I imagine it's extremely difficult, if not impossible, for someone who is not from the United States, and probably most specifically the southern region of this country, to understand how we feel about Dolly Parton. And I do not pretend to understand or know how anyone else feels about her but it is safe to say she is beloved.
I say "is" even though she went on today. Doesn't make any difference. She is beloved and probably will be for eternity, at least around these parts.
You know what a sacrilegious unbeliever I am but I know how I feel about Dolly Parton and that is she is an angel. A real true holy angel who somehow got put on this earth to grace it with her voice, her songwriting, her benevolence, her kindness, her philanthropy, her tenderness, her spark, her energy, her tenderness, her sass, her laugh, her non-judgmental loving acceptance of people who so many "religious" people call sinners even though if anyone was religious, it was Dolly, her belief in goodness, in the power of reading, in her love of family, her style, her courage, her belief in the equality of women, and her goddamn fingernails.
The woman has given away over 300 million books to children all over the world. Do I really need to say more than that?
In my opinion she did more for the people of this world than Mother Teresa ever imagined could be done and by god, she did it wearing rhinestones and heels and outrageous wigs and a grin as big as the Grand Canyon, bosoms as big as bountiful and plentiful as her waist was tiny. And she never once denied having plastic surgery. She wasn't ashamed of it.
I remember when I used to work at the Birth Center here and would do post partum counseling and would get to the part about how, on about the third day the milk would come in for the mama, I would describe the experience as like waking up to having Dolly Parton bosoms.
And everyone knew what I meant.
I think Dolly's breasts had to be that big because if anyone who ever lived represented being a bounteous goddess of nurturing and love more than she did, I do not know who it would be, even though she never had children of her own.
And it's been just so hard today, having heard this news. I was having a difficult day already and then to hear that Dolly had died was just about too much. It's one of those situations where I feel like if I let myself really start crying, I ain't ever gonna stop.
I just told my husband that it feels like all the goodness in this world is being taken from us while the evil prevails.
"That's one way to look at it," he said.
He's right. And I am the sort of person who does look at it that way. I don't think it's a purposeful thing on the part of a god or the universe or any of that crap, I just think it is what it is.
I would love to post a video of Dolly but I can't even think of a song that could possibly represent who she was. She was country, she was pop, she was occasionally rock, she was bluegrass, she was...well, she was Dolly. She had a million hits.
I feel like REM in "Losing My Religion."
Oh no, I've said too much, I haven't said enough.
And yet, I haven't even touched the surface of what this woman means, did, or represented.
And so I guess I'll post this video which may be one of her most recognized songs. Whitney Houston did a beautiful cover of it but Dolly wrote it. Dolly did it best. And in this video, she tells the story of how it came to be.
Thanks for stopping by here on your way around this universe.
And here's a picture of May taken in Chattanooga, Tennessee in front of a mural on the building where Dolly and her husband Carl Dean were married back in 1966.
Love...Ms. Moon


I'm so sad, Mary. It really does feel like all the goodness is being lost while the the most vile among us just live on and on.
ReplyDeleteI can’t seem to stop crying off and on. Losing all the good in the world was exactly how this hit me too. Felt that was about Jimmy Carter too.
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Barbara
There will never be another Dolly.
ReplyDeleteBut she did a lot because she had a lot. Each of us can follow that excellent example. We may not have all that she had to give, but if each of gave what we had to give, with love and generosity, our small gifts would have a tremendous impact.
ReplyDeleteThat is something that might not have occurred to us without her shining example.
In this time of separation she was a uniter. Those with very different beliefs all loved Dolly. She was brilliant in so many ways.
ReplyDeleteThank you for this tribute. I'm scrolling through several hundred on FB, but you said it so well. The other one was something about bears. I'll try to find it. "Whatever it is that makes kindness in the world," said Bear. "She was made of more of it than most."
ReplyDeleteI cannot add anything to your beautiful tribute to a marvelous woman beyond compare..other than to say....I was devastated to hear the news. I have loved her always...and to me...she lived being a truly god fearing and christian woman through her deeds and her love for all people. I will miss her terribly. My favorite song of hers has always been *Coat of many colors*....it makes me cry.. you paid her a fitting tribute, thank you
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Dolly was one of a kind and the likes we might not see again. She gave her heart...and her money to help so many. Why did Dolly leave and the vilest of all goes on and on? She was a huge ally to the LBGTQ community. She stood up for what's right. I fell in love with Dolly when I heard her say....it
ReplyDeletetakes a lot of money to look this cheap! OMG! She could make fun of herself in the sweetest, most hilarious way. We love ya Dolly.
Paranormal John
She is a true light...thank you for this tribute.
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