Sunday, May 25, 2025

Thoughts


Today's harvest. 
I thought it important to include the magnolia blossom which grew on the big tree in my back yard. There are several blooms on it now, some low enough for me to reach. 

When I picked the beans, it was drizzling a little. We had gotten a short but very decent downpour earlier and everything seemed so much happier for it. I was definitely glad to be able to pick without feeling like I was going to melt into a puddle of sweaty grease. 
That's gross, right? Well, that's how it feels. 
And although it was not exactly cool after the rain, it was so much less hot. There is a difference. 

Mr. Moon got home last night and so was here this morning for our Sunday morning brunch which I always make. I was curious and a little worried as to how I would handle this. I go all out on Sunday mornings, making biscuits and eggs, bacon or sausage, and grits or potatoes. And I could very well have done that today, too, and just eaten less of it all. 
Option One, shall we say?

But the thought of fried eggs and grits or potatoes and bacon just did nothing for me. Not a thing. And so what I did was to cook Mr. Moon some bacon, make the biscuits, and make an omelet large enough for us to share. In the omelet I put a bunch of spinach and onions and peppers and a little chopped up Canadian bacon and a small amount of grated cheese. And eggs, of course. 
And I sliced tomatoes. 
So Glen got bacon and his biscuits and a large part of the omelet. He had butter and jam with his biscuits. He definitely did not feel deprived. I ate a lot less of the omelet, and a biscuit. I didn't put anything on it. It was delicious and the omelet was too. 
Perfect! 
Now here's the thing- I did not feel as if I was denying myself the bacon. I did not WANT the bacon. It just didn't sound appealing in the least. And you know how much I love bacon. Does this mean I won't eat a tomato and bacon sandwich at some point in the next few weeks while the tomatoes are all so ripe and juicy? 
No. It does not. I might but I might not. I can't tell you. But if I want one, I will. If I don't, I won't. 
Now I know this does not sound earthshaking but in my world, it is. Summer IS a bacon and tomato sandwich. Especially if you're growing your own. And this year, we seem to be doing pretty well with the tomatoes so far. But I feel as if I have a choice as to whether I eat one or not. Of course I always had a choice but 10 times out of 10, I would always eat at least one bacon and tomato sandwich every summer. 

I got this comment on yesterday's post:

"The drug industry’s latest lose weight range of pills are not the answer to peoples overindulgences. Good food choices and exercise is the key to good health. Of course you have to work at controlling your food choices

alcohol intake and portion sizes. Drugs are not the future for obesity. Education is as well. To say that we have no choice but to use fat drugs is sad"

Now see, before I would have taken that comment so personally even though I knew then as I know now that I have made a million good food choices and I have walked a million miles for exercise and was still never able to keep the weight I was able to lose off. 
Ever.
And suddenly, the evidence that a drug that works on the brain not to curb appetite (remember Dexatrim?), but to turn off the switch that told me that I better eat all of the wooly mammoth the hunters had brought home that I could, PLUS all the berries I'd managed to gather because tomorrow we might have no food at all. That brain mechanism is there for a purpose. The humans who could eat more than the ones who couldn't were more likely to store enough fat to live through the lean times and reproduce. 
But we don't live in those times. We have so many heavily processed foods and yes, healthy foods too, in such a vast array of choices available to us that this mechanism is not only useless, it is damaging. 
Not to mention that we don't have to walk for days, hunting down the wooly mammoth, or getting to the coast when it was time for the fish to run. Our bodies have not evolved at the same rate as our lifestyles, our world. 

Let me also say that the diet industry globally brings in money in excess of hundreds of billions of dollars a year. And I don't care how good a diet program is, how sensible or simple or doable- studies show that even the best ones can be very successful at helping people lose weight but very, very few people can manage to keep it off. 
Oprah and her guest talked about that. How when we lose the weight we want to lose, there is part of us that feels like, "Phew! Did it! Glad that's over!" and then the weight comes back because we have not addressed the real problem of which the excess weight is only a symptom. 

Also, Anonymous- I did NOT say that we have no choice but to use fat drugs. 
Far from it. There are people who can absolutely change their lifestyles and habits permanently. I am in awe of these people. I am not one of them. 
But I am also not a person who is "taking fat drugs" in the hope that I can eat whatever I want and how much I want and lose a ton of weight. 

I won't even go into the evidence that's showing up which suggests that these drugs can also reduce inflammation (which is a major contributor to many health problems), possibly stave off Alzheimers, help with heart health, emotional health, and reduce addictive behaviors in general.

I've probably talked about all of this too much but I think it is important. And of course, I am only describing how the medication has affected me and as I say, this is early, early days, both in my journey and in the studies of how these drugs are affecting the health outcomes of those who take them. Forget the fat part. The rest of it is phenomenal too. 

Here's what I ate for my supper last night. 


Salad with poke bowl ingredients, including the seared tuna. That's a miso, sesame dressing on it. 
It was one of the best, most satisfying meals of my life. 

Tonight? Fresh fish from the Gulf, salad, and rice. 

The hawk just swooped down in the backyard and picked up something off the ground and flew back to his perch on the old play set tower. The wary songbirds have deserted the feeder as they do every evening at this time now. But they continue to sing their sunset songs and chatter about their days. I hear the frogs back in the swamp chorusing their gratefulness for the rain. 
Praise music, not just on Sundays, but on every day. 

I believe I may make dill pickles tomorrow. 
We shall see. 

Love...Ms. Moon









36 comments:

  1. All of what you said, plus the fact that fat cells have memory and can experience epigenetic changes, which probably helped early humans survive. Or not, but it makes sense.

    I'm glad the drug is helping. I would like a drug that takes away depression, forever. It's tiring.

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    1. I'm with you on that one. I think someday they will.

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  2. Weight loss is a journey. We have to find that path that works for us. I've lost around 85 lbs. in the last year and a half. I did it through becoming a vegetarian and lots of exercise. It's the only thing that seems to have worked for me short of medication. It's been the battle royale, believe me.
    But it works for me and would not for everyone. Again, we have to forge on own path on this weight loss journey with whatever works for YOU. Fat cells do have a memory. Those fuckers never forget! Best of luck to you and you will win the battle with perseverance and patience. A hard lesson I had to learn and this learning curve ain't for sissies.
    Paranormal John

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    1. I absolutely agree with everything you've said. I very much admire your persistence and strength in changing your life in such a positive way, John.

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  3. The other thing that is not well understood is that food deprivation causes the body to shut down its processing so that less food does not lead to less weight. Instead the body reacts defensively, maintaining its weight on less fuel. This is markedly true for women, probably related to the species need to procreate.
    It's way too complicated to dismiss as less fuel equals weight loss. If dieting worked easily. there wouldn't be a billion dollar dieting industry.
    It's interesting to follow your new relationship to food since taking this rx.

    Your harvest is beautiful.

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    1. Oh yes. I had people in Weight Watchers who refused to eat all that they were supposed to and their weight losses would slow and then stop. I remember specifically one woman who did this who was so frustrated. She would not eat all her allowances, thinking she would lose faster. I kept telling her but she wouldn't believe me until she went on vacation, ate pretty much everything she wanted, came back and found she'd lost weight. The metabolism just really slows down when it is threatened with starvation.

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  4. Thanks for sharing your journey. It makes so much sense. I think that these drugs are going to help a lot of people in many ways if we can just get the cost down.

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    1. They will. And getting insurance to pay for them is another huge hurdle. One would think that they would realize all of the money they'd be saving on medications for blood pressure and cholesterol and inflammation and joint mobility.
      One would think.

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  5. We've both been writing and blogging forever, Mary, and the Anonymous comments still make me crack up. Honestly, who ARE these people? I am so fascinated with these drugs -- tried them last summer, as I told you, but my insurance company stopped covering them. I had lost 12 pounds in about a month -- as someone who actually was effortlessly thin until I was about 40ish, the mental part of taking them was just incredibly interesting. I felt good in a way that I haven't and it was very hard to explain. In any case, I hope they continue to work for you.

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    1. I hear that same story over and over about insurance and it makes my blood boil. But why be surprised? I hope that you can figure out how to get back on them if you want to and it sounds like you do.

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  6. Sigh. I wondered how long it would take for the diet and exercise police to show up. They always do and are always named anonymous. Best of luck to you!

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  7. Since these drugs are relatively new to the market there has been no research about the long term effects on the body.. We can justify what we do and we will be criticised for suggesting an alternative view , we cannot be narrow in our thinking. Lithium was a drug for the ages particularly women who thought their lives would be perfect when taking them, so too ford pills. They were and then they weren’t .Some of the ads were absurd. Oxycontin was the miracle drug and then it wasn’t . Having an opinion and a choice is what life is all about
    I hope the pills work for you and your satisfaction Only you will know . You do grow the best veggies and you hubby catches beautiful fish. That in itself is a lifestyle and a food supply most people would envy

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    1. My mum took ford pills and apparently a side effect was blue pee.

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    2. Completely incorrect. Semaglutides have been on the market for twenty years. There were originally introduced as a way to treat diabetes. Twenty years. So this is not a completely reckless dive into unknown waters. I am confused about your words concerning lithium and ford pills. Lithium was used to treat bipolar disorder and may still be. It was very helpful to some. It was NOT a feel-good drug. And what are ford pills? The laxative made in Australia? Why was that considered a perfect drug? You are correct about oxy.
      Here, I just found this about lithium:
      "Yes, lithium is still used for treating bipolar disorder, and in fact, it's considered the gold standard for maintenance treatment. While its use has seen a decline, it remains a valuable medication for managing the disorder, particularly for preventing mood episodes and reducing the risk of suicide."

      Educate yourself.

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  8. While these drugs undoubtedly have unpleasant or even serious side effects for some people, it has to be weighed against the negative health effects of people who are morbidly obese (I'm not suggesting that you are morbidly obese of course). I mean, if you can't wash yourself or even walk there is probably quite a lot to be said for taking these drugs. It's a matter of weighing up the pros and cons. I'm glad it's working for you!

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    1. So far side effects have proven to be mild and easy enough to handle. Mainly gastric problems including constipation and diarrhea. What drug does not have side effects?
      I feel that restricting the use of semaglutides to the morbidly obese is wrong-thinking. Why wait until people have reached that point with all the attendant problems associated when it could have been prevented?
      But that's my thinking on the subject.

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  9. Since you have already said all that needs to be said about the pills, I wonder why "anonymous" had to add that bit about pills not ever being the answer. Clearly, for some, they ARE the answer.
    I also wonder sometimes about the wooly mammoth days and whether those who didn't eat all the food might have been the ones who first learned to set aside and preserve for the lean times. Perhaps by drying or smoking the meats and fruits.

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    1. Well, the medication is delivered via injection, not taken in pills so Anonymous didn't even get that right. They are not fat pills by any definition.
      Your theory could be true but that didn't evolve as a biological and neurological issue. I think.

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  10. A blog is our own personal journey. Our life. Our outlook. Our choices. People will not always agree with our way, and they are always welcome to their own opinion. However, when that opinion crosses over to the point where they cannot or will not choose to write under their own names, I think that is a clear indication that even they know they are crossing a line from offering an opinion to outright criticism. So...they hide.

    My email to you was to acknowledge that weight loss is not always straight forward. In my case, knowing I was an emotional eater on an intellectual level did not solve my problem. Realizing it on a gut/emotional level led to a series of epiphanies. I wish that I could explain it better, because it was a powerful thing.

    In your case, this is working with you. I think that ultimately as you lose weight, your own emotions will change. Your own negativity about yourself. Your anxiety. Perhaps once you are set on that road, you won't require that medication to continue in that direction.

    But...In the end, it is your choice and no one should be criticizing your for it on your blog.

    The end.

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    1. We all find our way in our own way, don't we Debby? I think it boils down to that.
      I keep thinking about a woman who was interviewed in another episode of Oprah's podcast after she lost a massive amount of weight with bariatric surgery and the use of semaglutides. She had many, many problems associated with obesity and her doctor finally asked, "Why are you afraid to ask for help?"
      I think that was kind of a gut-epiphany for me. Why do I always feel I must do things the hard way or it doesn't count? I think many of us feel the same way. And with weight loss there is always the shame in not having the willpower to eat "properly" or exercise enough so throw that in there too.
      There is help and I am choosing to accept it. And hopefully, that will work for me.

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  11. SG loves dill pickles. A rarity here. As for “Good food choices and exercise is the key to good health,” yada yada yada. Sure, that’s all there is to it. Hah!

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    1. So fucking simple, right? Or my personal favorite- "Calories in/Calories out." Wow! Why did no one ever explain this? I must have missed that day in health class.
      I sure would love to send SG some dill pickles.

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  12. I'm betting that commenter is a follower of RFK Jr. Of course good food and exercise matter, but you are already eating well and exercising. The pharmaceutical industry has its evil players (as do all industries) but it's also done a lot of people a lot of good.

    Why do people always think they have the best answer for everyone, whether the subject is politics, religion, weight loss, etc.? It's the human condition, I suppose. I'm certainly guilty of it too in some ways.

    For what it's worth, I used to eat tomato sandwiches with just lettuce and mayo, no bacon, and they were fab. But you need the mayo. :)

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    1. I wonder if RFK, Jr. ever wrote an article about the weight-loss benefits of heroin use? I'd love to read that one. At least it's something he does know about.
      I don't know why we humans think we know the best way to do everything but we do! I do it! "But if you'd just..."
      No. That's generally not helpful at all. I find the older I get, the less I feel that way. It's more like, "Huh. That's interesting. I never would have thought about that."
      But not when it comes to politics and religion!
      Oh yeah. Tomato sandwiches are AMAZING but you absolutely must have mayo.

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  13. Here is a tomato sandwich recipe we like that I found somewhere, maybe online: HATS - hummus, avocado, tomato and scallions - on toasted bread. I actually usually leave off the scallions and it is still good.
    Do what you want, Mary, and ignore the anonymous assholes.

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    1. Ooh- I bet that is very good.
      Anonymous's are not bothering me in the least. I feel sorry for their ignorance and obvious desire to stay ignorant.

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  14. So glad that you're experiencing new relationships to food. It's always a great discussion as to what works for whom. Loved seeing your veggies and the pretty Magnolia blossom. What a gorgeous salad too, and I'm envious of your fresh fish dinner. Thanks for sharing your thoughts.

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    1. That fish last night was SO GOOD! Fresh as it could be.

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  15. Amusing to me that people who make comments like Anonymous above are always anonymous. Happy to insult and dress down and call you ignorant and lazy, they stand by their opinions and rudeness but hide their identities. Cowards. (Not referring to all anonymous commenters who have genuine reasons to be so).

    I've said this before but I find the most interesting part to be the way it has affect your approach to cooking.

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    1. Oh well. The Anons who use that title as a way to express themselves without fear of judgement are sad. I'm putting myself out here!
      Yep. Cooking is different for sure.

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  16. Your garden harvest is impressive every day. Eating fresh produce picked right from your own plants is very satisfying. I'm trying to grow tomatoes again...so far, I see lots of flowers, and the wildlife are not eating the plants. Hope is eternal!
    All signs show, the diet pills are working well for you. Why can't everybody admit, you do not argue success!
    Your tuna/salad plate looks delicious.

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    1. They're not diet pills, Susan! That's a common misconception. The medication is given via injection, once a week, and the way it works on the brain goes far beyond just "diet." I think this stuff is going to change a lot of lives.
      I sure hope your tomatoes get busy and make fruit! Or vegetables. Whatever.

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  17. our insurance has me on a 'plan' bc my BMI is over 30 but no longer covers any weight loss injections ...... they can also charge me more for my premium and deductible if I don't follow their 'plan' but at the same time they don't cover the medication that I could take to not have to be on the 'plan'. a couple of my close friends get their medication on the grey market now bc of this......

    I want it to work for you bc I respect you and your choices. our relationships with food are very intimate and the reasons people weigh more than a chart says they should are as varied as you can get....

    xxalainaxx

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    1. Insurance companies are scum. Let's just face it. Also, they are stupid.
      If you want to know where I'm getting my meds, shoot me an email. My doctor recommended it and sent my prescription to them so I think it's pretty legit.
      And boy are you right about food.

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    2. I may to help my mentor she's getting fleeced through a 'med spa' currently. <3

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