I may have spoken before about my deep passion for leather purses.
At least a hundred times.
I do not know how I developed this passion but I do remember my first really good leather purse. It must have been around 1983 or so because I was in nursing school and one of my main forms of entertainment was to go to Gayfer's and wander through their immense purse selection, spending more time than was probably healthy stroking, caressing, and lusting after the expensive ones. The ones whose leather felt like butter and smelled like...leather. The ones with good hardware, sturdy, functional, and never gaudy or overly large.
And then, one day I bought one.
It was a Stone Mountain bag and after just having checked to see if the company is still in business, I see that it is but it does not appear to be making or selling the semi-luxury bags it was back in the eighties. I mean, we're not talking Chanel bags here. But- you know, they cost enough to scare me off for a very long time. I wonder if they went on sale and that spurred me into buying one?
I don't know but I do know that I loved that bag with all of my heart. I can't stand fussy bags and would never buy one. I like bags that might not look out of place being carried by a woman a thousand years ago. Or a man. Bags to carry seeds in or messages sent to far-away places or medications or herbs or both of those. Bags that were made to be absolutely utilitarian and were absolutely made of animal hide.
That Stone Mountain bag is very long gone and I have probably owned a hundred different bags since I bought that one. Some of them a bit pricey, some of them bought at thrift stores and so not pricey, some of them just regular middle-of-the road quality that served my needs well. I can remember many of my favorite bags. Bags that really meant something to me in that they brought me a great deal of pleasure.
At some point, I became a little obsessed with Coach leather bags. We are not talking about fabric Coach bags with their damn signature design on them. I would not even think about owning one of those.
So sorry, Coach, but I'm speaking my truth.
No. I fell in love with the bags made of sturdy leather with simple designs. The ones that you buy as an investment. The ones that will stand up to the test of time.
And then they put out a design they called the Hippie Flap Bag and that was it, I wanted it, I needed it, I absolutely had to fucking have it. I believe we are in the later 90's by now. I am not certain.
There were two sizes of the Hippie Flap Bag and it was the smaller one I yearned for. And I wanted it in red. And that is what Mr. Moon got me for Christmas that year and I loved that purse with all of my heart.
I still do. I still have it and yes, it's in great shape. The leather could use better conditioning than what I can give it but it is absolutely as sturdy as it was the Christmas day I unwrapped it.
However.
Because there is no such thing as the perfect purse any more than there is such thing as the perfect human being, I discovered that it was, for my uses, small.
Too small.
So I used it on Glen's and my Friday date nights when I didn't need to carry everything from baggies of Cheerios to pacifiers to spit-up rags and spare diapers to emergency supplies for unexpected childhood accidents. It was perfect for those dates.
Eventually though, we quit doing the going out on Friday night thing and the red purse got hung on the rack in the guest room where I keep the purses I cannot bear to get rid of.
No. I fell in love with the bags made of sturdy leather with simple designs. The ones that you buy as an investment. The ones that will stand up to the test of time.
And then they put out a design they called the Hippie Flap Bag and that was it, I wanted it, I needed it, I absolutely had to fucking have it. I believe we are in the later 90's by now. I am not certain.
There were two sizes of the Hippie Flap Bag and it was the smaller one I yearned for. And I wanted it in red. And that is what Mr. Moon got me for Christmas that year and I loved that purse with all of my heart.
I still do. I still have it and yes, it's in great shape. The leather could use better conditioning than what I can give it but it is absolutely as sturdy as it was the Christmas day I unwrapped it.
However.
Because there is no such thing as the perfect purse any more than there is such thing as the perfect human being, I discovered that it was, for my uses, small.
Too small.
So I used it on Glen's and my Friday date nights when I didn't need to carry everything from baggies of Cheerios to pacifiers to spit-up rags and spare diapers to emergency supplies for unexpected childhood accidents. It was perfect for those dates.
Eventually though, we quit doing the going out on Friday night thing and the red purse got hung on the rack in the guest room where I keep the purses I cannot bear to get rid of.
And what in hell does any of this have to do with today, December 4th, 2025?
Well, I'll tell you.
When it was just my neck that was fucked up, it occurred to me that perhaps my backpack purse which I kept pretty full, might be contributing to the problem. Now, in the many decades I have used a backpack purse, that's never been a problem but hell- it could not hurt to lighten that load, right?
So I took the red hippie purse off the peg from which it was hanging and I emptied out my backpack bag of all the things I carry in it. I whittled down those things until they would all fit into my beloved red hippie bag, including my emergency Benadry and Ibuprofen and Ativan, bandaids, keys, an emory board, a handkerchief- don't laugh!, and my pocket knife. Also some Chapstick, mints, gum, and a few pens. And that's about it. I can easily fit all those things in there plus my phone and my ear pod charging/storage case.
I am actually amazed.
I have a theory that purses are portals into another dimension where things cross over into and then, when you are absolutely certain they are gone forever, cross back over to appear. Trust me. This happens. I lost an entire lid of pot once in a purse I was carrying, only to discover it was back weeks later. Because they are portals, they have abilities which science does not yet have an explanation for, such as abilities to hold more than you'd think they would and inabilities to hold as much as you'd think they would.
This is the magic of leather bags. Or something.
Bottom line- I am thrilled to be carrying my very small bag around. I would love to use it until the leather is softened by years of use.
So I took the red hippie purse off the peg from which it was hanging and I emptied out my backpack bag of all the things I carry in it. I whittled down those things until they would all fit into my beloved red hippie bag, including my emergency Benadry and Ibuprofen and Ativan, bandaids, keys, an emory board, a handkerchief- don't laugh!, and my pocket knife. Also some Chapstick, mints, gum, and a few pens. And that's about it. I can easily fit all those things in there plus my phone and my ear pod charging/storage case.
I am actually amazed.
I have a theory that purses are portals into another dimension where things cross over into and then, when you are absolutely certain they are gone forever, cross back over to appear. Trust me. This happens. I lost an entire lid of pot once in a purse I was carrying, only to discover it was back weeks later. Because they are portals, they have abilities which science does not yet have an explanation for, such as abilities to hold more than you'd think they would and inabilities to hold as much as you'd think they would.
This is the magic of leather bags. Or something.
Bottom line- I am thrilled to be carrying my very small bag around. I would love to use it until the leather is softened by years of use.
We shall see.
It has been as gray as the ceiling of a quonset hut today, spitting rain now and then, and also very, very chilly. Again with the wet cold. Now it is actually raining. Not a downpour, but a good steady drizzle. This is supposed to continue through the weekend and on to Monday. We need this so much. The rain, not the cold. But I'll take whatever comes with the rain.
I ordered and paid for my hearing aids today. So did Mr. Moon. We have back-to-back appointments on Saturday to have them fitted and what all else needs to be done. I've downloaded the app which I can use to control the aids on my phone. You get a remote control too but remotes get lost, phones not quite as much, plus most of us have them with us every moment of the day.
This is all so crazy. The folks at the Costco hearing clinic that I've come into contact with are so nice, so obviously used to working with older people, and who make the whole experience so much better than it could be. I got to see Andrew again today and he and the woman whose name was JaLisa who helped both me and Glen, have made what could have been an uncomfortable and daunting experience into a very comfortable and down-to-earth situation. Dare I say that I feel almost an affection for these two people?
This is all so crazy. The folks at the Costco hearing clinic that I've come into contact with are so nice, so obviously used to working with older people, and who make the whole experience so much better than it could be. I got to see Andrew again today and he and the woman whose name was JaLisa who helped both me and Glen, have made what could have been an uncomfortable and daunting experience into a very comfortable and down-to-earth situation. Dare I say that I feel almost an affection for these two people?
The oddest thing happened to me while I was finishing up my transaction at the counter of the hearing clinic with JaLisa, Andrew came from behind that counter to go on break or something. I'm not sure. He stopped for a moment to add a few comments to the running commentary the three of us had been having, mostly about him, and I had the distinct feeling that when he passed behind me, he was going to hug me like one of my children would.
I knew that would not happen and it didn't.
But he did grasp my shoulder briefly yet firmly and gave it a squeeze as he strode off and I felt as if I'd had a premonition which is just another thing that science does not yet have the explanation for. It was a feeling I can't really describe except to say that my premonition had been so strong that his actual touch on my shoulder felt preordained and THAT was shocking.
And who knows? Maybe it's all only the power of the red Hippie Flap Bag which I had strapped over that shoulder.
Which makes me think about this song, written by the hugely talented John Sebastian and performed by his band, The Loving Spoonful.
I knew that would not happen and it didn't.
But he did grasp my shoulder briefly yet firmly and gave it a squeeze as he strode off and I felt as if I'd had a premonition which is just another thing that science does not yet have the explanation for. It was a feeling I can't really describe except to say that my premonition had been so strong that his actual touch on my shoulder felt preordained and THAT was shocking.
And who knows? Maybe it's all only the power of the red Hippie Flap Bag which I had strapped over that shoulder.
Which makes me think about this song, written by the hugely talented John Sebastian and performed by his band, The Loving Spoonful.
Sigh and sigh again.
Love...Ms. Moon
Love...Ms. Moon



I am so picky about my purse. Not too big, not too small. Leather yes. Tan preferably. Pockets to separate things so things easier to find. Long straps so I can put it over my shoulder, or Katie's wheelchair. And then I keep that purse until it doesn't look very good.
ReplyDeleteI looked up that red purse you mentioned. If you ever want to sell it you could make some money on it.
I'm glad the hearing aids are easy to obtain, and hopefully work well too. I know they have made massive improvements over the years, and they're much small now too.
I used to go to a Jungian therapist. She told me that a woman's purse was her vulva, and the interior of her purse was her vagina. I still think of this when I see a woman with metal studs or some such thing on her purse:)
I would imagine you have a sensible purse where you can keep things in order. I always begin that way...
DeleteI see that red Hippie Flap bags can fetch a nice amount of money. See? It was an investment!
I've always thought of purses and bowl and baskets as wombs. And I'll stick to my own theory.
I'm very glad you're getting the hearing aids soon and I hope you have that great experience I've had where you are no longer guessing what people are saying! It's like seeing all the leaves in the tree when you first get classes.
ReplyDeleteAbout bags, I don't care much about them and I've been given them rather than ever shopped for one. Diff'rent strokes.
Indeed! I think you are lucky not to be afflicted with Purse Yearning Syndrome.
DeleteGetting our hearing aids tomorrow. I hope we can both be patient with the process.
I don’t accessorize very much…and I discovered zipper pockets in purses a few years last century ago. I love them all over the outside where different places can be designated for keys, or tissues, or pens, or personal items, and so on. I’ve also got to be able to hang a purse across my body, so one shoulder doesn’t carry the weight always. I used to love leather shoes and purses too, but decided I didn’t want dead animal skins to carry around, no matter how pretty they may be.
ReplyDeletePlease don’t take my choice of no leather to be critical of your choice…enjoy your beautiful purses, especially that red one!
DeleteOh, no worries! A lot of people feel the same way you do and I feel sure that it's not that great of an idea to use dead animal skins for our purposes ALTHOUGH, in a way, it is a process of saving the skin and making something beautiful or practical with it. Which I realize makes more sense if we're talking about wild game, shot for meat, their hide used for another purpose.
DeleteMUCH food for thought here about purses! Purses as portals. Purses as vulvas/vaginas (thanks for THAT image, Pixie). I must now reassess my whole relationship with purses. Dear oh dear oh dear.
ReplyDeleteOr, sometimes, as Freud might say, a purse is just a purse.
DeleteYup. Although I do think there’s a physical connection for the love of boxes, baskets, things to put other things in that so many of us have. Margaret
DeleteI so agree.
DeleteYour red purse looks as good as new. Great leather purses hold up very well. There is a reason we hold on to our favorite purses for 20+ years!
ReplyDeleteMy favorite leather purse in the 80's was the Dooney & Bourke Satchel in British Tan and Green, Crossbody (and I still own it).
Lately I use a much smaller leather bag that holds only my essentials.
i look forward to knowing how the hearing aid works for you. My friends share mixed reviews, but their purchases were all a few years ago.
Dooney & Bourke do make a good product! Their bags are more structured than the ones that call to me.
DeleteIt's sort of nice, not carrying around all the stuff in the world, isn't it?
I should do some research on Reddit or something about these hearing aids and people's experiences with them.
Look at gem.app for thrifting. It combines eBay, Poshmark, some GenX sites, and some posh ones like RealReal. No need to sign up, they expect you to click through to original site. I've used it many times with no problems.
ReplyDeleteI searched for Hippie Flap Bags. See the results here:
https://tinyurl.com/HippieFlap
Wow! Amazing! Thanks! I need to remember that. And I am a little surprised at how well those purses hold their value. I have a brown one too, that I got on eBay, I think. I just bookmarked gem.app because I'd for sure forget.
DeletePatti I've been emailing you, and you may want to check your spam. Tx.
DeleteMy hearing aid has Bluetooth and connects to my tablet so I can listen without others being bothered .I know this will not be news to most people but to me it's magic.
ReplyDeleteYes! I am hoping my husband uses the bluetooth when he gets phone calls because he always puts the phone on speaker and it's loud! I am certainly hoping for positive change here.
DeleteThat’s a great purse! I’ve got a thing against the bags and luggage with the repeated letters all over them ala Louis Vuiton. It’s been done. Thanks for John Sebastian. Andrew was responding to YOUR magic.
ReplyDeleteRight? Those designers have figured it out. Their customers are paying the big bucks to advertise THEIR product!
DeleteHow can someone not love John Sebastian?
If I had any magic in that situation, it was to foresee the contact. But I don't think that was really the case either although it was pretty strong.
You might be right about the backpack bag contributing to your pain. When I was in England for my dad's funeral I suddenly developed a searing pain in my neck (no, it wasn't my husband this time) and my sister got me an appointment with a local physio since we had a 14 hour drive back home coming up. First thing he did was pick up my bag and ask if everything in there was REALLY necessary. I guess he knew a thing or two about women!
ReplyDeleteWomen carry the burdens of the world on our backs, don't we? Or over our shoulders. Or...whatever. It is interesting that something very irksome is often called a "pain in the neck." Of course there's always the "pain in the ass" too.
DeleteOh my gosh! The Lovin' Spoonful! One of their albums was the first one that I had ever purchased. And I played it over and over again. I am glad your hearing aid trip to Costco proved to be a good experience.
ReplyDeleteI've had a Lovin' Spoonful album for probably fifty-five years. Isn't that crazy?
DeleteI have found that generally, Costco employees are very easy to get along with.
Your red bag is a stunner! Good for you for hanging on to a good thing, but that seems to be, as the kids say, on brand for you. Or maybe it's 6, 7 that the kids say. (Susan from Ohio)
ReplyDeleteKids say the darndest things, don't they? And they always have and we did too. I love it!
DeleteBest to buy quality because it outlasts the crap stuff by decades. That's what I think, anyway.
I am always happy to see your comments, Susan from Ohio.
I am totally with you on purses. I have 3 soft leather ones, 1 black, 1 tan and one off white. I have been using them for several years now, all the same, all cross body. When I was a very small child my toy was a squirrel with leather ears. I think that is when my love of soft leather started. Later in life I discovered that my great grandfather came to Canada as a trained Currier. He proceeded hides into leather for boots and harnesses etc. gigi
ReplyDeleteHow interesting! I love the thought of little girl Gigi rubbing her squirrel's ears and that translating into a lifetime love of soft leather. How very interesting about your great grandfather!
DeleteI still have the squirrel. Gigi
DeleteI have one purse and I usually only have one purse and I use it and use it until it falls apart and then I buy 1 new purse very similar to the old one. You did remind me that I used to have a red purse that I really liked so my next purse might have to be red.
ReplyDeleteI was glad to look up John Sebastian and find out he is still alive.
Red leather can look like shit or it can look fabulous. Of course this is true for many things.
DeleteI'm glad John Sebastian is still alive too. He always seemed like such a sweetheart.
I loved reading this and I love..... that song, going to listen to it right now. Good luck with the aids. I have a red purse hanging in my closet but it's not as cool as yours.
ReplyDeleteOh, I bet your red purse is pretty cool.
DeleteIsn't that a wonderful song?
I've mentioned before I don't carry a purse, just don't like having to keep up with one. I do have three very small bags on a strap just big enough to hold wallet, keys, glasses, and phone one of which was hand made out of a cowboy boot that I bought at an arts and crafts fair. The one I use the most is cloth embroidered with big red flowers.
ReplyDeleteI looked up hearing aids at Costco. Yikes!
Now I would call your very small bags a sort of purse. To my mind, anything you put things in so that you can carry them around is a purse. I have an ANCIENT cloth bag that I also used to take out on Friday nights that I loved. It has a story and I should tell that sometime. It's sort of crazy.
DeleteHearing aids are not cheap. I think, however, that Costco sells them for about a third of that they cost when you buy them through audiologists. Not kidding.
Best wishes as you get used to your new hearing aids - it can be really tiring to suddenly hear stuff that has gradually been fading out, so please be very kind and patient with yourself and the mister. I dived right in to wearing mine when ever I was awake vs a more gradual process, but that was many years ago so I was younger plus coming off a less severe hearing loss.
ReplyDeleteAnd purses, such a heavy subject in more than one way. For many years now I have had basically a wallet sized bag on a strap that can go around the neck or cross body, if that means what I think it does, and a small LL Bean back pack intended for a child that goes along when more stuff needs to be carried. I've gone through several of the little bags, which are some woven thing, because they get grubby, imagine that.
Cheers, Ceci
Purses do take a beating, don't they? We all find what works for us. Jessie gave me an LL Bean sling bag today to try out. Very interesting. It's not too large but has a zillion pockets and compartments, very soft aged leather. I think it would be good for travel.
DeleteI keep reminding Glen that we are going to have to be patient and work through the first few weeks or months to train our brains how to interpret the new information our ears will be giving them. I so hope it works for us!
I’m so very picky about my purses that when I find one I like, I’ll use it till it’s death. I was so in love with the last one I had, when it died I found one exactly like it on poshmark. I love your red one! Xena is an adorable little pup, i used to have a kitty named Xena, she was a fierce hunter of lizards. Hope your shoulder heals quickly. When mine decided to complain too loudly to ignore, it was a trip to the ortho. A cortisone shot and several weeks of PT twice a week has healed mine. Much love to you.
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Barbara
I think what you did for your shoulder is probably what I should do for mine. I've begun to even wonder if I'm dealing with arthritis in that joint. It would probably be wise to go to someone who could diagnose it, thus hopefully leading to a cure.
ReplyDeleteDo you love your "new" purse as much as you did your old one? It's sort of like getting a clone of your beloved pet, I suppose. Well, sort of.
I should have named my cat Athena or Minerva because she, too, is a very good hunter, mostly of small mammals like mice and squirrels and rats. Well, some not so small. She does enjoy a good lizard stalking now and then, though.
I read it all Mama Moon and then I typed into Google: What is a bag lady?
ReplyDeleteANSWER - a homeless woman who walks around the streets of a city carrying her possessions in a bag.
I respond as someone who has never owned a man bag though I sometimes use a little backpack when out walking to carry a flask of water, an apple, a banana perhaps and maybe a light raincoat and gloves.
Well. I hate to tell you but that would be a man bag. Or, as sometimes called- a murse. Wear it with the sort of pride only a real man can wear it with.
DeleteI would never laugh at anyone for carrying a hanky. I carry several, they come in handy for quite a few things. I love the red purse which we call a bag or a handbag depending on strap type: handles = handbag, long strap = bag or shoulder bag. A backpack is just a backpack. I recently emptied mine and put back only one of each "essential" but still try to minimise my use of it. I have two smaller ones I can use instead. For us, a purse is what you call a wallet, it's where we keep our money, cards and ID and it goes into whatever type of bag we carry. I have given up searching for the "perfect" bag.
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