tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2086296370004835655.post4482377499218722321..comments2024-03-28T09:51:50.148-04:00Comments on Bless Our Hearts: Bless Her. Bless Us AllMs. Moonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09776404747858099919noreply@blogger.comBlogger36125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2086296370004835655.post-90998123014000214132023-05-13T02:38:17.063-04:002023-05-13T02:38:17.063-04:00I loved reading Dooce back in the day, too, until ...I loved reading Dooce back in the day, too, until -- like you -- the monetization thing got so boring. I was floored when I heard about her suicide -- and not a little angry. A train wreck. Once I heard Patti Smith describe suicide in the most gentle way -- I've never forgotten her generosity about it, and when I start to feel judgemental, I remember that and how much I don't understand.Elizabethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03313726816776097840noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2086296370004835655.post-67545072489212071702023-05-13T02:34:40.312-04:002023-05-13T02:34:40.312-04:00RIP Heather, the torment that would bring someone ...RIP Heather, the torment that would bring someone to end their Life is often so misunderstood and almost never fully addressed. I'm glad you ended this serious Post with such a Positive Photo of those Kiddos, adorable. Glad your checkups went so well, I hate having lots of appointments, I've had too many lately too... and the Surgery... now I hope to not have to go again for a while to any Docs.Bohemianhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03743017084098726581noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2086296370004835655.post-11048438936082606422023-05-12T17:38:27.057-04:002023-05-12T17:38:27.057-04:00I feel pretty certain this this a higher quality c...I feel pretty certain this this a higher quality cat food than what my cats usually get. They have weird tastes. For instance- they'd rather have a piece of lunch meat than a piece of roasted organic chicken. I always say they grew up in a trailer park. Not that there's anything wrong with that! They actually probably grew up at the dump. Ms. Moonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09776404747858099919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2086296370004835655.post-37948569725039568822023-05-12T17:36:56.525-04:002023-05-12T17:36:56.525-04:00❤️❤️Ms. Moonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09776404747858099919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2086296370004835655.post-23219896258046757712023-05-12T17:36:17.300-04:002023-05-12T17:36:17.300-04:00You know- I don't think I ever read either of ...You know- I don't think I ever read either of those two. Ms. Moonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09776404747858099919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2086296370004835655.post-38052641806808088312023-05-12T17:36:00.295-04:002023-05-12T17:36:00.295-04:00She was pretty darn amazing. She was pretty darn amazing. Ms. Moonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09776404747858099919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2086296370004835655.post-90002912554555107942023-05-12T17:35:46.802-04:002023-05-12T17:35:46.802-04:00I really only go through this annual experience be...I really only go through this annual experience because that's the doctor that prescribes my bio-identical hormones and it's sort of part of the deal. <br />I can't really comment on what Heather had said about trans people because I never read those posts. But like I said- she may not have been in her "right" mind. I know she was fiercely supportive of gay rights. <br />You are so lucky you've never been able to fathom suicide. For some people, those thoughts are a constant companion. Even if they never even attempt it, it's still always there. <br />And she had made attempts before. Ms. Moonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09776404747858099919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2086296370004835655.post-12325765234842712492023-05-12T17:32:10.948-04:002023-05-12T17:32:10.948-04:00You would have definitely respected her writing, S...You would have definitely respected her writing, Steve. She was infinitely interesting. <br />I am sure that there are some fussy dogs when it comes to food but bulldogs are not at all in my experience. Ms. Moonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09776404747858099919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2086296370004835655.post-11349979460458139562023-05-12T17:31:01.518-04:002023-05-12T17:31:01.518-04:00No. I don't think she would have fared better ...No. I don't think she would have fared better if she hadn't left the church and it's a moot point- once a member of that church knows the truth, they can't un-know it and to continue on with it would be soul destroying. I've heard so many stories on the podcast I listen to about former Mormons who have lost their faith and left the church and for most of them, it's one of the hardest things they ever did and yet, they had to. And Heather was very, very close to her mother who remains to this day a devout believer. Ms. Moonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09776404747858099919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2086296370004835655.post-66022150368871550962023-05-12T17:24:23.214-04:002023-05-12T17:24:23.214-04:00"She wrote like life itself was just always p..."She wrote like life itself was just always pouring through her fingers." <br />Exactly. And her fingers were on fire. <br />I think she probably did realize how much influence she'd had in the world of social media. She was obviously incredibly intelligent. <br />And your words about my blog have made me feel so very, very thankful that you did find me. That our hearts have found each other. You know exactly what I'm saying. I love you. Ms. Moonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09776404747858099919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2086296370004835655.post-79451891409658888182023-05-12T17:21:41.323-04:002023-05-12T17:21:41.323-04:00She WAS a wonderful writer. Just powerful and funn...She WAS a wonderful writer. Just powerful and funny and balls-to-the-wall. Yes. She had that dog Chuck whom she used to dress up which I have to admit disturbed me somewhat. <br />The pain of the people left behind after a death by suicide never get over it, do they? And as I said to Mrs. Missalineous above, it is not easy in the least to live with someone that ill. I think she had made several suicide attempts in the past. Ms. Moonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09776404747858099919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2086296370004835655.post-6568844960935591192023-05-12T17:18:44.128-04:002023-05-12T17:18:44.128-04:00Our poor cats only get dry food. I've told the...Our poor cats only get dry food. I've told them they have to suck it up because I bought 25 pounds of that stuff. And I'm sure it's higher quality than what they were eating. <br />I feel horrible for Heather's children too. And not just because she's gone now but because it can't have been easy to grow up with a mother who was suffering so much. Ms. Moonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09776404747858099919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2086296370004835655.post-66918782203394700582023-05-12T17:16:50.940-04:002023-05-12T17:16:50.940-04:00I agree. Such sweetness. I agree. Such sweetness. Ms. Moonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09776404747858099919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2086296370004835655.post-43094123464506185612023-05-12T17:16:36.220-04:002023-05-12T17:16:36.220-04:00I have a transgender child too. And of course we l...I have a transgender child too. And of course we love our kids after transition. They are still the same people we've always loved, only feeling far more comfortable in the skin they're in. <br />I'm sorry you have the dang medical phobia too. It makes it hard to take good care of ourselves, doesn't it? Ms. Moonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09776404747858099919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2086296370004835655.post-4855430401094693672023-05-12T17:14:16.257-04:002023-05-12T17:14:16.257-04:00Yes. It is strange how many of the original blogge...Yes. It is strange how many of the original bloggers have come to sad endings. I'm not sure why that is. Were some of those people suffering and felt safer writing about it for an audience of strangers? I do not know. <br />And yes m'am- I am so grateful for all of the good body parts I have left and I am so, so very sorry for your brother. I had a friend who got electroshock therapy. I don't know whether it helped him or not but he is still alive. It sure did not work for everyone. What a bizarre idea that was. Ms. Moonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09776404747858099919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2086296370004835655.post-76840777586043845152023-05-12T17:10:47.770-04:002023-05-12T17:10:47.770-04:00It's almost unfathomable to me that there are ...It's almost unfathomable to me that there are any bloggers who never read Dooce but she mostly wrote many years ago now so it's not unfathomable at all. <br />Those are some pretty cute kiddos. And kittens. Ms. Moonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09776404747858099919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2086296370004835655.post-57656500018668965932023-05-12T17:08:48.374-04:002023-05-12T17:08:48.374-04:00I feel like the cruelty that was part of Heather&#...I feel like the cruelty that was part of Heather's experience with blogging is probably part of the reason she stopped for a very long time. And it wasn't really until she became quite wealthy that so much ire was directed her way. Which is how it usually goes. <br />Emma is a little doll, isn't she?Ms. Moonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09776404747858099919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2086296370004835655.post-14390104234765532892023-05-12T16:30:24.997-04:002023-05-12T16:30:24.997-04:00Cats are often faddier than other animals, but whe...Cats are often faddier than other animals, but when even feral cats don't want to eat Costco it makes me wonder what it's made of.Jenny Woolfhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16881781466502273314noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2086296370004835655.post-60605968387033093042023-05-12T13:00:50.596-04:002023-05-12T13:00:50.596-04:00Looks like one of those boys is enchanted by the k...Looks like one of those boys is enchanted by the kitten and the other, by the sweet girl. Peace Thymehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17361079101751470855noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2086296370004835655.post-88472304262061804752023-05-12T12:33:17.697-04:002023-05-12T12:33:17.697-04:00I loved the "mommy bloggers" . Especiall...I loved the "mommy bloggers" . Especially Jen on the edge and DaMomma. Good writers.Beverlyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12162098403885628942noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2086296370004835655.post-25066251970014762242023-05-12T10:46:56.400-04:002023-05-12T10:46:56.400-04:00I hadn't heard of that blogger but your tribut...I hadn't heard of that blogger but your tribute to her was very touching!Treadershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08613671137557939083noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2086296370004835655.post-63664646896284516212023-05-12T10:33:52.124-04:002023-05-12T10:33:52.124-04:00I haven't had my lady parts looked at in years...I haven't had my lady parts looked at in years. <br /><br />I not only had not read Dooce, I wasn't even aware of her. it's sad that a woman who you enjoyed for so many years, who had so many struggles of her own, would be so vicious towards other people struggling with who and what they are and the lack of understanding they face which too often turns into fear and hate. I cannot fathom suicide. I don't judge those who try it whether they succeed or not but I can't imagine being in that place. social media is a two edged sword. it can be supportive and cruel. if you aren't rock solid in yourself, who you are, the cruelty can be devastating. ellen abbotthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00535475792150335186noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2086296370004835655.post-65493191951268204412023-05-12T08:30:27.153-04:002023-05-12T08:30:27.153-04:00I'm glad the appointment went well. I read in ...I'm glad the appointment went well. I read in the NYT about "Dooce" and although I never read her blog, I kind of wish I had. I was a little late to the blogging bandwagon.<br /><br />I recently bought Olga a couple of cans of new food and wondered if she'd like it. The great thing about dogs is, they don't care. Down the gullet it went without hesitation.Steve Reedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11684120060438252945noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2086296370004835655.post-59813514776284213042023-05-12T00:19:19.435-04:002023-05-12T00:19:19.435-04:00They are equally cute, Emma and the kitten. I'...They are equally cute, Emma and the kitten. I'm sorry to read about Heather and though I don't agree with religions, perhaps she might have fared better if she hadn't left the church? On the other hand, who ever really knows about such things?Riverhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14794655013673748992noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2086296370004835655.post-58048195708472466012023-05-11T23:33:57.954-04:002023-05-11T23:33:57.954-04:0037paddington: I was hoping you’d write about Heath...37paddington: I was hoping you’d write about Heather. Dooce. I read her for a long time, she introduced me to the idea of blogging as self expression, as exploration, as therapy, as love. She wrote like life itself was just always pouring through her fingers. I was so sad to hear she didn’t make it in the end. I didn’t read the later stuff, didn’t realize she started blogging again but she was seminal. I wonder if she knew that. Thank you for remembering her. Thank you for being you. You too are seminal, but in a much different and far more personal way. I’ll never forget finding you and knowing I was in hands I could trust. A heart I could trust. I’m glad you’re here. And yes, August has the sweetest expression in that picture. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com