Wednesday, February 19, 2025

Memory Post


I came across this while I was cleaning up/cleaning out a few days ago. I had not forgotten that I had it. I knew it was in the guest room behind a chair. Grand Finale was a much loved restaurant in Tallahassee in the eighties and nineties, I do believe. Check out the hours they were open. You could literally go in there at three a.m. and order steamed veggies with cheese. Or Crab EtouffĂ©e. Or a good salad or peel and eat shrimp or...well, a fine meal. Not just some late night junk menu with burgers and fries on it. It was located on the Strip on Tennessee Street which is right in the heart of FSU and at that time there were several bars that offered entertainment and Grand Finale was one of them. Students, of course, made up a lot of the bars' clientele but some of us older folks frequented them too. And when I say "older" I mean we were in our thirties, mostly. 
There was a bar right down the street from Finale's called Bullwinkle's and it was legendary. I believe it's still there. It was a rambling place, owned by a man named Jim Smith, a legend himself. When I was in nursing school, I spent a good number of hours there with my girlfriends when my children were with their father. We danced. We danced and we danced and we danced. Our favorite band was called Four in Legion and I have spoken of them before. They were...fucking amazing. 
I eventually made a friend of the guitar player and was with him and his wife when they had their first and second babies. Ziggy Luis was his name and I talked about him when he died a few years ago. He was not only a fantastic guitarist and vocalist, he also wrote songs, was a good husband and dad, and one of the funniest guys I ever met. I still miss him bad. 
But I was talking about Finale's, as we all called it. On Fridays, Bullwinkle's became the place to be for what came to be known as "Hippie Hour" and a whole bunch of us old Tallahassee freaks would make our way over there and drink our drinks and socialize and maybe dance to whatever band was playing and people brought their kids and their dogs because there was a big outdoor area with a stage and a deck. It was so much fun. We'd go to supper afterwards but didn't start going to Finale's until the kids got older and we had babysitters for them. That's when it became our routine, our ritual, to make our way down the sidewalk to Finale's where we'd sit at big tables and eat delicious foods and drink coffee and continue our evening. 
A guy named Cam was the main chef at Finale's and he still lives in Tallahassee. He keeps his hand in the cooking business. He's actually just retired from working as a chef on an oil rig which is probably one of the most important jobs on an oil rig because those people need a lot of calories to do what they do and also, food is probably one of the main pleasures they have, stuck out on those things for months at a time. 
So the point of this endless story is that I have been ready for a very long time to pass on the Grand Finale sign. Missippy James took that sign off the wall outside of the restaurant after it closed and gave it to me. I am not sure why he gave it to me but any gift that James gave me was a gift to be cherished and I have cherished it for a long time but never really had a place to hang it and so today I got in touch with Cam and asked if he wanted it and he said he'd take it and put it on his deck. I bet he's got some truly wild stories about his time there. Finale employees were a community unto themselves and only the strong survived. 

So that's one more thing I've found a new home for. Little by little, letting things go. 

Another thing I'm letting go of is an old funky linen coat thing, not to be confused with my old funky linen gunslinger coat which I will wear until it completely falls apart. 
Before I got rid of it though, I realized that the buttons on it were beautiful and so I cut them off and will keep them which is just something else my kids will have to deal with when I'm dead. 


But who would dare to throw away such mother-of-pearl gorgeousness? I have SO many buttons but honestly, they do not take up a lot of room. And aren't grandmothers supposed to have tins and jars full of buttons? Isn't that part of our magic? I am certain that Owen would still love to go through my buttons, organizing them the way he did as a little boy. I'll have to suggest that next time he comes over. 

Because I am feeling tender right now about people I have loved who are no longer on the same plane as we, the supposed living, I will give you this video of Zig doing Bell Bottom Blues. I always loved his version of it. 



After Four-in-Legion broke up, Zig quit the rock star life and formed a small act called Zig and the Zigtones. Of course. And as life went on and situations changed, he pared it down to a solo act. A man and a guitar, singing and playing as musicians and troubadours have done since time immemorial.
And to bring it all back home, Zig loved Finale's as did so many musicians who played the Strip because they almost never, if ever, got a chance to go and relax after a gig, have a beer, and eat something like steamed vegetables with Havarti cheese. 

I'm going to go steam artichokes. Havarti will not be involved though. 

Love...Ms. Moon


26 comments:

  1. No such thing as too many buttons. I had mom's and gramma's collections. Back when we made clothes for sale sometimes I'd put special buttons from the collection on them. Some time I may write about all the buttonholes I've made. You know you can sew flat buttons like that on with your sewing machine?

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    1. I could use my old Singer for that?
      I wish I could see some of the clothes you made for sale. And I'd love to hear about the buttonholes you've made.

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  2. I know sewing people with great jars of buttons! Never at a loss for choice.

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    1. I believe The Bloggess sticks her hands into big jars of buttons and finds the coolness and… tactileness… of their touch soothing….

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  3. I love that story about the restaurant. What a group of characters you all were! And yes I have a tin of buttons too. When I was little we used to play cards as a family and use buttons to bet with!!! Apparently a tin of buttons would sell quite well at a car boot sale - but I'm not so sure!

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    1. Oh yes. Buttons make great card-playing betting items.
      I won't be selling these buttons any time soon.

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  4. Gunslinger coat?? can you please post a picture of that? I'd love to see what it looks like. You don't have to be wearing it.
    The restaurant sounds fabulous.

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    1. It's not really a gunslinger coat. That's just what Hank calls it.
      The restaurant was pretty amazing.

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  5. I am not a grandmother but I too have a tin of buttons. When we moved years ago, I somehow lost my great-grandmother's tin of buttons. I was amazed at how incredibly sad it made me. I have hopes that one day I will find it; it's just packed away somehow, somewhere, waiting to be found.

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    1. Oh no! Yes, I hope you come across that tin soonish. You will be so happy.

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  6. Yes, grandmothers, and mothers and whoever else, need to have old biscuit (cookie) tins and jars and all sorts of boxes with buttons. I have the one my grandmother had, the one from my mother and even one from my own collecting days. So many children have sorted through them, played long games with them. I already know that my daughter will take them eventually.

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    1. There is something just deeply satisfying about buttons. It's like they make me feel rich in a way.

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  7. I'm glad that sign brought back so many happy memories for you, Mary.

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  8. When I think about your life and my life, they are polar opposites. I spent most of my time home with kids, on my own, until we moved Katie into a group home at the age of sixteen, which would have made me forty-six. I have so few memories or going out with friends, most people didn't like to be around Katie because she would pinch or pull hair. It was a small life, but an important one. Katie needed predictability to feel safe and I guess I gave her that. Anyway, I digress. I love to read about your memories of musicians and hippies, they make me happy.

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    1. Katie did indeed need you. And you gave her what you needed. What an amazing mother you were and what an amazing grandmother/mother you are now.
      I could write about hippies and musicians (often the same people!) for days.

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  9. Such a beautiful, soulful version of a beautiful and soulful song- lovely to listen to-

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    1. In a poignant aside, he'd already been diagnosed with a terminal illness when that little video was made.

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    2. So sad to hear that Mary, it's rare to have such a soulful voice, not to mention the guitar proficiency......this is your brother White

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    3. Hello White. Did you ever get to see Four-In-Legion with us?

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  10. I have a handful of mother of pearl and ivory buttons. Some I took off clothes I was getting rid of and some I found at an estate sale. Maybe one of these days I'll make something I can use them on. Maybe. But I will keep the buttons.

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    1. I feel exactly the same way about my buttons.

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  11. Such tender memories. Why aren’t there any places open till 3 and 4 am anymore. Or do I just no longer know where they are?

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    1. I think it's the latter! And we could never make it that late now. Well, speaking for myself, anyway.

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  12. What a great day with Steve! You've shared excellent pictures and stories of your adventures. We do get to know each other well from our writing--one of the many blessings of blogging.

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