tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2086296370004835655.post4383444867743500351..comments2024-03-28T21:40:09.754-04:00Comments on Bless Our Hearts: PonderingMs. Moonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09776404747858099919noreply@blogger.comBlogger15125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2086296370004835655.post-51573441554564962592017-08-02T09:16:04.108-04:002017-08-02T09:16:04.108-04:00I'm sure I've said this before, but I thin...I'm sure I've said this before, but I think an ability to appreciate the "little things" is absolutely a key to overall happiness and contentment in life. And as roiled as your world has been by what happened years ago, you show an amazing ability to find joy in your surroundings and the little lives you nurture. I wonder if your decision to consider writing more about your childhood sexual abuse led to the discomfort and dream-state you felt later? Or is it the other way around -- a rising up of memory that's leading you to want to write about it? The chicken or the egg, so to speak.<br /><br />Anyway, I have no doubt you have a lot to say on these matters that others with similar experiences would find immensely valuable and supportive. Your writing ability is a gift, and if you can use it to illuminate the path for others, well, that seems a worthwhile expenditure of your talent.Steve Reedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11684120060438252945noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2086296370004835655.post-23078630217054515142017-08-01T14:52:31.389-04:002017-08-01T14:52:31.389-04:00I am fortunate in that I never had to go through s...I am fortunate in that I never had to go through sexual abuse. I admire you and other brave people that will talk about these experiences, because it can only help others. Thank you for being willing to open up here on your blog. You are a wonder.<br /><br />In my recent training to become a court-appointed advocate for foster care children, we talked about the possibility of becoming a Guardian to a child that has been sexually abused. A fair number of the children in the custody of the state have been. I'm a little worried about how I'll be able to be totally objective in a case like that. So I'll be glad to read any of your thoughts about this stuff if you'll trust us enough (and want to) write about it here on your blog.<br /><br />Thank you, my friend! <3Jenniferhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12512800812290518552noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2086296370004835655.post-15066869922352422812017-08-01T14:21:05.171-04:002017-08-01T14:21:05.171-04:00I sure do love you, Mama. I think your words mean ...I sure do love you, Mama. I think your words mean so much to so many people- for people who have been through sexual abuse, and those of us who have been lucky enough not to know it first hand, but probably know at least one person (probably dozens) who have. <br />Keep writing about whatever you need to. It's always good. <br />honeylunahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10528514781592213251noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2086296370004835655.post-64824962968999519772017-08-01T10:47:57.741-04:002017-08-01T10:47:57.741-04:00I love you, too, Ellen. Thank you. I love you, too, Ellen. Thank you. Ms. Moonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09776404747858099919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2086296370004835655.post-76759327848465191192017-08-01T10:46:49.973-04:002017-08-01T10:46:49.973-04:00I wish I could live up to that, Elizabeth. Thank y...I wish I could live up to that, Elizabeth. Thank you.Ms. Moonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09776404747858099919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2086296370004835655.post-21824580108069776912017-08-01T10:46:29.182-04:002017-08-01T10:46:29.182-04:00I believe that. That the only way to do something ...I believe that. That the only way to do something about abuse is to talk about it and to understand truly that the shame is not ours to bear. I love you.Ms. Moonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09776404747858099919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2086296370004835655.post-11478698329356811552017-08-01T10:45:33.742-04:002017-08-01T10:45:33.742-04:00Exactly- and some of those layers are absolutely f...Exactly- and some of those layers are absolutely filled with pain. The harder they are, the longer it takes us to address them. It really never ends, does it? And yet, we go on. We do go on. And there is joy. Ms. Moonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09776404747858099919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2086296370004835655.post-35513753371088315822017-08-01T10:43:53.494-04:002017-08-01T10:43:53.494-04:00The secret is, for me, that such good people have ...The secret is, for me, that such good people have come into my life that I have learned to trust. And I have also learned to love as fully and joyfully as anyone can love from my children and my grandchildren. In this I am so incredibly lucky. And my hope for you is that one day yes, you will learn to accept love and truly believe it. It is possible and I hope you know that you deserve that. Ms. Moonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09776404747858099919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2086296370004835655.post-12719480851183806442017-08-01T10:37:29.932-04:002017-08-01T10:37:29.932-04:00I love you Mary and that is real enough to touch.I love you Mary and that is real enough to touch.ellen abbotthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00535475792150335186noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2086296370004835655.post-70222406276181021702017-08-01T02:09:57.978-04:002017-08-01T02:09:57.978-04:00You're one of the bravest, truest people I kno...You're one of the bravest, truest people I know. Elizabethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03313726816776097840noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2086296370004835655.post-21083582301055957532017-07-31T23:05:39.774-04:002017-07-31T23:05:39.774-04:00Shining a light dissipates the shadows. You do tha...Shining a light dissipates the shadows. You do that for so many, you help little girls whose trust was betrayed in the dark, reach for the light. This is love.37paddingtonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12400464105403622384noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2086296370004835655.post-77401887067365965042017-07-31T22:54:19.253-04:002017-07-31T22:54:19.253-04:00Beautiful writing, Mary. How much sense it makes ...Beautiful writing, Mary. How much sense it makes to find healing in the real things we can see or touch or feel the breath of life in, absorb the beauty of a brown egg or a mysterious star. And how familiar I am with the onion effect, always one more layer to peel. We do get closer to understanding, to putting the confusion to rest . . . and then just when we think we're settled, another layer appears to be painfully peeled. Keep writing, keep sharing, and we'll keep listening and being thankful for you. A marvelous header, wasn't it made for Ms. Moon?! BeckyAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2086296370004835655.post-10946944218597800362017-07-31T21:12:31.221-04:002017-07-31T21:12:31.221-04:00You are a she hero (only thing I could write witho...You are a she hero (only thing I could write without spellcheck changing...) to me you in many ways. You have a life now that I feel is one any survivor would yearn for. And that is <br />you and your hard work and your ability to have trusted again. I am not downplaying that at times the shit comes up to haunt you sometimes at all. I just deeply respect you. You know I know what it's like and I wish one day I can accept love and believe it.Joannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08015888228309968515noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2086296370004835655.post-90022903122823905462017-07-31T19:20:24.270-04:002017-07-31T19:20:24.270-04:00You are right. I cannot, for the life of me, figur...You are right. I cannot, for the life of me, figure out an evolutionary reason for pedophilia. It is incredibly damaging and I can see no benefits to it at all. And yes, girl children are the toughest of the species but there are boys who have had to be tough too. I know this for sure and that breaks my heart as well. Thank you, Linda Sue, for your beautiful comment. Ms. Moonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09776404747858099919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2086296370004835655.post-55132728742957254552017-07-31T19:09:02.310-04:002017-07-31T19:09:02.310-04:00If all of the broken children got together there w...If all of the broken children got together there would be cities full. Broken in various degrees of course and there is nothing to be said for the breaking of a little girl by a "trusted" person who "loves" her. That seems to me the most vile damage done, the most difficult to endure and recover from. I am so sorry. If it is eggs,dirt , seeds, light and love that will see you through I say pile it on !!! Whatever keeps that horror at bay. Fuck those memories, I stab them in the hearts, in the eyes and in their very souls. Girl children were generally nearly always sexually abused, my funny uncle...Mother not believing...curiosity and shame and all of that shit. Girl children are the toughest of the species that is for sure. Linda Suehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03070050388987072100noreply@blogger.com