Tuesday, October 21, 2025

My Boyfriend's Home And So Far, No Trouble


First salad greens of the fall and winter garden, 2025.

Well of course I was right and the trip to the lake house was a day-long affair. I will admit that we didn't get out of here until a little after 11:30 so it's not like we got an early start but we didn't get home until a little after five and thank goodness I took our lunch with us. 

On the way over we stopped in Quincy so Glen could get a gallon of diesel for the truck and when he went to restart the vehicle we were in, it only clicked but he did not seem disturbed. We used to have a car out on Dog Island that did the same thing and there was a special, dedicated pipe in the car to hit...something...under the hood with, although I've forgotten what it was. And this seemed to be the same situation except today he used a good heavy wrench. It took awhile for him to get it going again and in the time that he was working on it, a long-haired, grizzly older guy came over and stuck his head under the hood too. Now he had no idea that Glen is The Car Guy and I was so proud of Glen because instead of telling the guy he didn't need him, he stepped back and let him have at it, and then suddenly there was another guy and this is the south. 
Before too long, the engine did indeed catch which is good because I would have been sorely pissed if we'd had TWO dead vehicles. And Glen handled it just right- that man was SO determined that he needed to help my husband and Glen let him. It was a sort of mitzvah, I think. 

We got up to the cabin and the sheetrock was indeed all put up, very neatly, seams smoothed over, all ready to paint. Everything in the house was covered in dust though, and I wiped down the kitchen and the table and the counter but that's all I did. 
Glen went to work on the truck after we had some lunch and I worked on my patch some more and I have no doubt that the entire jacket will shred into threads before that patch goes anywhere. It's a damn good patch. 
Turns out that the parts Mr. Moon brought to fix the truck with were either not what needed replacing or were the wrong size or...wait. I think it needs a new battery. So, I didn't have to drive the Four Runner home myself and I was relieved about that because I was so tired. I couldn't really sleep before the man got home last night and had just fallen asleep when suddenly, there he was! And then there was the greeting and he took a shower and got in bed and was softly, softly snoring before long and I laid there and fretted about not being able to sleep and did my usual sleep-inducing mental exercises along with some slow breathing and I finally fell back into slumber until I woke up and had to pee and then couldn't get back to sleep after that for a long time. 
Very unusual for me. 
I am good, however, at lying perfectly still for long periods of time. This is probably a strategy to fool my body into thinking it's asleep. Or something. Maurice decided it was a family bed last night, now that Dad was home, and she was right there with me but she didn't bother me in the least. 

So I was tired and when Glen said that he'd have to bring a battery for the truck, next time he goes up, I was not sad at all because I really did not want to drive. The way up there is already growing a bit tedious for me. I know all the houses I like and I look at them again and the cotton fields and the tomato fields and the solar farm fields are cool the first time you see them but after that it's sort of the same-same. There's the house with the hole in the roof and the sort-of pink church, and the tidy yards and the junky yards and the pine trees and so on and so forth but honestly, it has lost whatever luster it may have had back in May or whenever we bought that place. 

I took zero pictures up there today. I just didn't feel moved. 

And now here we are at home and we're both tired. I know Glen must be. His day started yesterday early, early before dawn and didn't end until midnight. And he's got more to do tomorrow. 

I've been thinking on and off all day about a comment I got an email notice for from a post I wrote many years ago and the comment was absolutely the most angry comment I've ever gotten. So much vitriol. And I'm not going to identify either the post or the the comment. Although what was being discussed happened 13 years ago, I remember that day, the incident, the person I was writing about quite distinctly. And when I read the comment and went to the post itself and reread it, it seemed to me that I had told only a story which had happened that very day, about a conversation I'd had that very day, and it must have horribly triggered this commenter.
I wrote an answer to it, mostly saying I was so sorry I'd triggered this response with my words but that truly, things had happened just the way I wrote. But then, a few minutes later, I started thinking about it and the comment was so unhinged, so disturbing that I realized this person was not all right and nothing I could say would make any of it all right. So I deleted my comment. But I left theirs up. 

So that happened. I'm not upset, I'm actually sort of surprised this has never happened before. And mostly, I am worried and afraid for the person who wrote the comment because after all these years they are still so incredibly angry and I really do not believe they are angry with me. But my post was a convenient place to unload some of that anger and I am fine with that. 

And that's about it for today. Tomorrow is pottery, packing, making sure the house is ready for Mark, hopefully finishing my patch although no one in the entire world would be able to look at is as it is right now and think, "Yo. She should have finished that patch."

As always...
Love...Ms. Moon

39 comments:

  1. The solenoid? Only reason I know is because when we were first married in 1972 my husband kept a hammer in the car to hit the solenoid with. Margaret

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    1. I believe you are correct! Awesome, Margaret!

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  2. I hope the truck gets 'fixed'. I'm about as mechanical (and techy) as a parakeet. I have no doubt they're much better. I missed that boat. Actually, I missed a lot of boats. Oh well.
    I wonder if that 'angry' person is still around even? Sounds like they had some axes to grind, and you got the axe. I've received the old axe many a time. And life moves on. Did they ever return to your blog?
    Have a fun trip!! Maurice will miss you both.
    Paranormal John

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    1. This was a comment left yesterday. So I guess they just found it and decided I needed to hear their truth. And you know what? Why not?

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    2. Also, I missed a lot of boats too. I did not miss the one into old age though. I'm sailing right along on that one.

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  3. Glen sounds like such a calm person. He's the "car guy" and let the helpers help. That's confidence!

    Wow, about your blog commenter from 13 years ago commenting on something so far in the past. That's something that should be addressed differently, more privately, probably, rather than on a blog. You don't deserve that.

    Enjoy your trip to your favorite place-Roseland! You do deserve that! (I'm glad Maurice has a baby-cat-sitter. Hopefully she doesn't traumatize them with a new squirrel's nest feast! ha.)

    -Nicol

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    1. Glen is very calm. Mostly.
      I may have deserved at least some of that wrath. And I am sure the person just needed to let it out. It was a very serious subject.
      Oh god. I hope Maurice doesn't bring Mark any dead animals. I don't think he'd like that. Then again, who would?

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  4. The lake house doesn't seem to be growing on you yet. How are the repairs going at your Lloyd house?

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    1. Well, you are absolutely right about the lake house. I DO, however, love the fact that Glen would, at this point, do just about anything to make me happier there.
      Floyd, who's going to be doing the repairs here (hopefully) is going to be starting in November (hopefully).

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  5. Your greens look outstanding.
    Car/truck failures always seem to happen at the most inopportune time. Then there is the repair which can take more time and arranging alternative transportation. It's all very inconvenient.
    Roselund sounds like a lovely get-away but also a great place to own property. I'd be tempted to look around. No harm in looking.
    In my experience, angry people are usually not rational and best not to engage. Your decision to delete your response was best.

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    1. That was the best salad, Susan!
      Yes, no one plans on their car breaking down. We don't usually budget for it. Glen's not that perturbed when it happens because he knows he can fix the problem. Mostly.
      I'd love to own a place in Roseland but I would want it on the river and real estate prices there are through the roof.

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  6. if you decide to engage I can be there by this time tomorrow night (9:00) bc nobody messes with my momma in my mind! xxalainaxx

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    1. Oh, you darling woman! Nah. This was a very wounded person and what I'd written about, which affected them deeply and personally, was just too much, I think. I understand the comment and I really don't feel threatened by it. I know the truth of the matter. My own truth, at least, of what happened. And also, there were a few things said in the comment that made no sense at all so...
      Nah. I didn't need to answer.
      But thank you so much for offering to come and help me in my defense!

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  7. Cover yourself with HUGS from me and my family,Ms Moon. Personally I could not truthfully carry a blob because of whatever feelings of anger or misunderstanding that may filter my way. You are your brave voice. I respect you for that . Peace on Girlfriend.

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    1. You know, honestly, I have gotten so very few negative comments in all my years of writing here. Surprisingly so, really. When I do get an angry comment, I pay attention- did I say something that was really not necessary to write about?
      I am torn about that in this instance.

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  8. NOT BLOB.....BLOG SILLY ME

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  9. I cannot say the word sheetrock without flashbacks. Dust, always more dust. Mixed with a furnace that runs on LP gas and you have the perfect storm. A sticky dusty coating everywhere.
    It is endlessly fascinating what ticks people off. Best to let them have the last word. Bless Glen's heart for allowing that man to do the repair. I think it's a very endearing quality to let the other guy be alpha dog.

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    1. It is an incredibly dust-creating situation, isn't it? I can't imagine it becoming a sticky mess. Yuck.
      Glen knew that he did what needed to be done. He could have told the guy, "Nah, I got this. Thanks but no thanks," but obviously the guy really, really wanted to help.

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  10. GADS. Vehicles! I just can't bring myself to talk about vehicles right this minute.

    How strange that someone is reading 13 years back AND getting furious. Best to ignore them. You can disable commenting on old posts on Blogger.

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    1. So funny how you and I go through so many of the same things.
      As to the comment- I absolutely can see why it triggered the person who wrote it. I am sure they googled a name that was mentioned in the comment and somehow- my post came up.

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  11. I'm looking forward to your pottery tomorrow and hopefully, photos of the bowl and spoon rest. And later, much later I'd guess, photo of the finished rooms at the cabin. It's a bit sad the drive going up there has already lost its charm, maybe it will soon at least look different with autumn colours?

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    1. Well, honestly, there never WAS a lot of charm in the drive. Here in Florida we don't get much of the autumn color thing. A few of our trees get some color but mostly they don't.

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  12. I was just thinking the other day about all the coocoo birds of the early blogging days -- I had a whole bunch of trolls that I would actually engage with before I realized how weird and useless it was to do so. Given where the internet has gone and the absolutely incredible lack of civility we see now -- well -- it's all weird and unsettling. I never did get used to that feeling when someone trolled me or expressed a vicious anger --

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    1. I've been so lucky about trolls. Really never had one. And if I did, they got bored and went away. In this case, it wasn't so much a troll, it was someone who has obviously been very hurt and very traumatized and for that moment, my post was where they could put the anger and the hurt.

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  13. A couple of months ago I stumbled across a few Youtubers whose entire existence seems to be devoted basically to eating themselves to death (mukbangs) for clicks. Some of them make extremely good money apparently but other than the eating they basically have no content. The level of hostility between these Youtubers is amazing to me. I don't know how they get through it (money talks I guess) but the damage they are doing to their health (both physical and mental - they are all around 500 lbs) is stunning. And of course they lash out at people and commenters fire right back! While I appreciate that some of them are probably mentally ill, I had to let that train wreck go (a) because it's more than boring and (b) because who wants that kind of negativity in their lives!

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    1. I would say that anyone who participated in that sort of online activity is definitely mentally ill. No exceptions. I could be wrong. And I honestly think it may be even worse for people to watch that. It's like OnlyFans in a way, or at least some of the very, very extreme ones. Which, by the way, I have never watched but I have read articles about and by participants. And my god, but money is being made.

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  14. That dead engine might have sent me very near to the edge. And all that “help” would have done it for sure. The house (with new wood on the dock) must look so different with sheetrock. Your description of the sights on the drive are an example of your wonderful way with words.

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    1. I just sat in the car and texted my kids while this repair fest was going on. I figured the he-man males would figure it out. And they did.
      The house DOES look different. The question is though, does it feel different? I wish I could say it does.
      Thank you for your sweet words. As always. You cheer me.

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  15. The entire damn internet just seethes with anger and misery these days. I'm not surprised someone unloaded on a 13-year-old post given the state of things these days. Sigh. You're probably wise to not engage.

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    1. I believe that although the post was written so long ago, the event I wrote about is still extremely fresh. It was, for this person, what I can only imagine was a very traumatic event. A major life event. So I get it but no, I did not feel the need to engage.

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  16. When someone's anger is so out of proportion to what happened, it usually is only about stuff that's going on in their life.
    I was so angry yesterday that I screamed, in the house, and freaked out my dogs. I was trying to book vaccinations and kept getting punted from one number to another and the last call hung up because the computer said there were too many callers. WTF. So I lost it, crying, yelling, and had a good long walk. It was out of proportion to what happened because I was feel helpless, angry, and fearful. Our government is horrible here right now (I'm sure you can commiserate) and everything feels out of control.
    I've been going through old posts and I often felt helpless and angry when everything first happened with Jack. I wonder if that's how that person felt? Who knows? Sometimes I have no idea why I do the things I do until long afterwards and I look back and think, oh, that's why.
    Sending hugs.

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    1. Yes. Exactly. The comment I got may had almost nothing to do with the trauma the commenter was experiencing that day. They needed to scream too, and that's how they did it. And yes, probably helpless and angry and I will never know their story and so I just accept that it is one filled with some pain.
      Thank you for the hugs. Sending mine back to you.

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  17. Well, now, of course I'm totally curious about the post that caused this person to unload on you. I probably would have deleted the comment. Makes you wonder how this person even came across a post from 13 years ago.

    I'm not surprised Glen let the guy and the other guy nose in. There's a camaraderie in that.

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    1. I know exactly how the person found this post. Google was involved.
      Glen is a kind person. I think he was doing the fellas a favor more than anything.

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  18. Wait, you just got a comment on post you wrote 13 years ago? That's a bit disturbing; I think you're right, though, that the comment is less about you than about what the commenter is dealing with personally. Nice neat sheetrock sounds lovely. Is the cabin starting to look any more livable to you yet?

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    1. As I said to Ellen above, there was googling involved in the person finding this post. Not a big mystery but I do wonder why it took so long for them to find it. Well, not really. I'm sort of surprised my post came up.
      Does the cabin look any more livable?
      Nope. Especially not now with while sheetrock on walls and the dust everywhere. Glen is trying SO hard to make it so I'll like it and honestly, I do not know if that's possible.

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  19. I took a little dip into your 2012 because I wondered if I knew you that far back, and I didn't. I don't remember when I first began reading Bless Our Hearts, but I'm glad I did.

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  20. Well, now I'm very intrigued! So far I haven't had any truly angry comments on any of my posts, at least not that I've ever seen. Maybe that's because I'm so milquetoast! LOL! I'm cool with that.

    I suppose it's kind of nice those guys were so determined to help Glen out, whether he needed it or not.

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