Comments on Bless Our Hearts: The Story

Oh, Jan. I know. I heard. I can't quite believ...

2010-02-09T11:50:55.140-05:00

Oh, Jan. I know. I heard. I can't quite believe it.
Well, hell. You'd make more money working at Publix and the hours would be a hell of a lot better. Not saying you should go work at Publix although that is MY back-up plan.
I'm going to work on my lines today too. And we'll all be together tonight (except for our dear Hillary who is out on the high seas, probably wishing she wasn't) and that will be good and yes, life will go on and you have your Handsome Henry, your Beautiful Ben, your Darling Jack.

A postscript to The Story. I received the official...

2010-02-09T11:43:38.251-05:00

A postscript to The Story. I received the official email this morning to say my last day is Monday. Thank God for good friends and my darling Jack. Now I need to go work on my lines so I won't embarrass myself at rehearsal tonight. Life will go on. Anyone know of a job opening? Jan
PS - I can't remember my password to put this under my regular identity!

I wish them so much luck and so much love. May it ...

2010-02-08T13:50:26.358-05:00

I wish them so much luck and so much love. May it bring them joy and happiness.

Nicely told, Ms. Moon, and I do wish the two love ...

2010-02-08T11:06:29.486-05:00

Nicely told, Ms. Moon, and I do wish the two love birds good luck. Love is, well, lovely.

So are you.

Wow, what a story that is! No matter how these tw...

2010-02-07T20:11:28.287-05:00

Wow, what a story that is! No matter how these two came to be together, their spouses would've been hurt. It sounds like they gave it much thought and were really sure in their love for each other before becoming a couple, which I respect greatly.

Good luck to your friends.

That meddling no-count witch, however, can suck it. What a sorry excuse for a woman.

Felt like it took forever for you to tell the stor...

2010-02-07T15:55:39.766-05:00

Felt like it took forever for you to tell the story. I'm glad you did.

Congratulations to Jack and Jan. They don't have to live the future, just today, and they can do it together. Everything you said was true--it's better to face reality and live right now because right now is the only time we have. And it's not fair to other partners to pretend. I believe that every day will get better for Jack and Jan. And for their former partners too.

As to the PW, I'd wish a pox on her but she's bringing it on herself so no need. The kind of insecurity which causes a person to undercut others becomes a singular agony. She's alone in herself. At some point she'll hit a time/event for which she's inadequate. And the world will be a cold reflection of herself.

I bless these beautiful people. No doubt this hasn...

2010-02-07T15:06:58.368-05:00

I bless these beautiful people. No doubt this hasn't been easy.
Love is action. Difficult, mysterious, intentional, unconditional, acting out our heart.

May- Yes. Martyrdom is for very sad people. You na...

2010-02-06T20:01:18.403-05:00

May- Yes. Martyrdom is for very sad people. You nailed that one!
Better to recognize and respect truth and love.

It takes such courage to reach for happiness and l...

2010-02-06T18:24:26.281-05:00

It takes such courage to reach for happiness and love! It seems like we give too much respect for martyrdom, and that is just sad. Jack and Jan- it would've rained broken hearts no matter what you did, but you chose truth and love, and I think that is fine. Fine and brave.
Mama, you wrote this beautifully.

Bethany- Small town. Small town. lulumarie darlin...

2010-02-06T15:16:51.590-05:00

Bethany- Small town. Small town.

lulumarie darling- Yes. I think we all know from experience. Well, most of us.

Jon- You can call anyone. We know you're not a busybody. You are family.

Aunt Becky- Then I'm glad I gave it.

Jan- Well, we do love you. You know that. Thank-you and Jack so much for all you are, all you do, and now for your love.

K- That sort of sums it up.

SJ- Any children here are all grown-up. And yes, I think it is terribly unfair and ridiculous for Jan to lose her job.

Tiff- Me too!

Adrienne....XXOOXXOO to you too, sweet mama.

ms moon... xoxoxo

2010-02-06T09:46:09.696-05:00

ms moon...

xoxoxo

This made me cry. Because it reads like a movie, b...

2010-02-06T08:22:08.535-05:00

This made me cry. Because it reads like a movie, but it so isn't. I am so so delighted for them. There isn't enough love in this world. I'm glad they get to live in theirs freely now.

I have such a hard time with this issue in general...

2010-02-06T00:08:18.982-05:00

I have such a hard time with this issue in general. Partly because I've been the child in such a situation, and partly because I'm naive in my own relationship life to situations such as these. And also because it's a deep-seeded fear in me that marriages just always fall apart. So while I celebrate the love, I harbor my own fears. But this is NOT about me, and I know that every love is different. And everything is different when you know and love the players in any game and the rules don't always stay the same in every case.

I wish true love well, always. Sometimes things are just right--and one thing that is absolutely WRONG is that their job should be affected by this, especially when this isn't an issue of sexism, boss/subordinate, etc.

I really wish I could see the play now, that's for sure :)

Miss A said that I had to read this. It brought t...

2010-02-05T21:56:31.679-05:00

Miss A said that I had to read this. It brought tears to my eyes. And down my face. I understand why they had to be together in such a big way. I understand loving someone to such a degree that it HAS to be, even if it takes a while for the logistics to work themselves out. I wish them all of the happiness in the world. "I don't care. As long as this is where I am, I don't care." Yeah...I get it.

My sweet Mary, I was a bit nervous about being a “...

2010-02-05T21:46:17.744-05:00

My sweet Mary, I was a bit nervous about being a “story” but you have told it so beautifully, as I knew you would. And to all of this marvelous blogging family, Jack and I thank you so much for your love and support. I will read and re-read this entry and all the comments over and over again and I will continue to laugh and cry every single time and feel strengthened by you all. Jack and I read them together this afternoon and did just that. Honey Luna, you know we love you and are just itching to get you back into another play! A few folks have asked us if this play was the impetus for us to make this humongous move. Of course, the answer is no. On Golden Pond, possibly, but Sex Please, no. We had a litany of reasons for this schedule, but a part of me does truly believe that we were able to finally take this step because we are surrounded by the people we love and we know love us and that you would not desert us but wrap us in you loving arms and tell us everything would be okay. And you have, and it will, and we love you all. And as for the job -12 years - damn - but life goes on. We’ll survive. Thank you, Jan and Jack (who read this comment and asked me to include his name as well)

I think it's beautiful. I really needed this s...

2010-02-05T21:42:53.084-05:00

I think it's beautiful. I really needed this story.

I appreciate you posting this more than you know. ...

2010-02-05T21:09:04.449-05:00

I appreciate you posting this more than you know. I've been wanting to call you and talk some about this, because I feel so far out of the loop that I'm not sure what to think or what's really going on. I also didn't want to look like a busy body.
Rest assured I'm thinking of everyone, and a song lyric I've known for years: "The best that we can hope for is to be laughing when we finally hit the ground".
I'll call you sometime next week.

Great story ~ I so love hopeless romantics! Jan a...

2010-02-05T20:46:52.706-05:00

Great story ~ I so love hopeless romantics! Jan and Jack, keep following your hearts ~ the ones you care about and don't want to hurt will grow from this and maybe even end up happier than they thought they were ~ this I know from experience!

I love the way you told this. I'm just horrifi...

2010-02-05T20:13:06.448-05:00

I love the way you told this. I'm just horrified though that a woman could lose her job over this. What on earth does this have to do with her JOB? I don't get this at all. It seems absurd to me and startling.
I wanted to see this play long before this story, but of course now I want to just fly down.
I am not like you when it comes to people stepping out of their marriage in any way. I do judge. I can't help it. But I felt no judgement at all about these two people. I felt their love and beauty and torment. It seems unavoidable. I could feel their pain. I do wish them peace and comfort and love love love.
Beautiful writing Ms Moon.
Thank you for sharing this story.
For helping me understand love and life a little bit more.

Allegra- I am hoping that Jan and Jack print out w...

2010-02-05T20:03:20.358-05:00

Allegra- I am hoping that Jan and Jack print out what you said and keep it pinned to the doorway of wherever it is that their love lives.
Blessed be. Blessed be.

What a bitter woman that sad excuse for a human be...

2010-02-05T19:42:52.303-05:00

What a bitter woman that sad excuse for a human being must be, she makes me think of those who unable to love are miserable and who only find comfort making the rest as miserable as they are. In Spanish there is an old saying "En el pecado esta la penitencia" (in the sin is the penance) and I am not talking about Jan and Jack. I am talking about someone who because she has no life needs to meddle in the happiness of others, something that must make her more miserable than what she already is.

Jan and Jack need no one's permission to give themselves each other's light. What that woman doesn't know and life is bound to tell her is that she will die a lonely and unloved death, because those who meddle in the affairs of the heart are perpetually haunted by the shadows of loneliness.

And what moral cowards that whole group of sanctimonious donors and the less than backboned Chairman of the Opera are who still believe in scarlet letters. Two people in love, no matter what route they took to get there are to be respected for the chance they are taking, indeed feel sorry for the other two partners, but as you so aptly put it, the equation is clear: where they were four miserable people at least two now are bound together not because they had to stay together but because they chose to be together.

I know that if I were a donor and someone brought this garbage to my door I will raise holy hell and demand to know what business of hers is it and tell her in no uncertain terms never to call me again, and then call the backboneless Chairman and let him or her know that unless nothing is done about this issue the Opera house better start finding how to survive without my help.

Arghhh, now I am really angry about the whole thing. Boors! at a time when we need more than ever to celebrate love, those in charge are blind to it. What a world we live in!

Jan and Jack, good for you. May you live to see the sunrise every day together and may the Moon set on your dreams every night. I wish you that with all my heart.

Nancy- Oh. Me too. Stephanie- Well, that's wh...

2010-02-05T19:32:24.072-05:00

Nancy- Oh. Me too.

Stephanie- Well, that's what matters.

HoneyLuna- You're so sweet. They love you, too. I know they do.

Melissa- You are a wise old (young) soul. I can't wait to see you! Be prepared for geriatric hi-jinks!
(I hope your man can deal with such foolishness.)

Ms. Fleur- I thank you on their behalf.

Elizabeth- You KNOW about love.

Rebecca- I think you are probably right about that couple. Life can be so hard. We can't control our damn hearts, can we?

Sally Moon- Yes.

Jill- I don't not call people names like that easily or casually.

N2- Perfect!

Angie M- More perfection!

Angie C- I'm already too nervous!

Well worth waiting for. The only sad thing I see h...

2010-02-05T19:01:40.468-05:00

Well worth waiting for. The only sad thing I see here is the idea that someone should have to fight for her job because of a personal matter, with no bearing whatsoever on her job performance. I supposed it's a function of the double-edged knife of small-town living: we love it because we know each other, and we love it less because we know - and some of us judge - each other. I sure do wish I could see that play.
XXOO

I love this! Not the ugliness of the spiteful peo...

2010-02-05T18:55:08.708-05:00

I love this! Not the ugliness of the spiteful people out there. But the love! I love it when people choose to live their love instead hiding behind the fear of what others would say. I wish them happiness and a long life to enjoy that love fully.

Dear Ms Moon, This was a cockle warming story, tha...

2010-02-05T17:56:00.962-05:00

Dear Ms Moon,
This was a cockle warming story, thanks for sharing the backstage story of your nights at the theater.

Here's wishing Jack and Jan love that keeps growing now that they have made the leap forward together. Wish we could be there to beef up the audience on the pro side of the love affair.

And here is wishing that those Jack and Jan are separating from find love to warm their lives as well.

x0x0 N2