Tuesday, November 11, 2025

Quite A Day


I knew the gas company was sending someone out today to fill our propane tank but I wasn't sure when. The owner of the company assured me that the guy had my number and would call. 
Well, he did. He called at 9:00 a.m. sharp to tell me he was in my yard. 
Ooh boy. 
I was still in bed with Maurice. I was awake, but luxuriating in being under the warm covers and loathe to get up. Why does the bed feel so amazing when we wake up in the morning? Ten times better than it does when we get under the covers at night and that feels pretty damn good already. 
So what do I say to the man on the phone? I said, "Whoa! In my yard? I'll be RIGHT there!" 
And I leapt out of the bed, put on some clothes, tried to smooth my hair down a bit, and didn't even brush my teeth or wash my face and darted for the side yard where a very tall and also large man beside a propane truck held out his hand and said, "I'm KC." 
"I'm Mary," I said, and we shook hands like I'd been up since before dark, gathering my hand-shaking strength.
He'd never been here before and so I had to show him where the tank was. When we were walking over there I said to him, "I'm not gonna lie. I was still in bed when you called."
He laughed and said, "You recovered well."
I asked him if he'd like a cup of coffee and he said he would if it wasn't too much trouble. Four sugars and four creams. Okay! 
He filled the tank and I finished my morning face and teeth rituals and pulled my hair back and put it up and by the time I was finished, he was rolling up the hose. He wrote up my invoice and thanked me for the coffee and I thanked him profusely and, just to make conversation I said, "Do you think it really froze last night?"
"I don't know," he said, "But I'm from the Bahamas and I'm fucking freezing!"
Well, you know me. He had long, long covered dreds and a braided knotted beard that he tugged at and I just felt so at ease with him. All the guys who've ever delivered gas here have been almost wordless, most of them sullen, obviously not loving their jobs or their lives and obviously having no desire in this world to have any sort of conversation with me. But this is a different company, one we've never used, and I do believe it's going to be a different story. 
Next thing you know, he's telling me about his grandmother, 106 years old who walks to the fields every day and works in the fields every day and doesn't limp and doesn't have any problems with stiffness or pain and claims to feel just like she did when she was a girl. I told him that science needs to study his granny. 
He asked me where I was from and I told him I'd lived in Florida since I was five and he said, "But where are you FROM?" I explained that my parents were from Chattanooga, Tennessee and when he asked me how I came to live in Florida I told him the briefest version of how my mother had left my father when I was five and we'd moved to Florida where her parents lived. 
"So they got divorced and everything?"
"Yes."
"Did you see your father after that?"
"No. Well, I saw him once when I was thirty."
He was amazed and horrified. "But you were his daughter!"
And that's when, at 9:30 a.m. I started to cry and he pulled me in to one of those big men hugs and said, "I didn't mean to make you cry. I'm sorry."
I told him that yes, it was sad, but that I'd found a wonderful man who has been a great father to our children and he approved of that. 
Turns out he moved to Melbourne, Florida when he was young to attend school and that's where he learned to play football and hone his basketball skills because he had been playing that all his life. Now, Melbourne is about fifteen miles from Roseland and of course he knew where Roseland was. He went to FSU and played ball there. I think football. 

Anyway, that is how my day started out and before he left he apologized again for making me cry and again I told him that's okay, I cry easy, and I came away feeling like I'd been given a gift and I hadn't even had my coffee yet.

Then the next thing I knew, Lis called me! Good Lord! Could things get any better? 

I've spent the rest of the day like I said I would. I did laundry, I folded laundry. I enjoyed folding laundry on the folding table Glen made me so much with the sun coming in that window, shining through the stained glass my friend Lynn made and my treasures on the windowsill and bathing my nursery plants with light that I decided to bring out all the contents of my underwear drawer and refold and organize it all. I also threw away the stuff that has obviously outlived its wear-by date. I didn't even save anything to use as rags because I already have enough rags to last the rest of my life, even if I live to be a hundred and six years old like K.C.'s granny. I picked salad greens and I got an answer to my question as to whether it froze last night. 


The African basil is as dead as dead can be. A few bees were still flying around the blooms though, seemingly dazed and confused as to where their source of nectar had gone. The greens and lettuces were fine, of course, and I have enough of those picked for at least two salads. 

I did some mending and button-sewing-on and I just did a lot of little things that I've been meaning to get around to. 
My soup is ready to be puréed and add the coconut milk to, and I have enough dough rising to make a few naan breads.  

On top of all that, it's been a beautiful day. Cold, but so crisp, so clear, so intensely blue-skied. 

We do have leaves that turn color here. 



The mulberry tree. 

Look up. Look up. 


Magnolia Grandiflora. 

Pottery tomorrow. 

Love...Ms. Moon

33 comments:

  1. I am in awe of your day. It's not everyday that one meets a *K.C* rather randomly and he sounds like a deeply loving and caring soul not afraid to share and love. Nothing better than that! I met a man at our local tiny market yesterday who sounds similar to KC..lived here his entire life....yet i've never met him? Seen him but never connected. How is that? We had an instant connection and had I not had to pee so badly and get home., I could have talked to him for hours- he felt like a lifelong friend. Have to embrace that energy when you come upon it. One for the *joy jar* for sure.
    Susan M

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    1. I'm glad you had a similar encounter recently. It can really remind us of how humans CAN connect.

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  2. What a lovely young man, with manners to boot. I'm guessing he also gave great hugs. I'm the same as you, I cry so easy. I have to go to class tomorrow for Jack's skills building group and I don't want to cry there tomorrow. Fingers crossed.
    I cleaned house today, including the basement which I don't like cleaning, and did laundry as well. Then I burned my arm on the oven when I put something in. Sigh. I worry about my brain, but I didn't fall over when I went for a walk, so that's something:)

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    1. He wasn't that young! But yes, he did give great hugs.
      What's the worst that can happen if you do? Are you afraid you'll be judged? I think that's something we all fear, isn't it, and it's so silly.
      Anyone who cooks is going to have burns from time to time. I remember in one of Anthony Bourdain's books he talked about being able to tell a woman was a baker because of the burn scars on her arms.
      I'm glad you did not fall over! Keep up the good work!

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  3. That was a good day! KC, sent from "Just what you need today land"...Send him up here, please. You are such an open book- free reading for everyone. generously giving your all. I admire that! My book? the pages are glued shut- it is a door stop. Love you, Mary!
    I nearly bought a pottery pot at the thrift store today but I put it back. It was called "scorched earth" and still had the artist's handwritten card in it. I knew this artist, I took a pottery class from her one time . We buried our pots in a pit of fire. Scorched. Blackened. Cathartic. Not pretty.

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    1. He was pretty sharing too! It was like BOOM! Instant communication. Maybe he's like that with everyone.
      I probably overshare. Oh well. That's who I am. I assure you though that I do no share with everyone.
      I see so many pottery class pots in thrift stores now. Or, at least I notice them and recognize them for what they are. I have never found one from a potter I knew though.

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  4. A perfect day from dawn to dusk. What more does a person need?

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  5. Did KC have a lovely Bahamian accent or had he lost it? I love the Caribbean accents!

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    1. He did a lovely lilt. It wasn't as pronounced as some but it was there.

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  6. KC sounds like a wonderful man. Lucky for you to get to meet him....and you got your tank filled as a bonus!

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  7. Wow, that was quite a conversation with the gas man! I admire your openness in talking to him so freely. I'm not sure I could ever have done so. As my mother would have said of herself, "I'm way too odd and peculiar for that."

    It's kind of sad thinking of the bees fluttering around the basil, wondering there their blossoms went. But who knows what a bee remembers?

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    1. He was a sharer too! I know more about him now than I do about some people I really "know."
      Yes. It was sad seeing those bees buzzing in vain. I wonder if there have been any bee memory studies done yet? Seems like a perfectly sensible thing for scientists to research to me.

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  8. There are so many stories people can tell if we allow it. I had a cry when the big tall guy who installed our new shower told us about how he sees his daughter only on weekends and how she is beginning to get bored with him and we brainstormed for outings and now, 18 months in, he keeps on sending pictures of them in the places we talked about.

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    1. Now see- that's BEAUTIFUL! I love that story, Sabine.

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  9. I'm glad you had such a nice day, Mary!

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  10. It's been my experience that black men are the friendliest most helpful, at least the ones I come across. They are the ones that smile back, that nod in recognition, that ask if I need help loading something heavy into the truck. It's been cool and beautiful here too, though no freeze, but alas still no much needed rain.

    I think that's hilarious that people fold their underwear. Mine is just all shoved in the drawer. Who's going to see wrinkled underwear and anyway once on it smooths out.

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    1. I think that perhaps in some of the Black cultures, at least, the grandmothers are regarded with both respect and a little bit of fear. As well as love. And I know I certainly look like a grandmother.
      We need rain too! It rained Sunday night all of a sudden. Just out of nowhere it came and then it went. That ushered in the freeze.
      I believe I fold my underwear because like making the bed, the sight of the tidy drawer soothes me.

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  11. There is nothing like true human connection to restore the soul. There is such simple goodness in the world. Days like this remind us.

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    1. Yes! Absolutely. When he left I felt so cheered.

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  12. Your chance meeting with KC makes a day really lovely. He makes the world better for all.
    Sadly, many people do not interact, the blank stare is seen far too often.
    Your bees must be in shock with the cold. Nature is harsh.

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    1. I believe most of us feel a great need to protect ourselves. Perhaps this is a result of us living in such bigger communities than we used to. I don't know but it could be. And god knows there are some people I do not want to interact with either.

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  13. What an excellent interaction with KC. I am terrible at chatting and would probably had said nothing much. I don't cry easily anymore. I used to work with a very nasty, nasty man, who would push my buttons, he hated women in general, no tolerance of us crying. I learned to suck it in,. But today I joined a work out class and was so rigid and incompetent, and possibly the youngest person there and I ain't young, I quietly had a little cry afterwards. I'll go back tho.

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    1. Oh, now that makes me feel a little teary. We do not give ourselves grace, do we? And allowing ourselves to cry is giving ourself that grace, I think. Fuck that nasty, nasty man. He stole one of your most basic rights which is the right to express the emotion we feel in our hearts.

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  14. You have inspired me this morning to find joy where I can - because I found it here. Bless you, Miss Mary.

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    1. Jeanie- that really makes me happy. Thank you.

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  15. Sometimes the universe sends us someone like KC, when we most need it. My faith in humanity is restored when these interactions happen. Sounds like a pretty perfect day and a sweet trip to St George. I remember Bullwinkles fondly from the 1970s when I used to visit my best friend in Tallahassee. Amazing it’s still around!
    Xoxo
    Barbara

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  16. What a magical morning. I hate when service people phone and say “I’m here!” But KC sure made up for that. And so did you. You are so kind and sincere, and so much yourself. You must have made KC’s day, too.

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  17. propane dude is amazing. he's exactly what I think of when I hear Mr Rogers say 'look for the helpers'. we are a mess right now bc we lost our building rep who fought for us all to STAY in our positions. our helper is our new admin who is finding a way for us all to go the memorial service Monday. at this point she could fire me and i'd be ok with it bc she has shown us all such compassion since we got the news right before Halloween... stay the course Mary moon, I think cholesterol and brain plaques are eventually going to do their job if the Epstein files don't..... xxalainaxx

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