Well, Ms. Moon, how's the Zepbound-assisted weight loss going?
Funny you should ask. I was just thinking about that very thing.
It's going well. Slowly, slowly, but consistently. I continue to suffer few, if any side-effects except that I'm losing my hair but hey! Who needs hair?
Sigh.
Can't complain. Won't complain.
I'm learning something about myself as I go about this business which is that I have body dysmorphia and of course, I've always had it. Being 71 rather than 17 hasn't changed a thing. One moment I can feel almost sylph-like, while an hour later I can feel like a heifer.
"Heifer" is a thing a friend of mine in nursing school used to call almost everyone. It was a term of endearment and not a description of appearance but in this case, I am using it as a pejorative. I logically KNOW that I am neither sylph-like or heifer-sized and actually, just about at a highish normal weight for a woman of my age and stature. So am I done trying to lose more? No. And why? BECAUSE I WANT TO WEAR MY SKIRTS!
I have several skirts that I love so much I was not able to throw them out and I was not a skinny woman when I wore them so I think this is doable and not an unhealthy idea. And I am still eating plenty and getting what I think is good nutrition so all is well. And trust me- the weight loss is going in very, very slow increments. I am in no danger of suddenly keeling over from malnutrition.
So that's that. Glen and I sold a house today. Don't get excited. It was a technicality involving Lily's house and she's the one who now owns it so that's very good. She had to wait until certain parts of the divorce settlement were, well, settled and fulfilled and that time has come. While we were at the attorney's office, we asked a few questions about how we need to proceed with estate planning because we have got to get that done.
Yesterfuckingday, as Lis would say.
Oh my goodness but it is complex. Anyway, the process has begun and we shall make our way through it. And any time I start getting anxious about it, I just think, Well, we shall do the best we can and when we die, we'll be dead and it won't matter to us anymore."
But I've just seen how inheritance shit can rip apart a family and the very last thing on earth I want to do is cause rifts in my children's relationships with each other because the way they love and respect each other is the thing that probably makes me happier than anything else on earth.
Hopefully, if we cross all our T's and dot all our I's, it will all work out.
I did love how the attorney kept saying, "Now. Should you die..."
I really do not believe we are immortal so yes, let's plan on that contingency, shall we?
I've made Glen's cookies. I could do this in my sleep.
There are a lot of reasons but that's a main one. Well, that and I'm not British.
Phew. Better him than me.
I'll let you go now. Really. I'm serious. Get on with your bad self.
We'll talk tomorrow.
Love...Ms. Moon
Love you MM!! -sj
ReplyDeleteAre those raisins in the beautiful cookies? Now that I am an empty nester, "mummified grapes" (as my darlin daughter calls them) are going back in my baked goods!!
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DeleteIt's great that Lily now owns the house in which she is raising her children so well. An important step for her. I wonder if Glen will bring you back a moose's head from Canada. You could put it up in the kitchen at the lake house - very useful for hanging kitchen towels and oven gloves etc..
ReplyDeleteYour weight loss journey has been successful and being able to wear your favorite skirts is a great achievement.
ReplyDeleteYour cookies look delicious. I've never baked anything that was perfectly shaped, so I leave that for other people.
Estate planning is a good thing to have in place. I especially like "life estates" for transferring real estate without requiring probate.
You are right, family ties can be challenged when a death occurs.
Inheritances can get complicated between the Heirs. Glad your Zepbound Journey has had decent enuf results and no serious side effects, tho' Hair Loss can be just part of Aging, I don't like embracing that fact, but it seems it is something that happens, that and shorter Eyelashes. Le Sigh.
ReplyDeleteGood idea to get everything sorted and clear now, papers signed, all that.
ReplyDeleteI have body dysmorphia too, a friend pointed this out to me when I was very skinny and bitching about my belly, my tiny belly. The world (run by mostly men) has done an excellent job of convincing us we should look like NOT OURSELVES. Now I actually do have a belly and I'm trying to love it. Nobody fucking cares, except me.
ReplyDeleteI'm glad you'll get to wear the skirts you love again.
That first photo, that glass is beautiful.
I'm sure the cookies will be eaten very quickly, regardless of their size, and cookies don't care about their size:)
I think I have most everything sorted as I have a will but my lawyer retired and now I don't know who I am supposed to contact or actually who my kids will contact when I die but I guess that will be their job. I think about it but then I do not follow up on it.
ReplyDeleteI was in Texas this past weekend with grandchildren and it was LOUD and hot but also fun. I am glad to be home but also tired.
I think that our estate planning is done. We picked the child who will be the executor. We keep all pertinent documents in a lock box in the closet. As far as stuff goes, our children don't want any of it, as far as I have been told. They will probably toss it all in the front yard and light a match.
ReplyDeleteThe cookies look scrumptious. I should think about planning, I have stuff and more stuff and other stuff and I already know my oldest does NOT want the job of going through and clearing out. She did it for her mother-in-law's things and said once is enough. I'm thinking instead that I will wait until I start feeling frail, then inviting each child and grandchild in turn to come and take what they want.
ReplyDeleteYou caught the suns in the window beautifully. We just hired a Spanish estate planner. Our American wills are not only out of date, but they don’t apply here. I want to go with Mr. Moon so I can have some of those cookies. Nice to read the update on Zepbound. I’ve been wondering. Glad it’s going well and slowly!
ReplyDeleteI plan to look into succession planning in January. Inheritance taxes in France are horrendous and I want to do the best by my kids as I can, so it's on the agenda! And I'm British and I sure as hell wouldn't get on the Great British Bake-off either so I guess that makes two of us!
ReplyDeleteTake a deep breath and get the estate planning going. My husband and I did this in 2019 despite the fact we had made wills in 2000 when we married. I have only one child and no one else to get involved.
ReplyDeleteWhat makes this significant is that during Covid, my husband developed dementia at 69. Now, both of us are 73 and I'm his caretaker. I've had to use my power of attorney several times (for minor stuff) and doctors have gotten really picky about sharing information even if you're obviously the caretaker spouse. I made edits to my Power of Attorney and Medical Power of attorney to make my daughter my primary as my husband is not capable of making important decisions now.
Making plans for your family to manage your estate is the best thing you can do for them. You know death is inevitable, but few ever think spouse can be incapacitated by memory loss. Even people with modest means need to document plans with a do-it-yourself will. Check with your local library for assistance.
Losing my hair, too - bummer. And raisins are JUST FINE - don't know what people object to.
ReplyDeleteWe only have two kids and our wills simply leave everything to them both equally if we have outlived the spouse otherwise it all goes to the spouse. I've been thinking about reviewing mine since it's been almost a decade.
ReplyDeleteThe gp wouldn’t refer me for mongarro , I’m too well
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