrapped hers in cheese cloth every winter. They’d all envy you yours. The zinnias are stunning.

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    1. I asked Glen last night if he intended to do the entire roof himself with help and he said, "Hell, no."
      Thank goodness.
      Open arms? Well, I tried to be sweet.
      Was there a shortage of sago palms in San Diego? They throw pups here like crazy. Maybe not enough moisture? I have no idea. I can't imagine trying to save one of these damn things. No need anyway.As I said, they will not die.

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  7. I can't believe how quickly Mr. Moon got that roof up - he doesn't hang around does he!

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    1. Well, it's just the roof over the carport but I'm pretty darn impressed too!

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  8. Your gardens are just wonderful, and bountiful. I always take care of my own yard, which is about an acre. Probably makes me feel more proud than anything else I do; just hard physical work. Anyway, I hurt my foot the other week. Had to have a service cut my grass. Oh my god, it was lovely. If I could afford it, I think I might have them do it all the time....but alas.

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    1. I think we have about 2 1/2 acres but I could be wrong. I like physical work too. And have done a lot of it in my life. Not as much as some! And it does make us proud when things look nice!
      Glen mows but the yard needs it badly right now. So much rain and he's been gone a lot.

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    2. Oh. And I forgot. The mower's in the shop.

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  9. That roof looks great. I'm surprised he did the porch before the higher part of the house itself. And does the bathroom not have an outside wall a window could be put in? I designed and picked out everything in our two bathrooms when they got remodeled. If I was there I would help you. Maybe I could pawn off the small ice chest of an assortment of patterned tile left over from one of the houses my parents built. Do some quirky with that. And I think you should go with ceramic tile and area rugs for the flooring in the house.

    I haven't gotten to the point when I think I can't manage my yard yet but I've only got half an acre. The other acre and a half is the shop yard and it is out of control in some places, the mowed area getting smaller and smaller as the wild stuff encroaches on two sides.

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    1. Well, he wanted to get that carport roof (not the porch) done because he could do it himself. The main roof is too steep for him to do at this point in his life and he'll hire someone to do it.
      Nope. No wall to the outside except the one with the carport on the other side of it. It's a big bathroom. I know we want a walk-in shower and beyond that, I am not sure. I need to look at some bathroom designs, I guess. It's going to take a LOT of tile. I think he's going to sheet rock some of the walls.
      We are actually discussing using tile for the floors in the house again. We just haven't settled on anything yet.
      I'm probably trying to keep about a little over a half of an acre under control myself but I swear- it might be more. And very little of it is in "lawn." It's becoming a fucking jungle.

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  10. For what it's worth, we hired someone to clear the ivy in our garden, which to me seemed an insurmountable task, and I am happy that we did. For us, it was the right decision. But I did have to let go of all the little controlling impulses that made me worry about whether they were going to step on this-or-that plant or cut something the wrong way or whatever. Everything came out fine.

    So that new roof is on a carport, right? I guess Mr. Moon wanted someplace covered to park his boat? :)

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    1. You're right, Steve. And I do know a guy who owns a landscaping company. I bet he'd know the best way to hire someone to get the job done or probably he has people that do that. I just need to get up off some cash. And yes, control.
      The boat will be parked at the dock! But yes, I am sure the carport will be filled up without it.

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  11. The new roof looks great. Does it face the lake?
    This could make a beautiful indoor-outdoor living space if enclosed with large panels of glass with a bit of overhang to shade the glass.
    For your bathroom, consider looking at bathrooms online. There are many and you might find a picture of a bathroom you love and could give to Glen for implementation. Glen and Owen are doing marvelously well working together at the lake home.
    That Sago looks mighty bold. You say it will grow back. What would happen if you took the chainsaw and cut it at ground level?

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    1. No. The carport does not face the lake. The porch does. I think we will use it a lot more as a carport than we would a glassed-in room which is not very practical here in Florida. And the porch is a lovely one and screened in which is good. We can get breezes but no bugs.
      If that sago got chainsawed to the ground, it would either grow back or give birth to new ones, which are called pups.

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    2. And also, yes. I need to do some online bathroom design research.

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  12. Be careful when you are out working in that heat. Of course, you have lived there forever so you know what you are doing. Do you jump in the kids' blow up pool when you get too hot?
    How about having Gibson as your helper since Owen is helping Mr. Moon? You could pay him and he could learn about gardening and nature?

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    1. I've never had heatstroke in my life and I don't intend to. The kiddie pool is not blown up at the moment and we need to remedy that situation.
      Well, the idea of Gibson helping me sounds good on paper but in real life- that boy has no desire to be outside in this heat, much less doing anything in it.

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  13. Be very happy Mr Moon has his own hobbies and things he gets on with. You are both so industrious- I wish I could do half what you do!

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    1. The thing I like about the cabin the best (okay, maybe the only thing, really) is that it makes Mr. Moon so happy. He's living the dream.
      Neither one of us is the sit-on-our-asses type although I do a lot more of it than he does by far.

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