tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2086296370004835655.post8003189309452835720..comments2024-03-28T19:29:04.400-04:00Comments on Bless Our Hearts: RememberingMs. Moonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09776404747858099919noreply@blogger.comBlogger30125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2086296370004835655.post-3170277344185601902020-10-07T17:20:37.955-04:002020-10-07T17:20:37.955-04:00That is a perfect thought and wish to send up for ...That is a perfect thought and wish to send up for someone who was once so close. Perfect, e. Thank you. Ms. Moonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09776404747858099919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2086296370004835655.post-44463316540379809012020-10-07T17:19:56.139-04:002020-10-07T17:19:56.139-04:00It does look like the hurricane is going to veer a...It does look like the hurricane is going to veer away from us. I hope it doesn't hurt anyone!<br />Friendships are often like romances, aren't they? Especially in that it is so rare for them to last a lifetime. But so beautiful when they do. Ms. Moonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09776404747858099919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2086296370004835655.post-85298025371746216552020-10-07T17:18:21.097-04:002020-10-07T17:18:21.097-04:00Damn. Yeah. And there are things we cannot change ...Damn. Yeah. And there are things we cannot change about ourselves to please someone else. We have to be who we are, we have to do what we have to do. And if that breaks up a friendship- well- it does. But it's hard. <br />Hugs and love back to you. Ms. Moonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09776404747858099919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2086296370004835655.post-82314602533154452902020-10-07T17:17:10.065-04:002020-10-07T17:17:10.065-04:00Yes. You're right in all of that. And as I sai...Yes. You're right in all of that. And as I said in another comment, what we once needed, we may not always need and thus the roles we seek from others are no longer appropriate. That's so weird but so true. <br />Our destinies were entwined but then, they are not. Ms. Moonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09776404747858099919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2086296370004835655.post-25282480349201853362020-10-07T17:15:33.512-04:002020-10-07T17:15:33.512-04:00Yes. It's sad. But it's damn real. We do c...Yes. It's sad. But it's damn real. We do change, even if the changes simply allow ourselves to see more clearly and also, what we once needed from a friend we may not need anymore. <br />It's complex. <br />You're right about visiting old neighborhoods. There are some I would not revisit for anything and some I never tire of returning to. Ms. Moonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09776404747858099919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2086296370004835655.post-61594312476328232072020-10-07T17:13:53.457-04:002020-10-07T17:13:53.457-04:00It would seem that yes, we all know these feelings...It would seem that yes, we all know these feelings, have had this experience. It is important to honor those people for the season they were with us, isn't it? Ms. Moonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09776404747858099919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2086296370004835655.post-69306835756952095482020-10-07T17:12:51.336-04:002020-10-07T17:12:51.336-04:00Yes- there is that element of having to get to the...Yes- there is that element of having to get to the point where we feel we can let go. And that's a hard one. I guess we've all experienced this. Ms. Moonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09776404747858099919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2086296370004835655.post-82288757300722840112020-10-07T17:12:10.492-04:002020-10-07T17:12:10.492-04:00Oh, thank you, Blods! I'm sorry I made you cry...Oh, thank you, Blods! I'm sorry I made you cry but sometimes we need that, I guess. Ms. Moonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09776404747858099919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2086296370004835655.post-79561974994540452882020-10-07T17:11:46.919-04:002020-10-07T17:11:46.919-04:00Yes! But I would have sworn this woman was my soul...Yes! But I would have sworn this woman was my soul mate. I believed that with all of my heart. Because you and I are so alike in so many ways, I know that you do know exactly what I'm talking about and the feelings I had/have. <br />In many ways, you and I are soul mates, I think. You are always in my heart.Ms. Moonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09776404747858099919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2086296370004835655.post-54926072601662977872020-10-07T17:10:10.198-04:002020-10-07T17:10:10.198-04:00Some people are like that- the friendship requires...Some people are like that- the friendship requires a certain balance, even if it is not equal, and when that is upset, things scatter. So hard. <br />Thank you for that last sentence. I appreciate it with all my heart. Ms. Moonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09776404747858099919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2086296370004835655.post-47025449398368939882020-10-07T17:09:03.430-04:002020-10-07T17:09:03.430-04:00That's a hard decision to make. To risk reject...That's a hard decision to make. To risk rejection again is a very brave thing to do but is it wise? I guess you would have to decide whether a positive outcome would be worth it. <br />I've been on the other side of that equation- the one letting a friendship go without much explanation and although I have felt very guilty, in both cases it felt like what I had to do to protect myself. Ugh. <br />I wish you good luck with whatever you decide. Ms. Moonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09776404747858099919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2086296370004835655.post-59012256256267969662020-10-07T17:06:54.453-04:002020-10-07T17:06:54.453-04:00Very, very true and very, very wise dear Mrs. M. I...Very, very true and very, very wise dear Mrs. M. I especially love the "too much happened and we aren't those people any more..." part. Exactly. And yet, when they were happening, they were intense and real and fucking necessary. Ms. Moonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09776404747858099919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2086296370004835655.post-349638846801423942020-10-07T17:05:38.255-04:002020-10-07T17:05:38.255-04:00She was a lifesaver for me and I hope that I helpe...She was a lifesaver for me and I hope that I helped her too. I tend to think that men do not form same-sex friendships that are as intense as the ones women share. I am not sure why that is but it is what I've witnessed. Men can be very good friends with someone and really not know much about them whereas women's very close friendships are much more intimate. In my experience, anyway. We need those friendships. We really do. Ms. Moonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09776404747858099919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2086296370004835655.post-79358801033437623322020-10-07T17:04:03.881-04:002020-10-07T17:04:03.881-04:00Too much wine or not, that was a beautiful comment...Too much wine or not, that was a beautiful comment. I think that repairing your friendship is something you should be proud of. And I hope you are and I hope that the friendship brings you joy. History IS important. People with whom we share things that are the most intimate hold those parts of ourselves, don't they? And we hold parts of them. Ms. Moonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09776404747858099919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2086296370004835655.post-76984306906128906122020-10-07T17:02:03.518-04:002020-10-07T17:02:03.518-04:00I could be a narcissist myself. I often worry abou...I could be a narcissist myself. I often worry about that as I think my mother was. It's a tricky thing because narcissists can be the most charming of all people. Not always but damn- they can be. Ms. Moonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09776404747858099919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2086296370004835655.post-21860778042494594202020-10-07T15:39:39.573-04:002020-10-07T15:39:39.573-04:00I am sorry for your loss and the grief which accom...I am sorry for your loss and the grief which accompanies it. Having had a similar experience, I also understand the range of feelings that can occur when this person comes to mind. In my case, I send up a silent wish that they are safe and well and appreciate the relief I feel at no longer having to deal with them in person. I wasn't aware of this new hurricane...I hope it veers off. Be safe.ehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11376645220662546020noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2086296370004835655.post-55430275392534405092020-10-07T12:42:51.145-04:002020-10-07T12:42:51.145-04:00Sadly I do think so many friendships are just &quo...Sadly I do think so many friendships are just "for a season" of our lives. We move on and our circumstances change so that friend from whom we were inseparable all those years ago ends up moving on too. Stay safe from the hurricane - I hope it gives you a wide berth!Treadershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08613671137557939083noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2086296370004835655.post-62340280032550493062020-10-07T10:15:56.214-04:002020-10-07T10:15:56.214-04:00I had a best friend, from the time we were fourtee...I had a best friend, from the time we were fourteen years old, who dumped me about ten years ago. She told me I was too angry but in truth, I think she was angry with me for going back to my ex-husband and trying again, and because she was afraid I would tell her new husband about an affair she had at work. I wouldn't have told anyone but she didn't trust my obviously.<br /><br />I was so hurt by that experience. When I look back, she had done the same thing more than once to "friends". I just thought I was immune. I guess not.<br /><br />I grieved that loss for a long time and still miss that relationship but obviously that relationship was something different for her than it was for me. <br /><br />It's hard.<br /><br />Good for you for getting out in public. Sending hugs and love.My life so farhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16721270441968035994noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2086296370004835655.post-51471994221342965642020-10-07T10:10:20.972-04:002020-10-07T10:10:20.972-04:00yep, several times. I tapered off several friends ...yep, several times. I tapered off several friends over the decades. I've also been dropped like a hot potato with no explanation more than once though I'm certainly not a perfect person. some of the best, well, not advice, more like knowledge I received over the loss of friends is that some people come into your life for only a certain amount of time to fulfill whatever need you or they have at that time and when that need is fulfilled or dealt with they exit abruptly or gradually. as humans, we grow and with friends we don't always grow in the same direction or together. it seems sad to lose someone you thought was a good friend, even painful but life goes on and you and they are continuing on your own destinies. ellen abbotthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00535475792150335186noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2086296370004835655.post-89027808336006729982020-10-07T09:48:26.684-04:002020-10-07T09:48:26.684-04:00Of course I have similar friendships that have evo...Of course I have similar friendships that have evolved (and devolved) over the years. Not only has your friend probably changed but I'm sure you have too -- you're probably able to see flaws in her that were always there but that you may not have perceived before. We all just keep changing and sometimes we're no longer compatible. It IS sad but it's just the way life works, I guess.<br /><br />I love revisiting places where I have lived previously. Even when the neighborhoods have changed it's the closest experience to stepping back in time.<br /><br />Poor Maurice!Steve Reedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11684120060438252945noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2086296370004835655.post-53860406733827295082020-10-07T09:02:25.171-04:002020-10-07T09:02:25.171-04:00Clearly, you captured the feelings that most of us...Clearly, you captured the feelings that most of us have experienced when friendships fade away or sometimes die ignominiously--and touched us all. Friends for a season, as Rosemarie said.Maryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11587652444835060129noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2086296370004835655.post-35635760189191473272020-10-06T22:50:19.621-04:002020-10-06T22:50:19.621-04:00This post brought up such a lot of memories, my re...This post brought up such a lot of memories, my reaching out over and over, after rejection, making excuses for the other person until I finally realized it was never going to change, and I could use my energy elsewhere. It took a long time to feel entitled to do that.Boudhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08621560989986102122noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2086296370004835655.post-6756630343294129772020-10-06T22:41:57.251-04:002020-10-06T22:41:57.251-04:00Such a beautifully written post Mary, it made me c...Such a beautifully written post Mary, it made me cry also, you have a magic way with words xxBlodshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11795842043071345130noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2086296370004835655.post-46225746346490471812020-10-06T22:35:02.627-04:002020-10-06T22:35:02.627-04:00Some friendships are only for a season, we’re boun...Some friendships are only for a season, we’re bound by our need to support each other through something and then life changes, and the water flows under the bridge. But some people are for a lifetime. These are our soul mates I think, our soul cluster. Still I’m grateful for the people with whom I had that closeness you describe so poignantly here. I cherish the memories and mourn the fact that we can’t go back to what was. You have got me thinking deeply about certain people tonight. The chemistry. The all consuming love. And then the slow unraveling. I know exactly the feelings you share in this post. 37paddingtonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12400464105403622384noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2086296370004835655.post-69168664962095897672020-10-06T21:33:35.346-04:002020-10-06T21:33:35.346-04:00I had a very dear person in my life with whom I sh...I had a very dear person in my life with whom I shared so much. She was my best friend and she was my support when I went through my painful divorce over 20 years ago. A couple of years later, I found true love and shortly thereafter, this friend told me she didn't have that kind of love with her husband and therefore, it was too painful for her to be friends with me anymore. It broke my heart but I realized she wasn't really a friend to begin with...unless I was more miserable than she.<br /><br />I love your blog and appreciate your raw honesty. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com