tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2086296370004835655.post6439995426517083476..comments2024-03-29T06:02:51.878-04:00Comments on Bless Our Hearts: Warning: Talkin' About SexMs. Moonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09776404747858099919noreply@blogger.comBlogger41125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2086296370004835655.post-30792748156690005012023-02-22T17:07:18.233-05:002023-02-22T17:07:18.233-05:00And that makes me even happier! And that makes me even happier! Ms. Moonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09776404747858099919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2086296370004835655.post-11418941322409154912023-02-22T17:07:04.283-05:002023-02-22T17:07:04.283-05:00That was a wonderful story! And how telling about ...That was a wonderful story! And how telling about the man. That he was in it for your pleasure too. No wonder you married him. Ms. Moonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09776404747858099919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2086296370004835655.post-31844347290865770902023-02-22T17:05:10.427-05:002023-02-22T17:05:10.427-05:00Thank you, Sabine! I am looking forward to that bo...Thank you, Sabine! I am looking forward to that book! I read the article. Ms. Moonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09776404747858099919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2086296370004835655.post-59805244219093446952023-02-22T13:56:08.025-05:002023-02-22T13:56:08.025-05:00And that last comment was from me, 37P. And that last comment was from me, 37P. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2086296370004835655.post-32088303066648911532023-02-22T13:55:40.807-05:002023-02-22T13:55:40.807-05:00Back when we were dating, the man who would become...Back when we were dating, the man who would become my husband turned to me after lovemaking one afternoon and said with sincere non creepy interest, “So, what are your sexual fantasies?” I knew then he was a keeper. This is a beautiful reflection on longtime physical love, I can’t imagine anyone being offended by it. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2086296370004835655.post-60510154598806543832023-02-22T12:45:55.807-05:002023-02-22T12:45:55.807-05:00Just a lost note from me, the wonderful actor Gill...Just a lost note from me, the wonderful actor Gillian Anderson is working on a project on female sexual fantasies and is asking for anonymous contributors here: https://www.research.net/r/DearGillian<br />She is explaining her project here https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2023/feb/01/gillian-anderson-on-why-she-is-collecting-sexual-fantasiesSabinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09015827501648296977noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2086296370004835655.post-46593157153773644072023-02-21T17:49:23.983-05:002023-02-21T17:49:23.983-05:00There absolutely can be a point where sex is no lo...There absolutely can be a point where sex is no longer part of the menu. I have had friends tell me that is true for them. <br />It must be terrifically hard though, for people who still would like to have it but are unable to for one reason or another. <br />I think you are very much right about sex being the glue that holds it all together. Ms. Moonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09776404747858099919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2086296370004835655.post-8884032449684368232023-02-21T17:47:24.330-05:002023-02-21T17:47:24.330-05:00Thank you, John. Thank you, John. Ms. Moonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09776404747858099919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2086296370004835655.post-61712100015118373322023-02-21T17:47:10.631-05:002023-02-21T17:47:10.631-05:00You are incredibly fortunate not to have had probl...You are incredibly fortunate not to have had problems or hangups (for the most part) about sex. I knew a woman like that. I could not believe how beautiful she was about the subject. <br />I do believe you're right about the fantasies. As they say- the brain is the most important sex organ. And what goes on in the brain, stays in the brain. Unless one wants to let thoughts out to play. Ms. Moonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09776404747858099919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2086296370004835655.post-2448781419791769662023-02-21T17:44:38.655-05:002023-02-21T17:44:38.655-05:00Oh, hurray for you and hurray for your daughter! W...Oh, hurray for you and hurray for your daughter! What a beautiful story. <br />Your mother- wow. I know she must have been such a hard woman to grow up under. Ms. Moonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09776404747858099919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2086296370004835655.post-40291582117884395302023-02-21T17:43:13.301-05:002023-02-21T17:43:13.301-05:00It is as if we are being held back by invisible ch...It is as if we are being held back by invisible chains and why? That is what I kept asking myself before I wrote that post and published. I could not come up with a decent answer. I mean- if I am outspoken and brave enough to say that I believe chickens have done far more for the human race than Jesus ever did, I should not be afraid to discuss sex in a general and non-graphic way. Ms. Moonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09776404747858099919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2086296370004835655.post-53964239424204562562023-02-21T17:41:45.380-05:002023-02-21T17:41:45.380-05:00Oh god yes. All of this affects us deeply and we a...Oh god yes. All of this affects us deeply and we all have our issues, especially as we age. I have often felt so sorry for my husband because of my issues with intimacy due to childhood sexual abuse. It has not been fair to him. Ms. Moonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09776404747858099919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2086296370004835655.post-50551333262746112792023-02-21T17:40:19.270-05:002023-02-21T17:40:19.270-05:00Your husband was a shit. Period, the end. No one h...Your husband was a shit. Period, the end. No one has the right to demand sex like that. I'm glad you had great experiences before and after the horror show that was your marriage. And you know what? If you don't want sex now, there is no reason to feel bad about that either. Ms. Moonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09776404747858099919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2086296370004835655.post-38573434682932418402023-02-21T17:38:17.190-05:002023-02-21T17:38:17.190-05:00I think you summed up nicely how many of us were r...I think you summed up nicely how many of us were raised to think of sex. The men are wild beasts who will ravage women and women are responsible for not letting them do it! <br />Ugh. <br />And you're so right about abuse victims being blamed. And rape victims too and that is happening all the time even now. <br />Wouldn't it be great to have an older-woman's forum on sexuality? That would be amazing on so many levels. Ms. Moonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09776404747858099919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2086296370004835655.post-69719815958308051582023-02-21T17:36:15.451-05:002023-02-21T17:36:15.451-05:00And that story makes me feel sorry for both your g...And that story makes me feel sorry for both your grandmother and your grandfather. That just could not have been very much fun for either of them. What a culture where women, especially, are denied the pleasure that is so basic and so important. Ms. Moonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09776404747858099919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2086296370004835655.post-64681516074206430942023-02-21T17:34:23.066-05:002023-02-21T17:34:23.066-05:00Trust is so very important. For me, at least. Trus...Trust is so very important. For me, at least. Trust that I am loved, mostly, I think. Sounds like your mother should have been commended for at least admitting that sex was a thing. I'm sure you were much better at communicating with your kids about it though. Ms. Moonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09776404747858099919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2086296370004835655.post-58925660959428506272023-02-21T17:32:11.430-05:002023-02-21T17:32:11.430-05:00Oh gosh. Reading books in bed is still one of my g...Oh gosh. Reading books in bed is still one of my greatest pleasures. NOT while fooling around though. How would you know what to focus on? Doesn't sound like very satisfactory reading or lovemaking. Ms. Moonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09776404747858099919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2086296370004835655.post-5919218360089555262023-02-21T17:30:17.076-05:002023-02-21T17:30:17.076-05:00Oh, e! I'm so glad I didn't offend you. At...Oh, e! I'm so glad I didn't offend you. At least I hope I didn't. Ms. Moonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09776404747858099919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2086296370004835655.post-90950188100532198612023-02-21T17:29:57.891-05:002023-02-21T17:29:57.891-05:00My mother did the same thing- here's your Kote...My mother did the same thing- here's your Kotex and the belt. Wash your underpants in cold water to get the blood out. <br />And that was basically it. Ms. Moonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09776404747858099919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2086296370004835655.post-58993815179397071922023-02-21T17:28:33.792-05:002023-02-21T17:28:33.792-05:00Beautiful, Susan! And things do, out of necessity ...Beautiful, Susan! And things do, out of necessity change, don't they? And yet, we are a creative species and can generally figure out work-arounds. You're inspiring! Ms. Moonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09776404747858099919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2086296370004835655.post-85867117429135403662023-02-21T17:26:59.043-05:002023-02-21T17:26:59.043-05:00No hot guys to flirt with in the dining room? No hot guys to flirt with in the dining room? Ms. Moonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09776404747858099919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2086296370004835655.post-47691139929894584262023-02-21T17:26:31.587-05:002023-02-21T17:26:31.587-05:00Oh, Linda Sue! I am so sorry if I've upset you...Oh, Linda Sue! I am so sorry if I've upset you. Ms. Moonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09776404747858099919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2086296370004835655.post-36493895576805069812023-02-21T16:43:46.916-05:002023-02-21T16:43:46.916-05:00It has been told to me that sex after 50 is gross ...It has been told to me that sex after 50 is gross (by my granddaughters) but I can tell you it takes longer. The spirit may be willing but so many factors can interfere. Medicine being one. And I am glad to see the last of it. The pain outweighs the pleasure when the end takes so long. But I am always happy to read about couples who still have that magic. Sex is the glue that holds a marriage together.Carolhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03183553318309692138noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2086296370004835655.post-58714612194870805072023-02-21T15:34:40.818-05:002023-02-21T15:34:40.818-05:00An honest and brave post …well done xAn honest and brave post …well done xJohn Going Gentlyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14958171262765033946noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2086296370004835655.post-34446609144128812702023-02-21T13:21:05.766-05:002023-02-21T13:21:05.766-05:00I don't recall ever having many questions abou...I don't recall ever having many questions about sex or problems or hangups about it but it's interesting to read about the experiences of others. There was a book by Nancy Friday, if I remember her name correctly, which enlightened me somewhat about female fantasies about sex. And the most useful thing I learned from an author who often included S&M in his fiction was that being turned on by a sexual fantasy does not mean you actually want that fantasy to come true, that you want to do (or have done to you) whatever it is in the fantasy that is getting you juiced up. All you need is the image, not the act, to get you where you hope to go. -KateStubblejumpers Cafehttp://stubblejumperscafe.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.com