tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2086296370004835655.post802626928544664732..comments2024-03-28T05:38:04.618-04:00Comments on Bless Our Hearts: Letting GoMs. Moonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09776404747858099919noreply@blogger.comBlogger35125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2086296370004835655.post-46864548350232091412021-08-10T12:14:40.655-04:002021-08-10T12:14:40.655-04:00oh, well, I see I was wrong about Obama canceling ...oh, well, I see I was wrong about Obama canceling his birthday party. I kept seeing headlines that he had canceled it but what they meant was that he had canceled the 500 person event, scaled it down to 200.ellen abbotthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00535475792150335186noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2086296370004835655.post-47980588119454306512021-08-09T20:50:29.251-04:002021-08-09T20:50:29.251-04:00You are exactly right- it is not a child's dec...You are exactly right- it is not a child's decision as to when a parent needs to get rid of things. Do WE tell them what THEY should get rid of? Well, maybe some parents do but I don't. I can't help but think of my kids though as I declutter. I keep thinking of what they'll say when they come across certain things- "Why did Mama keep THIS?" "I have no idea. Do you want it?" "Oh hell no."<br />And so forth. <br />But I tell you this- if it's something that makes me happy to have, I don't care what they'll say. <br />As to arguments, my husband and I don't argue much anymore. We used to argue more frequently but I think we both realize now that we do not have to have the same opinions about things and can respect each other's opinions even if we do not agree with them. It serves no real purpose to debate certain things. <br />Now I do admit that I love a good argument with someone I don't really care about but I have come to realize that there is no purpose to it beyond a good hit of adrenalin and that's not a very good reason to get into it with people. Ms. Moonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09776404747858099919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2086296370004835655.post-610409714002294432021-08-09T17:34:51.429-04:002021-08-09T17:34:51.429-04:00"Not all unicorns and rainbows either..."..."Not all unicorns and rainbows either..."<br />I know. I am almost certain that my husband does not read my blog. I think it makes him uncomfortable to just read the things I do write about him. And honestly- there's not a whole lot I could criticize him for even if I wanted to! <br />Letting go of beliefs? I have some that I would give up in a heartbeat if I could figure it out. <br /><br />Catrina- it is not hard! Google "how to start a blog" and you'll find lots of help. Do it! Ms. Moonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09776404747858099919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2086296370004835655.post-55007939503520235162021-08-09T17:32:27.749-04:002021-08-09T17:32:27.749-04:00I think maybe age does have a lot to do with it. I...I think maybe age does have a lot to do with it. I swear- we spend the first half of our life accumulating stuff and the last half trying to deal with it and get rid of it. <br />I love the movie "Frida". It's spectacular. Ms. Moonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09776404747858099919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2086296370004835655.post-40415150881634094722021-08-09T17:31:14.956-04:002021-08-09T17:31:14.956-04:00Oh but there is so much more, Steve! That I could ...Oh but there is so much more, Steve! That I could write about, that is. Could and would if I wasn't so concerned with others' feelings and opinions. I realize that doesn't seem possible! Ha!<br />Funny. Glen asks me the same thing when I mention buying something. "Do you really need that or do you just want it?" <br />Actually, he's pretty much learned not to say that as I do not appreciate it very much. Ms. Moonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09776404747858099919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2086296370004835655.post-65008133642464887672021-08-09T17:21:29.123-04:002021-08-09T17:21:29.123-04:00Yes. Sunlight is the best disinfectant, as they so...Yes. Sunlight is the best disinfectant, as they so often say on my beloved Mormon Stories podcast. I wonder why we fight that so much. I suppose it is the simple matter that we are embarrassed and I know that shame has always played a huge role in my life. <br />There is already cat hair on those floors! Arggghhh!Ms. Moonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09776404747858099919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2086296370004835655.post-73231232353416999882021-08-09T17:20:09.077-04:002021-08-09T17:20:09.077-04:00Well, decluttering IS a gift to our children but I...Well, decluttering IS a gift to our children but I also love Ellen's comment below. If the time has come that we absolutely do have to get rid of things, then we find ways, don't we? I do not envy you having just moved although there is something a bit thrilling about putting things in their new places. Good luck with that! Take your time. Try to enjoy it. Ms. Moonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09776404747858099919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2086296370004835655.post-63179822784322993432021-08-09T17:18:25.402-04:002021-08-09T17:18:25.402-04:00You summed up what I was trying to say in a paragr...You summed up what I was trying to say in a paragraph. Thank you. And honestly, it is SO much harder to rid our minds and souls of the things that do not serve us than it is to rid our homes of the physical objects we need to let go. I wish that weren't so. Ms. Moonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09776404747858099919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2086296370004835655.post-74280432096018536182021-08-09T17:17:19.691-04:002021-08-09T17:17:19.691-04:00Wow, Debby! That's beautiful! How very synchro...Wow, Debby! That's beautiful! How very synchronicitous to find these people just as you are trying to find acceptance for yourself. I have a very hard time with that. Ms. Moonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09776404747858099919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2086296370004835655.post-32221950360557233192021-08-09T17:15:48.508-04:002021-08-09T17:15:48.508-04:00Now that is something I absolutely do not know. Now that is something I absolutely do not know. Ms. Moonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09776404747858099919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2086296370004835655.post-17835303401604676622021-08-09T17:15:27.436-04:002021-08-09T17:15:27.436-04:00Thank you, Chris. Thank you, Chris. Ms. Moonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09776404747858099919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2086296370004835655.post-42147073227359758372021-08-09T17:15:16.057-04:002021-08-09T17:15:16.057-04:00Your boxes are welcome anytime. Your boxes are welcome anytime. Ms. Moonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09776404747858099919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2086296370004835655.post-55595342096609751232021-08-09T17:15:00.087-04:002021-08-09T17:15:00.087-04:00Oh god. What a nightmare that must have been! We h...Oh god. What a nightmare that must have been! We have truly never down-sized but it seems inevitable that at some point we will have to. I dread that time. I really do. Ms. Moonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09776404747858099919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2086296370004835655.post-59416872655082527232021-08-09T17:13:55.472-04:002021-08-09T17:13:55.472-04:00With the fine dirt we have here, mopping is really...With the fine dirt we have here, mopping is really the only way to completely clean a floor but then of course, when you're done, immediately it begins to collect another coat of dirt and dust. <br />I wish I were a better cleaner. I wish I were a braver woman. <br />Ms. Moonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09776404747858099919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2086296370004835655.post-66513071221800773392021-08-09T17:11:51.738-04:002021-08-09T17:11:51.738-04:00I would have been okay with that too, Catrina. Sou...I would have been okay with that too, Catrina. Sounds perfect and life is not full of perfection. Ms. Moonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09776404747858099919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2086296370004835655.post-66749401349363263862021-08-09T17:11:19.086-04:002021-08-09T17:11:19.086-04:00I'm so glad, Susan. Thank you for such a sweet...I'm so glad, Susan. Thank you for such a sweet reflection on what I wrote. Ms. Moonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09776404747858099919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2086296370004835655.post-47668069615699622522021-08-09T17:10:49.344-04:002021-08-09T17:10:49.344-04:00Yes! From thrift stores they come, to thrift store...Yes! From thrift stores they come, to thrift stores they can go. It feels so good to let that happen. Ms. Moonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09776404747858099919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2086296370004835655.post-2555573411103120062021-08-09T15:40:03.353-04:002021-08-09T15:40:03.353-04:00I need to blog.i cant figure out how to start one....I need to blog.i cant figure out how to start one. I love following all of your blogs.i learn alot and truthfully feel like you are my friends.❤❤❤❤Catrinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00494761179052466794noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2086296370004835655.post-91601746164112689852021-08-09T14:42:02.094-04:002021-08-09T14:42:02.094-04:00I like the idea if looking at and letting go of ol...I like the idea if looking at and letting go of old beliefs. I've never thought of cleaning up like but I think it's a great idea. <br /><br />I don't always write everything that's going on. My hubby has a hard time with my blogging. He doesn't understand the connection I feel with people I've never met which is his problem, not mine. That being said, I do censor myself because he reads my blog. I wouldn't have anything bad to say about him but it's not all unicorns and rainbows either. I love him and he can be difficult to deal with sometimes. <br />PixieAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2086296370004835655.post-58669787280775291862021-08-09T14:32:03.807-04:002021-08-09T14:32:03.807-04:00I've done bugger all today except sit and read...I've done bugger all today except sit and read BUT I'm so with you on the desire to get rid of stuff. Maybe it's an age thing but really? Who needs all this "stuff"? And why would I think my kids would want to clear it all out if I died? I don't know. (Oh, and I see you are a Frida fan too! I have a lovely CD soundtrack from the movie)!Treadershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08613671137557939083noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2086296370004835655.post-86351873546788025372021-08-09T11:00:40.170-04:002021-08-09T11:00:40.170-04:00For what it's worth, I think you're quite ...For what it's worth, I think you're quite open about your life, your feelings and your experiences. Of course I don't know what's going on in your head but it seems to me you are authentic and honest and yes, you have accumulated wisdom, which you so often share with us here.<br /><br />As for stuff, I imagine we could ALL do with less of it. I'm pretty good about keeping things pared down, if I do say so myself. It's a challenge for Dave sometimes, I think, because I'm always asking him, "Do you REALLY need this?!" (I do get rid of my own stuff too. :) )Steve Reedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11684120060438252945noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2086296370004835655.post-58470462384361456032021-08-09T10:34:46.726-04:002021-08-09T10:34:46.726-04:00my sister's daughter's keep telling her he...my sister's daughter's keep telling her he needs to get rid of some of her stuff. Why? because they selfishly don't want to have to deal with it later? she likes her stuff, it makes her feel good, she is comfortable in the environment she has created. so I say to them and all others who are pressuring their parent/s to get rid of stuff, back off. if you don't want to deal with it when they are gone, then hire someone to deal with it. of course this has nothing to do with you Mary and your own winnowing. that's fine when it is something you want to do for yourself, getting rid of things that no longer have meaning or speak to you, creating a little space. <br /><br />I'm pretty much an open book but there are times when I don't write about transient feelings because of certain people who read my blog because while I wouldn't mind sharing my feelings or temporary anger or frustration, I don't necessarily want to get into it with the person those feelings are about. at this point in my life, I walk away from fights and arguments. I'm perfectly happy for the other person to have the last word even when I know they are wrong. not worth the negative feelings. for instance, last night Marc was telling me about Obama's birthday party he was reading about that Obama had scaled it down to 200 'close friends'. he canceled it I told him. No he didn't he says, I'm reading about it right now. I just turned around and walked off. not going to argue about it.ellen abbotthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00535475792150335186noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2086296370004835655.post-68429408541936270432021-08-09T10:13:55.803-04:002021-08-09T10:13:55.803-04:00This post resonates so much for me, I know just wh...This post resonates so much for me, I know just what you mean about the things we don't write, usually the things that embarrass us about ourselves, that we keep in a dark room of ourselves, perhaps never to experience the healing power of allowing light to disperse the shadows. I do however love the artistic eclecticism of your pillow view, and your washed floors look mahh-velous dahling.37paddingtonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12400464105403622384noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2086296370004835655.post-1195276596040777072021-08-09T07:42:52.142-04:002021-08-09T07:42:52.142-04:00My son has been begging me to get rid of things, m...My son has been begging me to get rid of things, most particularly books, for several years now. I promised myself a couple of years ago that I would dump a box full every month that lasted about two months. Then I found out that I had to move. I had to throw out hundreds of book. The first ones were difficult but it got easier and easier. I moved six days ago and am still sitting in boxes trying to figure out where to put things. More will be thrown out and that is ok. There are some things that I can't part with and that is ok too for now. I know that decluttering is a gift to my children.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2086296370004835655.post-5659692014674881402021-08-09T07:37:07.695-04:002021-08-09T07:37:07.695-04:00As I think about what you have written (wonderful,...As I think about what you have written (wonderful, btw), it occurs to me that while we periodically like to go through our houses and rid ourselves of excess goods that are weighing us down or cluttering our lives, we don't often spend enough time clearing our minds of the thoughts and ideas that keep us tied to the past or to behaviors that do us no favor. Or perhaps figuring out that we no longer need to use the false fronts we sometimes portray to the world. Something to ponder this week and beyond.Maryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11587652444835060129noreply@blogger.com