Comments on Bless Our Hearts: A Decision And A Book

I read God's in Alabama by her years ago and I...

2012-01-27T14:20:20.879-05:00

I read God's in Alabama by her years ago and I remember loving it.

Kristin- Okay. Makes sense. Denise- And as the yo...

2012-01-27T09:08:21.735-05:00

Kristin- Okay.
Makes sense.

Denise- And as the young stoners say, "wake and bake." Haha!

Angie- Oh. I agree, babe. Yes I do.

I'm interested in reading the book, although I...

2012-01-27T03:33:40.874-05:00

I'm interested in reading the book, although I've not heard of the author before. Domestic violence is absolutely horrific, and no matter what anyone says about it, there are no excuses for one partner to physically abuse the other one. Ever.

Glasses= fashion accessory. Boo on those contact...

2012-01-26T18:30:32.968-05:00

Glasses= fashion accessory.
Boo on those contacts.

In L.A. people say "shake and bake" when it's super hot and they're superstitiously connecting the heat with earthquakes. I'd rather have pork chops.

It's spelled Joscelyn and it's pronounced ...

2012-01-26T16:48:45.830-05:00

It's spelled Joscelyn and it's pronounced Joh-sa-lyn (

Kristin- And it is pronounced Jos-o-lyn or Joyce-l...

2012-01-26T15:53:16.056-05:00

Kristin- And it is pronounced Jos-o-lyn or Joyce-lynn?

Rubye Jack- Damn. I am so sorry you were in a relationship like that. I am so sorry it put you off relationships for all this time. That is just NOT RIGHT!
I wish I could make it all better. I can't, though, can I?
Glasses are fine. We can see through them.

Pamela- Yes. I will never use Shake and Bake that I don't hear "And I haylped!" in my head. Said just like that.

Jeannie- I wonder why she felt as if she deserved to be hit. I am quite certain she wasn't born with that idea.

ellen abbott- Oh, hell. I can do it. I just do not care to any more.

SJ- Jessie now knows you are not crazy. These were just greens for salad. Lettuces, arugula, etc.

Ms. Fleur- So do you!

Omgrrrl- I think I'd look like a dork. Okay, more of a dork than I already look like. Plus- you gotta fool with those things. Now if they'd GIVE me a pair...

NOLA- I'm with you on being grateful for good optics.
I hope you love BB as much as I do.

Elisabeth- That's a bullshit philosophy in my book. The more I love someone, the greater lengths I will go to NOT to hurt them.

Elizabeth- There is nothing wrong with having our eyes widened. And you never know- you may really have helped someone.

Steve Reed- Shake and Bake is awesome! I will stand by that, too!

Pamela- I'm glad you said that! Thanks.
I will read more of her books.

Lora- I think you will like her. I do.

Wrinkling Daily- AGGGHHH!!!
Your poor eyeball!

rockygrace- I know. But in a way, it showed how the equation works in such a relationship. I checked out her blog- it's a good one! Thanks.

I was kind of put off by the domestic violence in ...

2012-01-26T10:37:11.573-05:00

I was kind of put off by the domestic violence in "Backseat Saints" - it seemed like it was treated almost cavalierly. But maybe that's just me.

I liked her book "Gods in Alabama" the best. She's written a couple of others - "Between, Georgia" and "The Girl Who Stopped Swimming" which were pretty good. And she's got a new one, "A Grown-Up Kind of Pretty", which just came out.

Oh, and she's got a blog, too, if you're interested.

Hi. the book, don't know of it, but am intrigu...

2012-01-26T09:54:21.588-05:00

Hi. the book, don't know of it, but am intrigued. Once had a contact torn in two stuck up in my eyelid for eleven hours, till my daughter, who is a nurse could come home and fish it out for me. I would love to give up these glasses too, but am still waiting for them to invent a pair of contacts that don't migrate all over the place. Enjoyed your post.

Ah well, you tried the contacts and life is just t...

2012-01-26T07:17:58.381-05:00

Ah well, you tried the contacts and life is just too short to put up with that crap. I've not read Joshilyn Jackson, but now I've put her on my library list.

It just hit me that I have read a Joshilyn Jackson...

2012-01-26T06:20:30.868-05:00

It just hit me that I have read a Joshilyn Jackson novel, Between Georgia, and I liked the writing very much. She knows her way around a sentence.

I've never heard of Joshilyn Jackson. That IS ...

2012-01-26T02:31:22.541-05:00

I've never heard of Joshilyn Jackson. That IS quite a name.

And "Amen!" on Shake & Bake. I used to use S&B all the time when I was younger and I loved it!

The book sounds good -- I worked for a time in col...

2012-01-26T01:33:46.622-05:00

The book sounds good -- I worked for a time in college on the Domestic Abuse Hotline, and while I went through the extensive training to do so, I cringe now to think that I actually talked on the phone to grown women whose husbands were beating them. I remember how these conversations were like scripts -- they said EVERYTHING that we had been told they would say. I can't imagine that I helped them as I was a privileged twenty-one year old, but it opened my eyes very, very wide.

My mother's mantra, one of many, was: 'he ...

2012-01-25T23:47:30.866-05:00

My mother's mantra, one of many, was: 'he hurts most those he loves the most'. It continues to puzzle me. The notion has a slightly masochistic ring, don't you think? It helps me to make sense of why some women (and maybe men, too) might stay on, or leave and then go back to their abusive partners.

The book sounds intriguing. And I'm with you about the contacts. Why not wear glasses?

Ugh I hate contacts. I feel ya. I tried so many ...

2012-01-25T23:27:33.338-05:00

Ugh I hate contacts. I feel ya. I tried so many times to get contacts to work with my astigmatism and they JUST WON'T. I'm spoiled from wearing glasses since younger than 7 years old - my eyesight has nearly always been crystal sharp as a result and DAYUM aren't we lucky to live in an age with optical corrections of various sorts?

You know, as I'm frantically packing to take off to Azerbaijan, I 2nd day aired electrical adapters and the BB King autobiography you spoke so highly of. BB's going to Azerbaijan! (Well, he's probably already been there. He gets around.)

Dude you should totally get those glasses that Joe...

2012-01-25T22:59:57.377-05:00

Dude you should totally get those glasses that Joel Grey and Rita Moreno and Penn Jillette wear. The Superfocus glasses.

You would look adorable in those!

You look hot in glasses.

2012-01-25T22:12:08.799-05:00

You look hot in glasses.

I didn't want to help you with your damn pork ...

2012-01-25T21:48:08.603-05:00

I didn't want to help you with your damn pork chops anyway ;) I'm glad you got rid of those damn contacts.

Did you tell Jessie I wasn't crazy yet?

How do you make greens? Just sautee them?

I would never have been able to put one on my eye ...

2012-01-25T20:29:14.247-05:00

I would never have been able to put one on my eye so I think you tried valiantly. The whole idea freaks me out.

I have not read Joshilyn's books. It sounds li...

2012-01-25T19:05:16.699-05:00

I have not read Joshilyn's books. It sounds like a made up name to me. But then there are a lot of those.

I think you are being wise about the surgery - I've got an astigmatism which makes the contacts a little more difficult but I'm ok with them but can't see as well as with glasses. I don't think the surgery would be any better and would require non-dollar store reading glasses anyway so what's the point?

I used to have to deal with a lot of unwanted touching by men, but funny - none ever hit me (except my brothers when I was a kid). My sister-in-law had 2 husbands who beat her but I'm not surprised. She could be incredibly annoying and once, during an argument, asked me in a "dare ya" kind of way, if I was going to hit her. My response was "Why the hell would I hit you?" But if that's what she did, is it any wonder that a couple men took her up on it? Not to blame the victim, but please - try not to make it so easy.

I love these last few posts (and I may be the only...

2012-01-25T18:53:56.007-05:00

I love these last few posts (and I may be the only person who gets your Shake-N-Bake joke. Coffee came out my nose from too much laughing).

About the serious stuff, you are spot on, too.

I've never heard of her before but will check ...

2012-01-25T18:38:20.980-05:00

I've never heard of her before but will check her out. I had never been with men who hit me either. That is until my very last relationship. I left as soon as the opportunity presented itself and would never in a million years consider going back. I suppose I was so traumatized that I never even considered another relationship. That was 15 years ago. I don't understand staying with someone who hits you, but I do understand the fear that might keep one there.

I didn't want to say anything about the contacts earlier but I had to give them up about 5-6 years ago. The thing with the surgery is that I've known people who after surgery have the problem you had with the menu permanently. I've accepted I'll wear glasses from now on and it's alright. Of course, like you, I'd rather not have them, but such is life and aging.

I've got a sister-in-law named Joycelyn who wa...

2012-01-25T18:37:10.502-05:00

I've got a sister-in-law named Joycelyn who was born in Arkansas. Sort of close to Joshilyn. I've never been hit but do know women who have been.