After Jessie's cat died this summer, she had no need for a cat bed any longer and she offered it to me. Despite my doubts that Maurice would deign to set foot or ass in a cat bed, I said I'd take it and see what happened.
And that happened.
I'm pretty darn surprised but in a way, that's how she sleeps when she sleeps with me, curled up in the space formed by the way I sleep, on my side, one leg bent, one leg straight.
So maybe she'll feel safe in that little cat bed. Jessie also gave me some catnip she had and I put some on a piece of cardboard for Maurice. She gave it a good sniff, another sniff, and then walked away. Damn. I was hoping to find something that might bring her a little joy.
I went to the dentist today. I finally figured out what my sweet dental hygienist’s name is. It's Maddie. There was no detective work involved because she was wearing a cute little pin that said, "Maddie."
I mean, you just can't ask someone you've sort of known for several years what their name is, right? Once again she was lovely and she praised my oral hygiene. She told me that some people come in to get their teeth cleaned not only having not flossed, but also not having even brushed. Just after their lunch!
I said, "That's just rude." And it is. What's wrong with people?
I met Lily and Lauren for lunch after my appointment and it was good to see them. Sometimes it's really a treat to see my kids and their sweethearts without the company of children, no matter how much I love them. You can concentrate more, for sure.
And then we went to the same Goodwill I found my Fiesta Ware in last week and I may have used up all my thrifting luck in that one visit. I found nothing today that I wanted. Not even vaguely.
But here's the big thing that happened today. I think we may have hired a carpenter/builder to come help us with our house. When Glen and I were talking about the prospect of hiring someone, I mentioned this man as a possible person to get an estimate from. I have literally known this guy since before he was born. His mama and I were good friends and I was pregnant with Hank and she was pregnant with Floyd (that's his name) at the same time. Hank and Floyd were born a month apart. Floyd's daddy was in a band at the time with my then-husband and it was a very sweet and very strong community. In fact, his daddy was literally the second person I met when I got to Tallahassee in 1974.
I have written about all of these people at one time or another but I don't feel quite right about giving out a lot of details now.
Early days in this project. You know?
But Glen agreed that Floyd might be a good person to call. He'd talked to a contractor friend who told him that no, he didn't work on old houses like this and he really didn't know anybody else who did either. But it would appear that Floyd does.
When he came to the door this evening to see what we had going on here, I opened it up to him and he said, "Hey, Ms. Mary!" So southern, yes, but just so sweet. I hugged him hard. He smiles a lot and I believe those smiles are genuine. He works with his son and of course, I love that too.
In a way, I feel like things have come full circle. Or at least sort of.
And so we begin, I hope. I love this old house more than words can say. It is the place where I not only live but where I helped raise two grandkids up to preschool age. A place where we've had a few weddings. A place where we've had birthday parties, Thanksgivings, Easters, and huge gatherings with music and food. A place where my acting buddies liked to come and I'd make pizza and we'd drink martinis. A place where we've grown a lot of food, where the camellias I planted as twigs are now trees, a place where I kept chickens and where I've made a million meals and read a million stories to my grandchildren. A place where I have danced by myself in the hallway to the Rolling Stones. A place where my niece, sitting at the kitchen island looked around at all my silly stuff, sighed, and said, "When I grow up, I want a house just like this." A place where we held the dancing, and yes- joyful- wake for my friend Lynn when she took off to a different plane. A place where I have gone from the age of fifty to the age of seventy-one. A place where I have loved my husband more than I ever knew I could, where we have figured out what love is and can be in our older years. A place that has offered me so many challenges when it comes to the things that grow in the yard and at the same time, has given me the huge and unearned honor of living in the shade of ancient oaks, and magnificently massive magnolia trees. It has protected us through hurricanes and floods. A place where I have felt safe and at peace and which has comforted and sustained me in my darkest, scariest times. It has given me peace and it has given me joy and never once has it given me despair of any sort.
Except the despair I have felt at not taking care of it properly.
I hope that Floyd can help us. And please don't make any jokes about the name "Floyd" in relation to the name of the village in which I live. Floyd got his name in a most deeply meaningful way and it had nothing to do with Lloyd, although I have come to love the place named that.
At least sometimes.
Maurice is perfect. Her face is so adorable and her legs are killing me. She's a very content cat in the bed.
ReplyDeleteLovely writing and description on your home and why you need to fix it. Glad you went full circle with Lloyd. Sounds like the right person for the job.-Nicol
*contented cat :D
DeleteShe is really using that bed! I would have bet a hundred dollars she wouldn't go near it.
DeleteThank you for those sweet words.
I hope that bed is what she needs to feel calm. And yay for repairs on the house, at least being thought about.
ReplyDeleteI hope so too. She deserves a little peace, this wild woman cat of ours.
DeleteAnd I also hope that things work out with Floyd.
Wishing you all the best with Floyd and the renos! Maurice is a sweet cat in her sweet new bed.
ReplyDeleteMaurice isn't what I'd call sweet but she sure can look that way sometimes.
DeleteAhh yes, Floyd-from-Lloyd, I get it. My dear husband was Paxton-from- Braxton for many years. He moved to the small town in Mississippi, where his father was from, at the age of 7 from San Francisco, CA. Quite a culture shock. I think he was picked on quite a bit at first for his name and accent and his use of "you guys" instead of y'all. It probably helped shape him into the resilient, funny, slightly crazy guy he is today. Bless his heart.
ReplyDeleteI understand about keeping up old houses. Ours was built in the early 30's, so just a teenager compared to yours, but still getting close to her 100th birthday. It seems something always needs updating or repairing. Even with all the aches and pains of owning this old home I still adore her...SO many memories here. And I do want to be a good steward so that hopefully another generation can enjoy her unique beauty, character, and charm. I honestly don't think I could live in a new, modern home even if you gave it to me. They just lack something...history...warmth...I don't know, but they hold no appeal to me. I do hope Floyd-from-Lloyd will treat your old home with the respect and care she deserves. As they say...you don't actually own older homes---you just become their caretakers for a little while...
Angie D
Yes. And we have not been great caretakers lately.
DeleteI am completely with you on living in a new, modern home. Even a home from the 50's or 60's would be preferable to something built recently. The charm is so much stronger in the old places. Newer homes seem like cookie-cutter houses.
Your poor husband. From California to Mississippi. I am sure that was one hell of a culture shock.
What an evocative walk down Old House Memory Lane, Ms. Moon. Just beautiful.
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Thank you.
DeleteGood on you both for looking for someone to help. I think there comes a time in life where we are just tired and having those extra helping hands makes all the difference!
ReplyDeleteIt's so hard for Glen to ask for help. And well, I guess it's hard for me too but this isn't a job I could even imagine taking on and he is overwhelmed with it and of course, has other projects he's got his heart into now.
DeleteMaurice looks so angelic. Our cats loved catnip once. The next time, no interest. I’m so glad Glen has come around and what better way than full circle with Floyd. Wonderful. Although I’ve loved some of our homes, I’ve never had a home that I felt that way about. Magical.
ReplyDeleteI swear- I am a homebody in all regards. I think I've been looking for a home since I was a child. A real home. And when we moved here, I knew I'd found it. I was home.
DeleteMaurice looks happy in that cat bed. I do hope Floyd is able to do everything necessary to save your beautiful home, fixing this, replacing that and so on. The house deserves it and so do you.
ReplyDeleteI think Maurice IS happy in that bed. She is certainly using it.
DeleteI hope that Floyd can help us too. I trust him.
Our cats could not be tempted by catnip ever but they loved valerian. I know that this bening herbs is considered illegal in some parts of the world, especially the root, but I just grew it to watch my cats roll around, on top and inside the plant in total blissful ectasy.
ReplyDeleteGreetings to Floyd, may he bring you what you are looking for.
I don't think valerian is illegal here. I wonder if Maurice would like that? I just looked online and valerian seeds are available for sale. Hmmm...
DeleteWhenever I think of valerian I think of an episode of The Sopranos where these two people who were recovering addicts decided that it would be safe for one of them who was in a lot of pain or something to take some valerian tincture. Within 24 hours they were back on the streets, scoring heroin. I was like, "Really?" But what do I know?
So glad you love your house, and have all those memories within it. Maurice does look pretty comfortable in the new bed! I lived in Tallahassee from 74-79...a wonderful little place at that time to be a Tallahassee Lassie.
ReplyDeleteBarbara- I bet we ran into each other at least a few times. I'm sure we both remember a lot of the same places, gone now but not forgotten.
DeleteOh, a good worker like Floyd would be a dream come true! There are so many things that should be fixed in my house but it's hard to know where to start. Best of luck with Floyd and all of the projects, Mary!
ReplyDeleteYes! Where to start? That is the hardest thing- figuring that out.
DeleteYou are so nice to maurice , one might think she would mirror that back to y'all. but NO, maurice was "born that way". I will love to see what Floyd will do to shore up your little slice of heaven right there in Lloyd. I love your house, too! It's a gem, as are you.
ReplyDeleteYep. Born that way for sure. Maybe I should change her name to Lady Gaga.
DeleteI truly have great hopes for what Floyd can help us with. I can't even look at that grown man without thinking of the adorable little kid he was. I swear, he looked like a Disney baby.
That cat bed seems to have made Maurice very happy. Now we wait for the personality shift and her being a bit nicer to you. Wishful thinking here?
ReplyDeleteFloyd sounds terrific and the right man for the job. If you know and like his work, I hope you put him on a retainer to get all the jobs on your list done to your full satisfaction.
Your joy about the house and all the maintenance soon to be underway comes across in your post. It is a lovely day.
Yes. Wishful thinking, I do believe. Or even magical thinking! But we shall see.
DeleteFingers crossed that we can indeed work with Floyd and that he can work with us.
Would that having her own comfy bed changes Maurice's attack habits! Stranger things have happened ... .
ReplyDeleteStranger things probably have happened but I'm not betting the ranch on this one. I sure would like that, though.
DeleteI hope Floyd is able to fix up your beautiful, old house.
ReplyDeleteThank you, me too.
DeleteIt's great that Maurice took to the cat bed so readily! I'm sure she'll still sleep with you at night, but now she has a daytime hidey-hole of sorts.
ReplyDeleteWhat exactly is Floyd going to be doing on your house? I don't think you've mentioned what needs to be fixed, or maybe I've just forgotten. It's great that you have such a connection with him. Hopefully that will help make the work go smoothly.
I am so shocked that Maurice seemed to know immediately that the new bed was hers.
DeleteI can't even begin to go into all the things that need doing on this house. Start with the floors and just go right on up.
Sigh.
Then again, if you put anything new on the floor, a cat is likely to lie on it. :)
DeleteI do hope that Floyd works wonders on your beautiful abode - he sounds like he has respect and I think that is a good thing in people.
ReplyDeleteI think Floyd does have a lot of respect for the houses he works on. I feel like that's true.
DeleteThere's no place like home 💙
ReplyDeleteI loved this sharing of some of the memories that this lovely old house holds for you - of course you are attached!
ReplyDeleteIn just another of our synchronicities, I rented a classic San Francisco flat (apartment with a separate entrance) for 42 years. I first went there with my ex partner, my kid's father, to a sale of home goods including a baby crib that our friend, a downstairs neighbor, told us about. I felt at Home when I first entered that 3rd floor flat with a view out over the neighborhood. The family was moving out and when they told me no one was moving in yet, I said "I am" - and we did. Both my son and daughter were born at home there with a midwife in attendance. As with your Home, I have so many memories with my family and friends in that place. It was situated a block and a half from Golden Gate Park and we thought of the park as our extended back yard. Even though I eventually bought a California bungalow in a small town north of SF, I kept a room in the apartment and lived part time in SF. Both of my kids lived in the flat for years when they were grown and its affordable rent helped them get started.
The only reason I let it go was that a speculative developer bought it when our Chinese landlord died, by which time I could not afford to buy the building myself. The developer was a scumbag who started forcing out all of the existing rent control tenants through nefarious means (including hiring a private detective!), the week after he took possession. I fought him, by myself and with a lawyer, for three years as my daughter and grandson were living there while she was back in school getting her Waldorf teaching degree and I was helping raise her boy. The developer practiced "eviction through construction" and my daughter finally couldn't take the full time disruption anymore. We made him pay a pretty penny for our relocation.
My heart still aches with the loss of that Home where I grew into adulthood every time I drive through that neighborhood in SF. I'm glad you are still in your Home, Dear Sister Moon. x0x0 N2