Friday, June 19, 2026

This Is How It Is


That's the only picture I've taken since last night's post. But it's pretty sweet, isn't it? Before I got up this morning Mr. Moon found another unmarred gift on the back porch right where the little mousie had been the other morning. This wasn't a little mousie but one of those VERY LARGE MICE that aren't as cute as the little ones. We aren't sure at all where Maurice is coming up with these critters. I haven't seen mouse or rat sign anywhere in the house but I'm not saying it couldn't happen. I sort of think she's catching them outside in her midnight rambles though. As long as she doesn't bring them into the house, especially not in the deepest darkest hours of the night, we are fine with these gifts. Mr. Moon said he praised her profusely and they had a long talk about it when she came and sat with him in his chair this morning. 

More rain and more rain and more rain. Started here around 10:30 and I don't think it's stopped since. I do not mind this in the least because it brings the temperature down, it is of great benefit to the flora and the fauna, and it gives me a valid excuse not to go outside to do yard or garden work and sweat like a beast. Of course you know I actually love doing outside work, even if it does involve beast-like sweating but it's nice to get a little break. I did a short tour of the garden this morning and the weeds are springing up like, well...weeds. 
The zipper peas and the white acre peas are forming their pods and peas as we speak and soon I'll be picking those. Glen wanted to plant even more than we did but I put my foot down. There's only so many of those things we need. Preparing and preserving them is time consuming. Green beans you can just snap but peas have to be shelled and that takes awhile, no matter how well-practiced you are in the art. And I freeze these peas because they just freeze so beautifully. I blanch them for a minute or so in boiling water, drain them, cool them in an ice water bath in order to stop the cooking process, and then freeze them. When it's time to eat them, weeks, months, even a year later, you can just pop those babies in boiling water with whatever you want to cook them with and they taste as fresh as the day they came out of the shell. 
Glory hallelujah! 
You can leave these peas on the vine until they dry at which point they're just like any other dried bean you'd cook. Black-eyed pea, pinto, black, garbanzo, you name it. But the ones picked green and preserved in that form have a completely different taste and texture and as much as I do love a pot of beans cooked from the dried versions, the green ones are mighty special and not a food that most people are familiar with or even aware of. I guess lima beans would be an exception. When you can find them, already shelled and in bags ready to cook or frozen, usually at farmer's markets, they cost an arm and a leg. 
Labor intensive and worth every bit of it. 

Hank had asked if I wanted to meet up for lunch today and yes, I did. Rachel joined us and so did Mr. Moon. We met at Kyoto, formerly Japanica! and had good meals. I got the teriyaki tofu bento box again and once again I thought the tofu was absolutely the best I'd ever eaten. I think they use silken tofu and the outside is perfectly and lightly fried until just crispy and the tofu within is nothing short of creamy. Nothing I've ever made with tofu even begins to compare. 

Mr. Moon is just about a newborn's fingernail clipping away from being completely overwhelmed by what he's doing for Tom. Today on top of meeting with social workers and assisted living managers, he bought Tom new clothes so he'd have something to wear in the rehab facility. Then he had the meetings and got more information that he needs. Rachel, who has worked in the elder care sphere as a social worker, had names of high-ups in the system who might be able to help Glen. That was so appreciated. 
As Lis Williamson and I agreed when we talked on the phone last week, you gotta know a guy to get anything done. 
Sad, but true. 
In this case it wasn't guys but women. Same thing. 
Glen is finding all of the rehab place's case managers and so forth are being incredibly helpful which is terrific. They're not going to kick Tom out of the facility where he is. They recognize his disabilities and his needs and seem to be on top of things. But it is a rehab facility and he's going to need an assisted living place to move into. He is going to fight this with every breath in his body and I understand that completely. I would too but going back home is absolutely not going to happen. 

I keep thinking though of how when people stand up and say their vows and declare that they will love and cherish each other in both sickness and in health, they generally have no idea of what the are promising. And when Tom asked Glen to be his power of attorney and health care surrogate years and years ago, Glen had no idea what that would entail. Yet here he is, learning and doing and fulfilling that promise. 

Oh god. This is rather depressing, isn't it? I'll try not to focus on this issue so much. It's just that it is a big part of our lives right now. 

Anne RĂ¼sing sent me a link to an article The Guardian did on Keith Richards becoming a great grandfather and how he is living his life at the age of 82. You can find that article HERE. 
I was glad to get the article, so happy to read it. Mick has been here, there, and everywhere promoting their upcoming new album, "Foreign Tongues" whereas Keith has been rather quiet which I will admit has worried me. But in the article he sounds hale and hearty and happy and thrilled about being a grandfather, a great grandfather, and a musician releasing a new album. He also talks about AI and quitting all his vices and the time Chuck Berry punched him in the face. 

“He punched me once, years ago, in the 60s, I think. We were in his dressing room, I was having a peek at his guitar and I was just about to stroke it, and he went: ‘Nobody touches it!’ And bam! Quite right, Chuck! I would have done the same. I’ve never had to, but then I’ve never caught someone doing that.”

I have to sigh and say that I will always be a bit obsessed with this man. Indulge me or don't indulge me. As Bruce Springsteen said about Keith in his memoir, "I've come across many spirit-filled folk in my travels but no one as spectrally beautiful as Keith Richards." 

And after I read Keith's memoir, I felt that to my bones. And although I have known many, many musicians, I'm not sure I've ever met one as absolutely certain of what music has meant to him or her in their life. 
Bless him. 

And here's a picture of my spirit totem animal and my daddy. 


TWO spectrally beautiful men. 

Mr. Moon and I just did a little tour of the garden which has never looked better. We agreed that I am the garden's mama, he is the garden's daddy. 
We are both so proud.



The mixture of the carefully in-line planted seeds and plants with the volunteers is especially striking this year. We've never had better peppers, and the tomatoes are pretty damn gorgeous. The eggplant would make a mother proud. 
And they do. 

The rain has ceased for now but the sound of water dripping off the leaves is still a lovely patter-song. The birds are saying, "Goodnight! Goodnight!" and the oaks are sighing with comfort and relief. 

Martini night, clean sheet night. It's good. 

Happy Friday, y'all. 

Love...Ms. Moon

31 comments:

  1. Mr.Moon is definitely a saint! What a huge commitment. Hell, he seems like such a loyal person.

    Your zinnias are enviable. I didn’t plant seeds this year. It takes forever for them to come to fruition.

    Maurice is perfect! I love that she got praised for her love. Yes, I’d want the gifts to be left far away from the bedroom at night. Ha! So funny and cute. -Nicol

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  2. Maurice has certainly been in a gift giving mood! Christmas is early this year! Soon there might be a ribbon on these mousers!
    Mr. Moon has the patience of Job...whoever that was. He's very committed to taking care of his friend. Yes, the levels and layers of responsibility being someone's guardian is overwhelming. Been there, done that.
    Your flowers are beautiful. Sounds like a bountiful garden is on the way!
    Paranormal John

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    1. I just see Maurice trying to tie a bow on a mouse with her little claws, getting frustrated because she keeps shredding the ribbon to tatters.
      Glen is no saint But you could not have a better friend.
      Seems like every day we are eating something new from the garden.

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  3. Look at it this way, Maurice is standing guard around the perimeter of your house and taking out the critters that are trying to get in. Now, if you could just teach her to always leave them outside........

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    1. There was a mouse in-house delivery this morning but it was so sweet we could not be mad.

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  4. You have a river of Zinnia! It's so lovely. My heart melted a bit seeing Maurice so close to your laptop. My Lola liked to lie like that too. I miss her more than I thought I would. Tom will eventually adjust to his new circumstances though no one could put a time on that, it's going to be hard for him and I am glad he has Mr Moon to help.

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    1. As much as I complain about Maurice, I know I will miss her terribly when she dies. Unless I die first which is always a possibility.
      Trust me- the odds of Tom accepting and adjusting to new circumstances is about a million to nothing.

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  5. You don't suppose someone is using a rodenticide close by and that Maurice is toting home poisoned mice?

    Tom is so lucky to have a Glen friend.

    Every day I go out to weed my raised beds. They look very nice but in truth, there is no comparison to yours.

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    1. I don't think so on the poison. Our neighbors who might possibly do that have two dogs whom they adore and I don't think they'd risk that. And Maurice has not died yet so...
      Tom is lucky to have Glen as a friend.
      Well, your growing season didn't start until last week. My garden has had months to get established!

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  6. I bought some dried zipper peas from Rancho Gordo (fantastic CA bean grower/merchant), and I cooked them up, and they were just so delicious -- smooth and tender! I'd love to see what they look like au naturel!

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    1. I've gotten beans from them! Not for a long time though and I did not realize they had zipper peas. Try white acre peas if you ever get the chance. They're delicious too.
      They look very similar in the green state, only a little bigger and of course...green.

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  7. I love silken tofu too, especially in Asian food. I tried to make it myself one time and murdered the hell out of it in the sauce!!! And God bless Mr. Moon for all he is doing for Tom. Considering Tom is not even family that makes Mr. Moon even more praiseworthy! You married a good man!

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    1. It is not the easiest thing in the world to cook tofu properly and that's all there is to it.
      I did indeed marry a good man. He's for real a very, very good man.

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  8. Hi from cooler damp NC - where the humidity will go way down today! That’s newsworthy! Hot and dry makes me happy. So glad your furry huntress is taking care of you, and keeping the laptop in line as well. Happy Fathers Day to Mr Moon and all the dads in your life! I hope the POA duties settle down soon. It reminds me how my son who is my POA is trying to help me and some of it is a bit more than necessary. Thankful to have his help though!

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    1. Our humidity rose again today but it rained and it is cool-ish. And that makes me pretty happy.
      Maurice. She is becoming more and more interesting.
      My kids and my grandkids have good daddies. Mostly. First husband, you know- but yes, he was an okay dad. Still is.
      Tom needs EVERYTHING! He is literally not capable of paying a bill right now.

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  9. I'm impressed that Mr moon is really coming through for his friend, not just doing it here and there. He's a good man to have on your side. But it's taking it out of him, too. High stress, dealing with elder issues, especially a combative elder.

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    1. It IS taking it out of him. I can see it. I am encouraging him to go fish for awhile tomorrow and I believe he's going to. Being on the water, any water, is a tonic for his soul.

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  10. I don't find the Tom stories depressing. I think it's interesting to hear how Mr. Moon copes with this, understanding of course that you must protect Tom's privacy to some degree. A lot of us may wind up being health care surrogates at some point (God forbid) and it's useful to know what that might entail. Also I'm curious how he will receive the news that he's not moving back to the tiny house.

    Glad you both got a lunch with Hank and Rachel. I wish you could send me Maurice. I need a LARGE MOUSE catcher here.

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    1. I think about that- protecting Tom's privacy. There are many things I could write that I don't and he is on absolutely NO social media. He can barely operate his phone and even that is a huge challenge to him. As to how he will receive the news he's not moving back to his house? Rage will be involved. Cursing. Physical acting out, probably. Unless a miracle occurs and it finally gets through to him that he cannot take care of himself anymore.
      Maurice would definitely be your girl. Do you think you could have a dog and cat household? John Grey manages that.

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  11. It's good that Mr. Moon is able to help Tom. Hope it gets settled soon and Tom adjusts to his new circumstances.
    I was visiting my brother in assisted living the other day and he said, "So this is my life now? Just sitting here?" It's hard for him to understand and sad to see.

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    1. I don't think Tom is ever going to adjust to his new circumstances. I don't know that I would be able to either. I understand your brother's statement. And it is horribly sad.

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    2. It is, Mary. I want to cry in the car on my way home from the visits. But he's safe and well fed and the people there all seem very nice.

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  12. Tom is so fortunate to have a friend like Glen. And fortunate that Rachel is in a position to help Glen help Tom.

    Sometimes I know there's a mouse in the house and Cat will sit in the kitchen staring at the stove when we go to bed and then it will seem like the mouse is gone but I have never found a body.

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    1. Perhaps Cat eats those mice. I would not be surprised.
      Yes. We are grateful for Rachel and although I am sure Tom would never admit it, I suppose he's grateful for Glen.

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  13. I think I’m falling a little in love with Keith Richard’s. Right now we’re melting in Segovia.

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    1. He could be your spirit totem animal too, you know. There's enough Keith to go around. His spirit is huge, even if his body is not.
      Please do not melt. Just don't.

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  14. Maurice is doing her job well. She's likely keeping the mice outside; except for the mice she gifts to you.
    Your fresh peas sound outstanding.
    I did for my Uncle what Glen is doing for Tom. It is lots of work. My Uncle stipulated with me and his attorney that he would never live anywhere outside of his own home I managed this process hiring 24 x 7 help as needed. Hospice (providing nurses and aids) and physical therapy at home works well. My uncle was of sound mind up to nearly the end.
    All my uncle's wishes were met, and he died (without pain) peacefully in his own home surrounded by family.

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    1. I wish Tom was in a position where in-home help would solve his problems but it won't. For one thing, his house is tiny. It is, in fact, a tiny house. For another, he would never tolerate another person living with him there. You did a fantastic job for your uncle and you should be very proud of yourself. I know it wasn't easy.

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  15. Keef, no pretense,- the photo of him in 1980 , oh LAWD!Thank you for the article, splendid and as we have always know- He gets the joke...of life...

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    1. It fascinates me how Keith's looks changed so dramatically in the early-mid eighties which is when he met, wooed, and married Patti Hansen. Of course the fact that he'd gotten off heroin had a lot to do with it but it's like he just burst into full manly bloom. But he's sort of a magical creature, isn't he?

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